depression

Miroslav

CCStar wrote:

I like it with apricot or strawberry jam

:wall: I aint never kissing you

Horasio

Sazbo wrote:

I'm sorry CC but this just sounds like bullying to me. And we think that when we leave the school playground, that the bullying stops. WRONG...

I think you are right

He can't take anything that he construes as wrong and blames me. He conceded to accept a little responsibility. Big flaming deal. It is so black and white, it is either my or his fault and he hates being wrong.

I think it is being with my mum that has lead me to this horrible relationship. She is horrible to me too. I have never felt taken care of, yet they say they think the world of me. I don't feel they do. They want to mess me about.

He thinks cuddling will resolve everything. He is cold, nasty and uncaring, then wonders why I don't want to cuddle. He sees the worst in everyone. It is so stressful being with him. I feel so worn down tonight. All I wanted was to cuddle and relax. He accuses me of causing trouble and says venomous things to me then wants to cuddle to solve it. He won't listen and he accuses me of being abusive because I say how I feel. How sick is that?

Sazbo

blinky wrote:

They win anyway.

It seems whenever things looking as though they might be going well - it all goes horribly wrong and I end up in a worse situation. Should I just cut my losses and give up....

Well I'm no one to talk about this, but if you go along with it, or quit, that's the way to ensure they definitely win, isn't it? They've made sympathetic noises to you, so now they must follow them up. Paul - ultimately it's not in their interests for you to either quit or collapse is it? These days employers have to be seen to be doing the right thing.

Miroslav

EthelBloggs wrote:

lol, I don't work there anymore so whatya gonna dock huh?? huh??

Dock? I said duck? Crispy duck?

I'll duck ya duck

Sazbo

CCStar wrote:

I think you are right

He can't take anything that he construes as wrong and blames me. He conceded to accept a little responsibility. Big flaming deal. It is so black and white, it is either my or his fault and he hates being wrong.

He thinks cuddling will resolve everything. He is cold, nasty and uncaring, then wonders why I don't want to cuddle. He sees the worst in everyone. It is so stressful being with him. I feel so worn down tonight. All I wanted was to cuddle and relax. He accuses me of causing trouble and says venomous things to me then wants to cuddle to solve it. He won't listen and he accuses me of being abusive because I say how I feel. How sick is that?

Maybe I have a hang-up about this, in fact, I know that i do, but this just sounds to me like he wants to be controlling you. He determines when it's right to cuddle, he's never in the wrong, etc. If couple counselling hasn't worked, maybe it's something you should pursue by yourself? Just my thoughts xx

EthelBloggs

Miroslav wrote:

Dock? I said duck? Crispy duck?

I'll duck ya duck

If I had a crispy duck... I wouldnt be throwing it!!! I'd be scoffing it!!!!!!!!!!!!

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

Horasio

I feel frozen, not cold but feel my mind has closed down. I feel f*cked and really upset. I did keep trying to sort it out but all I ever got was nastiness yet accused of being the nasty one. He wants me to break down so I cuddle him. I won't.

I can't relax. I know he won't bother me but hate going to bed feeling this way. He won't listen and see my point of view and I feel very frustrated and upset by his attitude.

Horasio

Sazbo wrote:

Maybe I have a hang-up about this, in fact, I know that i do, but this just sounds to me like he wants to be controlling you. He determines when it's right to cuddle, he's never in the wrong, etc. If couple counselling hasn't worked, maybe it's something you should pursue by yourself? Just my thoughts xx

I'm feeling a bit thick just now but how do u think he is controlling me. How do I stop it? I want us to be close and happy but he seems to see things that aren't there and accuse me of things that aren't true. I don't want to cuddle someone after they have been venomous, yet I am being painted as the bad guy.

Horasio

Miroslav wrote:

I have no idea what that means?

How many can I get?

I think you get to the top level of how many times you speak on here which has no stars.

Sazbo

CCStar wrote:

I feel frozen, not cold but feel my mind has closed down. I feel f*cked and really upset. I did keep trying to sort it out but all I ever got was nastiness yet accused of being the nasty one. He wants me to break down so I cuddle him. I won't.

I can't relax. I know he won't bother me but hate going to bed feeling this way. He won't listen and see my point of view and I feel very frustrated and upset by his attitude.

It just sounds like everything has to be on his terms all the time? When is it you-time, CCStar? Only you can determine when that time is, but sometime very soon you must foreground your own needs... :A