depression

Sazbo

Miroslav wrote:

Hah!

Been cancelled! Because she has some food shopping to do..........what a crap excuse :rolleyes:

Maybe she's a bit scared too hun? Someone just wanting to be nice to her is probably really daunting and she needs time to get used to the idea? Just my thoughts... x

Bunnie1982

Morning everyone *hugs*

Having a nice quiet day to myself today, the tablets I am now taking are a lot better for me and really help my anxiety.

Did a mystery shopping assignment yesterday for some extra christmas money and also went shopping with my mother in law.

Hubby has ordered my birthday presents and one has come today and I am dying to peek at what it is

Sazbo

Bunnie1982 wrote:

Morning everyone *hugs*

Having a nice quiet day to myself today, the tablets I am now taking are a lot better for me and really help my anxiety.

Did a mystery shopping assignment yesterday for some extra christmas money and also went shopping with my mother in law.

Hubby has ordered my birthday presents and one has come today and I am dying to peek at what it is

Hi Bunny. Glad to hear you're feeling better hun. And how exciting about your birthday presents - although I doubt I would have had your self control, I would have had it open by now

Bunnie1982

It's very tempting to open it especially as it is here in front of me.

Forgot to say I also treated myself to some new clothes yesterday, 2 new jumpers from Dorothy Perkins (not very money saving of me)

However I did manage to save £30 on hubbys Christmas present so I am please

Sazbo

Bunnie1982 wrote:

It's very tempting to open it especially as it is here in front of me.

You must stay strong Bunnie!

Bunnie1982 wrote:

Forgot to say I also treated myself to some new clothes yesterday, 2 new jumpers from Dorothy Perkins (not very money saving of me)

However I did manage to save £30 on hubbys Christmas present so I am please

- well, you treated yourself and saved money into the bargain, so I'd say that's a result!

Miroslav

Sazbo wrote:

Maybe she's a bit scared too hun? Someone just wanting to be nice to her is probably really daunting and she needs time to get used to the idea? Just my thoughts... x

Maybe. I'm annoyed though, cancelling me about 40 minutes before I left.........I was ready and everything, extra special effort and when she did call "Food shopping" not bad toe was the reason. Okay, I thought she may cancel, but she didn't know that I fully expected her too. I wish she'd stop fobbing me off with excuses, there are 2 of us in this friendship and I deserve respect and honesty.

I've posted my note and get well card under her door anyway, i'm sure that is totally wrong as well, I can't do no right with her it seems.

I even posted pictures of my cats that she wanted to see.

It was a nice note, a bit of joking, with a couple of serious points about the issues she has with me, just stating I was sorry and the reasons I did it, and the note included an invite for her to come here with me and flatmate on Sunday, as she keeps saying she wants too.

Maybe, I should close that invite now, or maybe I should calm down first.

I know she is struggling, but it makes no difference when she upsets me. I could accept her cancelling, but ringing me so close to the time, with a crap excuse and rushing off the phone quickly is not what I deserve.

You'll all think i'm being unreasonable, I know, but i'm really annoyed. We had a great last Thursday, now it seems i'm being punished for it :mad:

Sazbo

Miro hun you aren't being unreasonable. I think it's really frustrating when you have an idea of how things might be but you don't feel like you're moving towards it. I know this is easy for me to say but try not to let your annoyance take over - apart from anything else it's not good for you hun. Putting the card under the door was, I think, appropriate in the circumstances and perhaps as much as she can cope with right now? I do also think though, as others here have said, that you are still needing to be healed yourself and you should allow some time and space for that to happen. This is a lot for you to be dealing with at the moment Miro hun - give yourself a chance Sxx

Miroslav

Sazbo wrote:

Miro hun you aren't being unreasonable. I think it's really frustrating when you have an idea of how things might be but you don't feel like you're moving towards it. I know this is easy for me to say but try not to let your annoyance take over - apart from anything else it's not good for you hun. Putting the card under the door was, I think, appropriate in the circumstances and perhaps as much as she can cope with right now? I do also think though, as others here have said, that you are still needing to be healed yourself and you should allow some time and space for that to happen. This is a lot for you to be dealing with at the moment Miro hun - give yourself a chance Sxx

You're probably right. I just like her, but maybe i'm not meant to have friends. I thought 'S' was different. She told me lots of nice things, now she can't even have a proper conversation with me, like Sunday was my fault.

I think the 'relationship' is as good as over, sadly I'm making all the effort here. Maybe I should just tell her it's best we were out of each others lives, to save myself from upset.

Sazbo

Miroslav wrote:

You're probably right. I just like her, but maybe i'm not meant to have friends. I thought 'S' was different. She told me lots of nice things, now she can't even have a proper conversation with me, like Sunday was my fault.

I think the 'relationship' is as good as over, sadly I'm making all the effort here. Maybe I should just tell her it's best we were out of each others lives, to save myself from upset.

Miro you're just as entitled to have friends as everyone else, hun. But specifically regarding you and 'S' - a friendship in which both of you individually are hurting and needing to heal, I feel this is bound to make it that bit more challenging for both of you - and that's not the fault of either of you. So sorry you're hurting... I can only offer big ((((hugs)))) xxx

Well lovely people, I have to go to a work leaving do this evening (unfortunately). Not sure what time I'll be able to escape - I will try to post if I'm not home too late. Otherwise I'll catch yoos tomorrow.

Sorry I just need to have a really quick vent about my dentist: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: Ok that's better

Spk soon, much love, Saz xx

Miroslav

Sazbo wrote:

Miro you're just as entitled to have friends as everyone else, hun. But specifically regarding you and 'S' - a friendship in which both of you individually are hurting and needing to heal, I feel this is bound to make it that bit more challenging for both of you - and that's not the fault of either of you. So sorry you're hurting... I can only offer big ((((hugs)))) xxx

Well lovely people, I have to go to a work leaving do this evening (unfortunately). Not sure what time I'll be able to escape - I will try to post if I'm not home too late. Otherwise I'll catch yoos tomorrow.

Sorry I just need to have a really quick vent about my dentist: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: Ok that's better

Spk soon, much love, Saz xx

I've just been to bed for a couple of hours, really tired.

I now regret the note, and the card (although it's from both flatmate and I, I signed it on her behalf with her knowledge).

I'm guessing 'S' doesn't want to know me, and i'll have to deal with that, and if that really is the case, i'm gonna have to go away for a while, to see if I can get over this.

Sorry about your dentist

Take care, speak soon I hope.