depression

Horasio

rose07 wrote:

have you got rid of your old car then?
well look at it as a plus you have a car, does it go? if so thats all ya need.
but maybe i am just to eeasiii, i dont mind where i am, what im doing as long as the people i love and the things that matter are ok.

your neighbours do sound quite stressful, dont think i could stand that, i am a person that needs peace, needs a routine, need things just right, if one thing is out of place i can flip. and that includes noise if people are making noise and i concentrate on the things i need to, then my mood just flips into anger.

Have you spoke with the parents of the children?

i hope they have times when the shut up, and you are able to relax, remember today is sunday, so sit down, and try and chill out.

i hope things improve and just think in two weeks you will be able to get away from it.

much lovin
xxx

Hi Everyone

I am so tired this week, so apologies for not saying much. Hugs to anyone who needs it.

Between trying to get rest when the neigbhours shut up and working out which car to get or going to look at cars, I've not been posting, except to try and get advice about cars. Not got much joy on this forum and some people can be so direct.

We got our car back and in the process of getting it detaxed/deinsured and clearing it out for scrap. It is not worth getting repaired, costs more than the car is worth and the third time it's gone wrong in 4 months, so it's RIP car.:(

We thought we had found one yesterday (a Peugeot 307) but read some dodgy reviews. So don't know whether to cancel but again mixed reviews and if we would be able to change our mind without any loss.

The ruddy things are so expensive and I loathe the job of trying to get another car. You get the worst mostly male salesmen who don't treat you that well even though you are spending loads of money. Trying to keep from losing my cool with them is a job in itself, on top of not being able to relax at home due to the noisy kids.

We had to ring the parents on Saturday night, after 3 days and evenings of screaming kids and the building work by day since last week. Their attitude is 'it's not that bad' and it is half term - they don't care about us:mad: . I would like to do something really nasty to the parents, kids are kids, so don't blame them. Our neighbours are the most uncaring pr*cks I have ever had to live near. One was aggressive this summer after complaining about a midweek party, the others don't show any care. I don't want to get EH involved as we are wanting to sell in January and don't want a record of troubles.

Sundays and weekends are even worse for noise here. Thank heavens they are back at school this week and the weather will get worse. The summer has gone on too long this year. The cold weather should keep the b'stards inside and give me a break before we sell it and it starts up again in April (or when the nice weather is back).

Thank you for listening:)

Horasio

simone2697 wrote:

I posted near the begining of this thread and cant beleive how it has grown! WOW!!!
I Just wanted to ask a quick question really.
I went to my drs on Friday as i have been really bad lately!
He has decided that medicaton just doesnt work for me. I have been on and off meds for years and never found the 'right one'.
Anyway he has refered me for councilling. I mentioned that i was thinking of trying st johns wort but that it affects contraception. He couldnt offer me any ideas for alternatives.
He has, as one last try, put me on Mirtazapine. Has anyone used this? I am concerned about what side effects i may experience. Can anyone help?
Thanks.

Simone
xxx

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mirtazapine

I hope this helps

Horasio

Miroslav wrote:

Disaster.

Why I ever thought she'd even like me or care about me, I never know.

Really thought she'd be different. Just like every other human being.

Total opposite of Thursday...............cold as ice, didn't want me there.

That's my final chance gone.

I don't care anymore.

Has she actually said anything?

She could be having 'women's' problems which can make someone seem distant.

She could be testing you? Are YOU strong enough to deal with a person that is so damaged? As another poster said, she is likely to be unpredictable, can you handle it?

You can offer your friendship but she has to work out her issues too, you can't 'repair' her and sort yourself out. I feel you are putting too much of your self acceptance into this relationship. It is easily done and I am guilty of doing that too. You can only look after you, you can offer her help and support but it is her decision to accept. She needs to address her problems too, it takes two, and not all down to you.

I hope I don't sound too harsh, and take it in the spirit of help, rather than attack, I'm feeling a bit overstressed myself, which makes me very direct.

Horasio

Miroslav wrote:

I offered a shoulder, an ear and more........she didn't want any of it.

I think she's offended by the offer of help.

Just wanted 'S' to like me and care about me.........oh well

She might not be used to people who are nice. So probably not sure how to react.

You sound to be a likeable person. You deserve to have people who appreciate you. You sound to be very unlucky and mixed with uncaring people. It is their weakness, not yours. 'S' sounds very mixed up and you will have to take the rough with the smooth. Unless she directly tells you to back off, be there for her but you will have to be very patient and strong.

simone2697

CCStar wrote:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mirtazapine

I hope this helps

Thanks for that! Well i certainly hope it helps with weigh gain as it suggests.
I have lost over a stone in the last few weeks and was already "nuturally" underweight so am really conscious of it!

Horasio

simone2697 wrote:

Thanks for that! Well i certainly hope it helps with weigh gain as it suggests.
I have lost over a stone in the last few weeks and was already "nuturally" underweight so am really conscious of it!

Good, I was concerned about the weight gain but it sounds like the Doctor prescribed it because you are underweight. It sounds like it will make you sleepy and more relaxed.

Make sure you are MSE about what food you eat, as it increases the appetite:D

rose07

hello everone

i have had a really stressful, carp day today, think its that monday feeling.

so bare with me while i catch up.

xxx

rose07

avocadomummy wrote:

Hello everyone
I joined at the weekend - feeling so desperate - there's not one thing in my life I either like doing or look forward
to. The minute I wake up I can't wait to retreat into sleep again. I have children to look after (half term this week). I try not to cry in front of them but I can't believe that my life is as bleak as it is. I know I should be able to count some blessings - the children are all healthy and lovely and we have no real money worries (but are not as affluent as other people who live in my area)but it is the real, crushing sense of depression that makes it virtually impossible to function. I don't really do anything to make myself feel better -i feel such a tightness round the middle of my body - I can hardly eat or drink (i know its wrong not to do so)but food makes me feel terrible - i hate the way I have to either buy it or prepare it all the time and I am frightened to go into grocery stores. In fact I'm pretty frightened to go everywehere (but this is hidden so no body else knows it). Why can't I just p[ull myself together - I know it's impossible when suffereing from crushing depression, but this can't go on for me anymore. I have suffered for about 4 months in the last 6 years - when I am better life is good, but this time I really feel different and that there is no way I am going to recover. The GP has presribed masses of ADs - they haven't helped and my mind seems to be set that they won't. This is long and rambling but I just wanted to make conact with someone on this site while my children are sleeping/preoccupied. This is devastating to me - I really hadte myself so much and wish I could pull myself out of this black black pit that I am in

Hi avacadomummy

first off ((((((((BIG HUGs))))))))))
And i want you to know you are not alone in this, i have been where you are now, and i want you to know that things do get better if you let them.
You have your children, which i a positive thing.
I am going to go back to something tiff told me , baby steps hun. ok this may seem like a silly thing, but take each thing in baby steps, getting up, getting a shower, having something to eat, and if you manage that then treat yourself. or treat youself anyway, (i have skittles, lol, they are my thing)
tomorrow try and do things in baby steps, take it one thig at a time.
have you been back to your GP to talk to him about the ADs?

we are here if you need to offload at any time ok hun
much love
xxx

rose07

flis21 wrote:

Hi everyone. Just got back from the doctors. He is very pleased with my progress:j and doesn't need to see me for another 2 months, unless I get bad again. He has given me a gym referral (to help both my weight and my depression) which gives me 2 one hour sessions free with an instructor, then 20 sessions at half price, so it should see me up to Christmas.

A bit scared, I have booked the first gym session with an instructor for tomorrow at 1pm, so I will come on here after and let you know how I get on. It will be good to be doing something positive, both for my weight and my depression.

Am feeling quite good now, which is an unusual, but very pleasant feeling!

Hi Flis
wow, sounds like things went well after seeing your doctor, lol. i wish i had time to go to the gym.

im very glad it went ok, and yes do tell us how it all goes and whats going on and well your progress.

i am watching spooks whilst typing, and my baby keeps barking at me, poor babe think she wants to play but im shattered,

much love to you
xxx

flis21

rose07 wrote:

Hi Flis
wow, sounds like things went well after seeing your doctor, lol. i wish i had time to go to the gym.

im very glad it went ok, and yes do tell us how it all goes and whats going on and well your progress.

i am watching spooks whilst typing, and my baby keeps barking at me, poor babe think she wants to play but im shattered,

much love to you
xxx

Thanks Rose. I know the time thing is difficult. My doctor told me to get the benefit from it I need to exercise for at least half an hour every day!!! Luckily the gym is opposite where I work, so am planning to go in on a couple of my lunch breaks a week, should be able to get there, do half an hour and get back in time. Not sure what I will do the other days, maybe if the weather is nice I can go for a brisk walk, that is exercise if it is fast enough.