depression

rizla01

Hi To all of you.

Just spent an hour skipping through this forum and one thing comes out of it above all else.

There doesn't seem to be any 'Measure' of depression does there?

I.e. I know that I have 20/10 vision. Others have better and others have worse eyesight but depression is depression the world over - but alas, it isn't!

I believe this to be one of the factors affecting a lot of you/us. I have had many severe problems in my life. Had the anti-depressants and (FOR ME) Am glad to be rid of but DONT envy me that.

You may need them, whereas others just use them. A temporary measure only. Used to get you back to the norm so that you can return to work, start doing the things that you have lost confidence in doing and in general, get your life back together.

I feel that others among you will NEVER be independant of pills. You have a natural imbalance and not necessarily one brought on by bad experiences. Hereditory problems in all probablity.

Trouble is, if you tell yourself that it's hereditory then you may be convincing yourself that there is no cure and that may not be the case. On the other hand, youi might convince yourself that this is just a passing phase (Again!) and that you should try to come off medication.

I think that this is the main problem with depression.

Everyone get's depressed from time to time but this, too, is oft confused with the illness called Depression. For those people 'snap out of it' can work but it's no less than an insult to the real sufferers among us.

Learn how to handle it is the key and you all seem to be doing a fantastic job from what I read.

Truly I suffer/ed depression for 5 years or so but when I read some of the tales on this forum I count my blessings.

BTW. Nobody mentions dry mouth and taste problems when on anti-depressants tho.:) something I always suffered from. Perhaps you just get accustomed to it.

The very wise Ted Hutchinson touched on Excercise but few seem to have noted it's great benifits. I does work. Sign up to the gym for three months (Payment in advance so that you will be committed) and you will thrive enormously. Plus you will often meet others in the same boat.

I was on Seroxat incidentally.(20MG daily if I recall correctly).

Part of my probs was a marital breakup and since I met my partner I have been on a very healthy diet so perhaps that has helped too.

I still cant hold down a good job (Haven't tried actually - lack the confidence and cant handle the responsibility - least I don't think I could - sound familiar?:) )

Lastly, (Sorry to go on) I also beleive that the cause of a lot of our problems is too high expectations of ourselves and not loving ourselves enough.

we are led to believe that we can and should acheive great goals and that to have a flash car/house/job is the norm. Peddle back a little. To hell with it. drive an old banger. Sweep roads if neccessary and rent. No-one will think any worse of you. no-one that matters anyway.

I think society in general needs to let out some steam and take the pressure off. Whether it to be slim, attractive, rich or whatever. To hell with it...........YOU are still a lovely person. Know that!!

Chill!

mclaren_2

rizla01 wrote:

I feel that others among you will NEVER be independant of pills.

I think society in general needs to let out some steam and take the pressure off. Whether it to be slim, attractive, rich or whatever. To hell with it...........YOU are still a lovely person. Know that!!

Chill!

i am supposed to be on tabs but i have tried to stop and not take them cos i hate people thinking im not able to do anything. hasnt worked as much yet - cos ive been to the edge a couple of times.

as for society - im not slim, im not attractive and im not rich - im not a lovely person - if i was a lovely person, i wouldnt be cursed with auburn hair, wouldnt be as fat as i am and wouldnt be as ugly as the front of the porsche cayene. lol.

thats my opinion.

Mrs_A.

hi rizla and thanks for your post regarding this statement you said

I still cant hold down a good job (Haven't tried actually - lack the confidence and cant handle the responsibility - least I don't think I could - sound familiar? )

how on earth do you manage financially if you dont work dont get me wrong im not judging you i am just wondering as i feel work could play a big part in my depression
regards
a very nosy mrs a

Just_Looking_3

I get depressed occasionaly, when I do I find it helps if I don't come onto MSE. I always seem to focus on the subjects that makes one even more depressed and end up in a rather bad mood. At present I'm in a non-depressed state and can cope with everything.

Sugar_Coated_Owl

Just came back to look over this thread. How is everyone doing?

mclaren_2

razorbladekisses wrote:

Just came back to look over this thread. How is everyone doing?

im fine - just talking to a nice person on msn

PIGZ

astonsmummy wrote:

Thnx hun, you ave bought a tear to my eye
My mum knows how i feel but she's got alot of her own stuff t deal with i dont thing she can handle me anymore.
Thought i might feel better today - but then last night put stop to that, its pathetic rally, i've seen this bloke a few times and thought he actually liked me, most blokes i meet just want one thing. But no - he just wants to be friends, i'm destined to be single forever! - I know life isint about having a fella but i'm soooooooo lonely its untrue.
I just wanna be loved:o

Hiya astonsmummy, hope you are feeling better today, have you made it up with your mum yet?
Does your bloke just want to be friends for the time being and see what happens or is he a non-starter altogether?
I think we all need someone in our lives, someone who can just be there for us without judging us, to give us a cuddle when we're down and to laugh with us when we're up. Isn't there a saying somewhere that if you learn to love yourself then other people will love you too? Well in my opinion thats a load of balony, I think we all deserved to be loved no matter who or what we are and what we think of ourselves. And if this bloke can't do that for you then he's not worth having around anyway. Everyone's got a Mr or Mrs right out there somewhere and yours will turn up when you least expect it.
But looking on the bright side, at least you haven't got to pick up his dirty socks and put up with his snoring:) . All blokes want one thing but some are just better at making it less obvious than others! :rolleyes2.
Hows the terrible twos going with your DS? My youngest DS at 3 has got to the tantrum and ignoring stage, oldest at 10 has reached the I think I'm a teenager and can do what I want when I want stage and DD at 7 is in Israel at the mo having retail therapy with her nan. I'm sure I'll never get the hang of this motherhood lark.
Chin up hun you're not alone:A

mclaren_2

razorbladekisses wrote:

I've been on Paroxetine for nearly 2 weeks now. Tbh I've not felt any better by taking it. I mean I know that they aren't the happy pills that some people refer to them as but I did expect to feel a little better. Lately I've been getting awful headaches lasting a few days and also horrible dreams. I don't know if it's a side-effect of the medication, the depression itself or something completed unrelated.

I just can't be bothered with life. I just want to hide away and be left alone.

i know how you feel - i was on those tabs but they didnt work well with me - so doc gave me trazadone. seem to work a bit. headahces were one of the side efeects i had.

as for not being bothered with life - how i felt, still do sumtimes tbh - but i take each day as it comes, and i try to have somthing planned for the next day so i know what i can look forward to.

you aint alone though

DjSatansfury

I've just been put on Trazadone after fighting with depression and anxiety over the last year.

My advice to you with the tablet is:

a) Make sure you take them
b) Take them for at least one month
c) If they have any adverse effects see a doctor ASAP. When i was first diagnosed, i was put on Fluxotine (Prozac) and they made me x2 as worse, bringing me to the brink of suicide.

d) If you feel so-so, then leave for another 2 weeks - 1 month. If you dont feel like the meds are working, then consult your doctor about a change.

I right this in hindsight, and wish i'd knew this myself a year down the road. I've been taking Citalopram for nearly a year, and its had !!!!!! all effect. So dont do what i did, and just leave it!

rizla01

mclaren wrote:

i am supposed to be on tabs but i have tried to stop and not take them cos i hate people thinking im not able to do anything. hasnt worked as much yet - cos ive been to the edge a couple of times.

as for society - im not slim, im not attractive and im not rich - im not a lovely person - if i was a lovely person, i wouldnt be cursed with auburn hair, wouldnt be as fat as i am and wouldnt be as ugly as the front of the porsche cayene. lol.

thats my opinion.

Blimey Mclaren.



THAT bad?

Hi Mrs A.

I don't have the confidence to work for someone else therefore for the last ten years I have worked for myself.

No-one else to moan off, no- expectations and I don't have to put up with a***holes. Also I earn what I want and when I feel like it and if life has been a bit unkind then I take time out.

A luxury, I realise, but for me a necessity.