depression

astonsmummy

PIGZ wrote:

Hiya astonsmummy, hope you are feeling better today, have you made it up with your mum yet?
Does your bloke just want to be friends for the time being and see what happens or is he a non-starter altogether?
I think we all need someone in our lives, someone who can just be there for us without judging us, to give us a cuddle when we're down and to laugh with us when we're up. Isn't there a saying somewhere that if you learn to love yourself then other people will love you too? Well in my opinion thats a load of balony, I think we all deserved to be loved no matter who or what we are and what we think of ourselves. And if this bloke can't do that for you then he's not worth having around anyway. Everyone's got a Mr or Mrs right out there somewhere and yours will turn up when you least expect it.
But looking on the bright side, at least you haven't got to pick up his dirty socks and put up with his snoring:) . All blokes want one thing but some are just better at making it less obvious than others! :rolleyes2.
Hows the terrible twos going with your DS? My youngest DS at 3 has got to the tantrum and ignoring stage, oldest at 10 has reached the I think I'm a teenager and can do what I want when I want stage and DD at 7 is in Israel at the mo having retail therapy with her nan. I'm sure I'll never get the hang of this motherhood lark.
Chin up hun you're not alone:A

Heya PIGZ,
I'm a bit better today, been a bit tearful but nothing major.
I sorted things out with my mum yesterday, she's cool bless her.
I dunno what this bloke wants, probably just friends, every bloke i meet always says 'i'm not ready for a relationship' i think they r just embarrassed to be seen with me to be honest.
I have such pants luck with men! There is this bloke who i met last year, who quite frankly is starting to make me think i'm insane!
He text me last night (early hours) asking if i wanted to go to brighton for the day on tues, and he's really sorry for being a u know wat to me, basically he's done this about 4 times - then he never texts back.
The thing is he's not a nastyh person or a jack the lad - quite the opposite - very shy, he only seems to txt me when he's drunk and admitted its because he is shy, i should just tell him to pee off but i just cant, gosh i sound well desperate! :eek:
I think thats my problem, i'm too soft and let blokes take me for a ride.

Well it's my birthday on wednesday so i'm gonna try cheer myself up think i'll go to brighton with spud (DS). Although i have a strange feeling my mum has something planned.

I've just had a thought, every year around my bday i get like this - i'm not scared of getting older though

mclaren_2

rizla01 wrote:

Blimey Mclaren.



THAT bad?

yes lol

PIGZ

Hiya astonsmummy, glad you're feeling a bit better.
In my experience most blokes are never ready for a relationship, even the ones that are in one!!! and how can you say that they are embarrassed to be seen with you? Surely they're all scared off because they know that they are not good enough for you!!!!!
Try telling this bloke that you won't put up with this bull any longer and he's on his last warning, that should make him sit up and take notice and stop treating you like a doormat then let him take you to brighton for the day and let him pay, that should give you a nice day out and save money!
If he runs a mile, try taking on the attitude of 'I don't need a man in my life', all men love a challenge and if you stop looking they'll come chasing, then play them for a while, it might not lead to a long lasting relationship, but at least it will give you back some self confidence.
I'm the same with birthdays I'll be 31 this month and even though I don't worry about getting older what hits me is that another year has gone by and I haven't achieved anything in it. But I have promised myself that by the time i'm 40 I'll have had a tattoo and learnt to ride a motorbike, that should give me enough time to get over the fact that I'm petrified of pain blood and needles and that I've been driving a car for the last 13 years and I'm still rubbish on 4 wheels so heaven help everyone if I attempt it with only 2.
Whats Brighton like these days anyway I haven't been there since I was a kid and we lived in ashtead, surrey. Funny enough my OH looked at going there this weekend because we wanted to take the kids to a beach with a funfair but weren't sure if it had one so ended up in Barry Island today instead.

astonsmummy

Hiya piz,
Well i text him and had no reply so sod him! it's his loss!!
Thank you so much - your replys have really give me a kick up the bum - i havent had anyone to talk to, my best friend is in cyprus, coming back tommorrow though yay!
And i dont really have any other 'good' friends that i feel i can confide in as most of them are younger and havent got kids or been through much. Or i havent known them long - i know i could say the same about posting on here as i dont know anyone but it just seems easier - especially when you read other people pouring their hearts out, i honestly thought i was the onlyh one who felt so down!
I've got the tattoo's but u'd never catch me on a motor bike - u wouldnt even catch me on a push bike! havent got a clue!
The main goal in my life is to become a midwife - but at the moment, as my mum keeps telling me i need to concentrate on sorting myself out.
Thnx for taking the time to reply xx
To be honest, i havent been to brighton sea front since i was about 16! And i only live 20 mins away! i know it has a pebble beach and funfair thought (ell it did last time i looked!) Definately gonna go this week!
Thnx again xx

rose07

hi all

just checking in on the thread to see how you all are?

and sending lots a love and hugs to all that are having very bad days today.

PIGZ

Hiya astonsmummy
Good on you for kicking him into touch, you're worth more than that!!!
Glad I could help and if you ever need someone to talk I'm always around.
Have a great time in brighton and have a great birthday.
Loves and hugs to you XXX

urban_spirit

Good evening everyone, how are you feeling??? Just to let you know someone is thinking of you, and sending you hugs.


Hi Rizla01, how are you?

rizla01 wrote:

we are led to believe that we can and should acheive great goals and that to have a flash car/house/job is the norm. Peddle back a little. To hell with it. drive an old banger. Sweep roads if neccessary and rent. No-one will think any worse of you. no-one that matters anyway.

I think society in general needs to let out some steam and take the pressure off. Whether it to be slim, attractive, rich or whatever. To hell with it...........YOU are still a lovely person. Know that!!

Chill!

For me, I dont buy in to what society tells me I should be/have/want/think, I am a free-thinker and I please myself.
I am very chilled but that doesnt stop things in my brain making me feel the way I do. Not conforming to what 'the norm' is makes me happy (relatively speaking)!:)
I read somewhere that depression is supposed to be suppressed aggression - ????

(ironically i'm not a happy bunny tonight)

Chrismojam

Only just came across this post (was looking for something else but this is far more important).......

Just wanted to send big hugs to everyone....I do hope you are feeling better/or whatever you are doing to tackle depression is working...........

I took Seroxat from about June/July 2001 to the December of that year.....

Bear in mind.....I hate taking meds for anything (especially Psych problems).....before anyone gets annoyed there is a reason for this.....my mum is bi-polar (manic depressive) and has been since before I was born (about 1970)....she has to take meds now...because they are given to her...but she still thinks there's nothing wrong with her and she doesn't need them...and with the deviousness that is mental illness..if she can work her way out of taking them she will.....

Now I generally don't like taking meds anyway...of any kind..........with psych meds I suppose I kind of thought if I take them I'm giving in....I'm obviously of the stiff upper lip type...no matter what the costs!

Well I didn't get any kind of help for years.....put myself down for counselling a couple of times......but of course by the time it's 'your turn' you feel ok..........and cancel.......only took meds after I broke down in work.........work/mum/crappy life stress all came to a head in the boss's office:o admittedly this was after I had got into a right nark and stormed out of the bosses office (that was work related...I wanted 2 days off...........woopeydoo! because I had been doing the work of 3 people and was absolutely knackered...and she wouldn't let me) (she did me a favour actually.........I applied for another job while I was off the following week ...took a weeks annual leave...still wouldn't take sick!.....as I was thinking of jacking it in anyway, nothing to lose.........got the job......that's another story..)

Anyway I thought enough was enough.....swallow your pride and get help.....

I personally found the meds did'nt help.....I am sure they have helped others but they din't help me.........probably due to not REALLY wanting to take them anyway.........

I found when I tried to cut down I became seriously jittery and out of sorts.....just didn't feel right (tried this from about the October....)....however, I had my mum stay with me for the Christmas.....I was seriously stressed by this and by the time she had gone home, I realised that I hadn't taken the meds for 2/3 weeks and hadn't felt the jittery feelings.....obviously felty !!!! because I was stressed about everything else...but I was off the meds...and I decided not to go back on them...

They work for some.......not for others...........never feel embarrassed if you are taking them.......or if you feel you are at the end of your tether..they may work for you.......give them a go if you feel that's your only option....

Me... I am yet to feel what it is to 'feel alive'...those with depression will know what I mean by that....it will happen one day.......but meds for me is not the way.......just have to figure out what is...:rolleyes:

PIGZ

Hiya all, hope everyone is feeling ok today.

Hiya astonsmummy, HAPPY BIRTHDAY, did you have a good day? Hope the last few days have been brighter for you.

astonsmummy

Hiya pigz,
Thank you, yeah i've had nice day.
Feeling alot better!! Hope ur ok xx