A Payment a Day -Part Seven!

angelicmary85

Paulgonnabedebtfree wrote: »

Not yet. I want to do quite a bit of experimenting with it. I'm busy with a lot of other stuff at the moment (de-cluttering, end of year business records etc.) so the halogen oven is a fair way down my priority list. Will let you know how it goes when I get round to it. I don't expect it to happen in January.

That's o.k I'm not trying to push you into using it! My oven doesn't work properly and I don't want to buy another cooker just for an oven so even if I have to spend £80 on a halogen oven, it's better than spending a couple of hundred on a new cooker. One of my New's Years Resolutions was to not be such a tight-a$$ but I can't seem to help myself :rotfl:

jediteacher

Sorry guys to unload but feeling really down today as last night I miscarried for the second time in 6 months. Been to doctors and they say it's just one of those things and as it's my second not third then I will have to wait and see what happens if I get pregnant again. I know I have one healthy little girl and this is a blessing but at the moment it doesn't dull the pain.

Sorry to unburden here but you guys feel like a family and also only my husband knew I was pregnant and I don't want anyone else to know.

euronorris

Hi Jedi

Big hugs for you :grouphug:

I understand the pain of miscarriage all too well, so I know that right now must be very difficult for you.

I completely understand why you didn't want anyone else to know either. There's always those first 12 weeks to get over and best not to say anything before then, as otherwise you have to explain to everyone when all you wanna do is curl up and cry in your hubby's arms.

Mine was caused by my blood. Rhesus D negative (like my mother), so my body didn't recognise the baby and so it it never really stood a chance Fortunately, a small injection prevents this. I just wanted to show you that, even if there is a problem, it's not always a huge issue. And most likely, everything is fine and you'll deliver a healthy, happy baby in the near future. (But, I also know you probably don't feel that way right now. Again, hugs!)

And also, you know, my Mum suffered two miscarriages but when on to have 5 kids (crazy woman).

Try to keep smiling and if you can't, find some tea and chocolate xxxxxxx

PS. Have you looked at support groups/forums where you can speak to others who are experiencing the same. You may not feel like it right now, but it can be a great help.

mswan

jediteacher wrote: »

Sorry guys to unload but feeling really down today as last night I miscarried for the second time in 6 months. Been to doctors and they say it's just one of those things and as it's my second not third then I will have to wait and see what happens if I get pregnant again. I know I have one healthy little girl and this is a blessing but at the moment it doesn't dull the pain.

Sorry to unburden here but you guys feel like a family and also only my husband knew I was pregnant and I don't want anyone else to know.

Big hugs to you, I wish there was something I could say to make it all ok but I hope the hug and positive thoughts help you

jediteacher

euronorris wrote: »

Hi Jedi

Big hugs for you :grouphug:

I understand the pain of miscarriage all too well, so I know that right now must be very difficult for you.

I completely understand why you didn't want anyone else to know either. There's always those first 12 weeks to get over and best not to say anything before then, as otherwise you have to explain to everyone when all you wanna do is curl up and cry in your hubby's arms.

Mine was caused by my blood. Rhesus D negative (like my mother), so my body didn't recognise the baby and so it it never really stood a chance Fortunately, a small injection prevents this. I just wanted to show you that, even if there is a problem, it's not always a huge issue. And most likely, everything is fine and you'll deliver a healthy, happy baby in the near future. (But, I also know you probably don't feel that way right now. Again, hugs!)

And also, you know, my Mum suffered two miscarriages but when on to have 5 kids (crazy woman).

Try to keep smiling and if you can't, find some tea and chocolate xxxxxxx

PS. Have you looked at support groups/forums where you can speak to others who are experiencing the same. You may not feel like it right now, but it can be a great help.

Thank you for your kind words. I too am Rhesus D negative but the doctor said that this should not have caused the miscarriage. However, I am going to hospital tomorrow and will push to get the injection. I did have it after having my daughter.

euronorris

jediteacher wrote: »

Thank you for your kind words. I too am Rhesus D negative but the doctor said that this should not have caused the miscarriage. However, I am going to hospital tomorrow and will push to get the injection. I did have it after having my daughter.

I would push for the injection in that case.

At the time, I was told that this was the cause and that, to prevent it happening again, I would need an injection before each pregnancy. But, this was 10 years ago, so things may have changed (so young, unfortunately, being so young didn't make it any easier to deal with).

Does the NHS site have any info about it? At least that way, you can back up your request with medical info provided by the NHS and they will then be less likely to say no.

Ah, I just wanna give you a big hug in real life! HUGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG (this is the best I can do right now, I'm afraid). xx

Paulgonnabedebtfree

angelicmary85 wrote: »

That's o.k I'm not trying to push you into using it! My oven doesn't work properly and I don't want to buy another cooker just for an oven so even if I have to spend £80 on a halogen oven, it's better than spending a couple of hundred on a new cooker. One of my New's Years Resolutions was to not be such a tight-a$$ but I can't seem to help myself :rotfl:

Maybe have a read here for some comments from people who are using theirs

http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=978783

euronorris

I found this site which offers quite a lot of info, which I think you will find useful: http://www.babycentre.co.uk/pregnancy/complications/whatisrhesusstatus/

But, only read it if you feel up to it.

Paulgonnabedebtfree

jediteacher wrote: »

Sorry guys to unload but feeling really down today as last night I miscarried for the second time in 6 months. Been to doctors and they say it's just one of those things and as it's my second not third then I will have to wait and see what happens if I get pregnant again. I know I have one healthy little girl and this is a blessing but at the moment it doesn't dull the pain.

Sorry to unburden here but you guys feel like a family and also only my husband knew I was pregnant and I don't want anyone else to know.

Sorry to hear this. As a male, perhaps my empathy is at a different level to some people's but big hugs to you.
My only family experience with miscarriage was when I was very young and my mother miscarried after slipping over in the snow. It's just a vague, very early memory and obviously I had no understanding of what had happened until some years later. I ended up with a little sister some time later though, so at least it didn't affect her ability to have another child.
I wish you well in your efforts to enlarge your family..

jediteacher

euronorris wrote: »

I found this site which offers quite a lot of info, which I think you will find useful: http://www.babycentre.co.uk/pregnancy/complications/whatisrhesusstatus/

But, only read it if you feel up to it.

Thank you. You've been wonderfully kind.

I am a very practical person and impatient! In most ways I just want this stage to be over so that I can move on and try again. I know people deal with grief in different ways and this is the way that I am.

It is comforting to hear from others who have been where I am now.

So, thank you again.