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Seasidegal58

Yes - :eek:!


Here's to the lucky bird poo!

WannabeFree

Ouch! That's a painful repair bill!

Hope you're okay and thank you for all your help.

x

crazy_cat_lady

Hi EE

I've been awol for a while - just caught up. Wow - what a time you've had recently. So sorry to hear about the dog, and I have everything crossed for better news once you're back at the vets.
And I hope that bird poo brings you masses of luck.

Eager_Elephant

So quick update....

2nd check on biopsy has confirmed that original diagnosis is correct and our already limited options are even more limited as CT scan shows our poor dog has arthritis and hip dysplasia so any operations are mainly ruled out.

I am in the camp of leaving things, she is not in pain, enjoys her walks still, isnt limping etc. OH thinks she should have an op but when I told him that he would have to pay for it and also have time of work to care for her and look after her he suddenly wasnt keen on the idea.

Bill has come in and is about what we were quoted so need to get that paid this weekend.

Bill for car arrived today and it is £3 higher than quoted - I'm not one to quibble!!

In other news and to prove that CCL and I live the same lives...............
I am divorcing my husband!!!!!:T:j

Most people know the back story going back to the start of our marriage, and for the last 6 years or so I had made the decision to continue in the marriage until my DD turned 18. Things have been going ok apart from his spending etc and then of course before Xmas I mentioned divorce just because I had reached the end and then of course relative died.
I thought maybe I could hang on again until DD was 18 (3 more years) but on Sunday things changed, for some reason I decided to look at his phone - I havent checked his phone for years, I have never trusted him but just couldnt be bothered to keep looking and while he has been an ok husband things have ticked along.
On his front screen was a message from a girl, I dont know how he knows her and the parts I could see were innocent but it raised my suspicions so I unlocked his phone and checked his messages. Alas he was up to his old tricks although having scrolled back it looks like they have chatted for a long time about mundane stuff and there was no flirting or anything and then on Saturday he had sent her a message to ask her on a date :mad::eek::mad:- I dont know if she knows he is married or what but she didnt respond and the conversation continued as friends.

Just seeing that sentence in a message to another female has tipped me over the edge and on Sunday night I told him what I had found and told him I wanted him to leave by end of the May, he tried to deny it and then said he wouldnt leave until I started divorce proceedings so I am ...........

I'm finding it all quite amusing, he now realises i am serious as the solicitor asked me to speak to him before I see her tomorrow to ask if he really will contest it as that will affect the advice she gives and also will increase the cost so I have spoken to him and he believes that I am doing this on a whim.
I told him straight that I have been planning to divorce him for years and I have finally had enough, having never forgiven or forgotten any of the past now is the time for me to move on before I am too old.

He started his usual, without you I have no body blah blah blah - I told him to accept that he had no one else to blame but himself and that he needed to accept our marriage is over and let me go without a fight because if he doesnt fight me we could still be friends.
He was about to threaten to end his life but I told him that only he could make that decision and I would not be party to it nor take responsibility for him.

I have told a few people including my bestie who is really pleased for me as she has been through it all with me and although she knew one day I would make this decision she did not realise it would be now.

I have not told DD yet but we will need to soon as she will need to decide who she lives with, I am quite happy for her to live with him if that is what she wants and he is stable.
DS is back at Uni but has exams all month so I dont want anything to affect this so I doubt it will be announced until at least the end of the month.

Currently I am sleeping in DS' bed but I am hoping he will leave this month - this is my tenancy in my sole name so I feel I should be the one to stay here.

So lets see how all this pans out.....

please-let-me-be-lucky

Good for you EE. You deserve so much better Xx

beanielou

I cant say I am surprised.
You must do what is right for you.
SEnding you lots of positive vibes & I hope all goes well for you.
Take care of you.

HairyHandofDartmoor

I'm sorry to hear your news but I know you've been unhappy in your marriage for years. You know what is best for you. Take your solicitor's advice and don't give in to emotional blackmail from DH. Good luck with it all.

crazy_cat_lady

:eek::eek::eek:
I actually had to read your post 3 times for it to sink in, and even though I am here and you are there I can't help but wonder if we are the same person sometimes. When I was writing my diary this morning, I was thinking about you and what a saint you are for putting up with your husband in spite of everything.
Congratulations to you. And if the tenancy is in your name then do what I did and get the locks changed the next time he is out. Best £75 I spent having peace of mind and knowing I didn't have to have him back in the house and he couldn't just let himself in.
Good luck, and remember where we all are. I was euphoric for a couple of days, then I crashed into despair, and now I feel ready to move on again.

Sun_Addict

I bet you're so relieved to finally make the decision after that final straw. The only way is up now EE xx

badmemory

You may well find that your DCs have been "waiting for the other shoe to drop" for some years. The main thing is that they still have 2 parents which they are old enough to ensure that they do. The hardest thing seems to be when one parent appears to disappear off the face of the earth. So if you can kick the OH up the backside enough to make sure he doesn't become one of "them" then all should be ok.

Ditto to HHODs advice not to give in to emotional blackmail. Tell HIM to explain to his children why he won't co-operate & don't let him make you the "bad guy".