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Sun_Addict

So sorry to read your sad news. Big hugs from me xx

Eager_Elephant

Thanks everyone for your kind comments.

DH is really struggling and text me at work, luckily it wasn't too far off home time so I left work and went straight home to see him and then he came with me to collect DD.
I think it is the suddenness that is causing the issues for DH and he cant quite get his head round it all.

I know that relative appreciated everything we did for him, he lived with us for 3 years to get away from his sons and even when he moved into his own little flat we still visited weekly and he would come on day trips with us. He often told me how thankful he was for everything we did.

I assume that his estranged son's are currently kicking off about it all but luckily none of them have rung us but no doubt once the funeral arrangements have been made it will be all about them and how hard done by they are and how DH and I are the cause of all this etc etc etc

Seasidegal58

I’m sorry that OH is in such a bad state and I do hope he finds some closure in due course.

Relative’s sons sound like a nightmare. A positive thing to look forward to is that after the funeral you won’t have to have any contact with them ever again.

doingitanyway

You must all be very sad, but as a family you gave him love and support and that is so precious. Take care.

sashybo

Sorry to hear that EE, I’m glad your relative let you know how much he appreciated all your help. You can be proud of that & know that you helped him to be happy.

Hope his sons aren’t too much of a pain in the butt, they sound like a nightmare so hope you don’t have to deal with them too much.

mummytogirls

So sorry to hear about DH's step Dad EE, so sad xx

Eager_Elephant

Thanks for your comments.

DH is feeling slightly better, we are both doers and not being able to do anything has been hard. Case had to go to Coroner so we couldn't collect the medical death certificate or register the death so we have been in limbo but everything is coming together now and we have been to the Undertakers and started to organise the funeral and have collected the medical death certificate and have an appointment to register the death on Tuesday.

DH even said he felt better that we were starting to get things organised.
DH is also much better physically and plans to return to work on Monday, whether he will drive or not is another matter.

DH has had contact from the most aggressive son and he has been strangely nice about things and told my DH that he wont cause trouble at the funeral - none of the son's have demanded to organise the funeral which is good so we can just get on with it. They don't work and I don't think they know about insurance policies so they wont risk organising it without paying for it and they will know we will pay if there isn't any money (like with DH's mum, we ended up paying for the headstone as not enough money but we were fine with that)

Today we are going to F-I-L's flat and will start to sort a few things as flat is rented and will need to be handed back at some point.

Seasidegal58

Glad to hear DH is feeling better in both mind and body EE and things can now move on with the funeral. It must be a relief that the sons aren’t playing up and FIL can have a dignified funeral.

Hope the flat sorting goes as best as it can in the circumstances. . It can be painful as I know from experience.

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Sun_Addict

I think it tells you something when the step son is organising everything and the other sons are doing sweet FA. Hope everything remains calm xx

crazy_cat_lady

So sorry for your loss EE. I hope it's sorted out soon and you're not left in this limbo of organisation for goodness knows how long.