Sallyx's Sink or Swim, Swimerdy Swim Diary ;)

sammy115

*looks longingly at the abs on that*

Decided to pop on here at stupid o clock....woke up with stomach ache...think i have the same problem as suzysu now due to co codomol so will be trying the aloe vera colon cleanse tonight ta for the tip.

Now I have forgotten what I wanted to say, must have got distracted by the tree fellers...

I book Johns accommodation through booking.com and find that the prices here are more often than not cheaper than b&b's for some reason....but I only book him in for four/five nights a week. If he had a six month contract I would probably get him a house share. And yes they usually do ask you to pay 6 months up front, especially in this economy. Some companies do help their staff with this, paying the rent for them and then deducting from salary but I know my OH would never dream of asking someone to do this, and I am guessing that your OH wouldn't either.

I think you might have to harden your heart cos girls can be bloody nasty during school. Natalie had a few fall outs with 'best friends' in particular one time when she was supposed to be going on a trip to france and no one was speaking to her. I sobbed when I dropped her off - five mins down the motorway she phoned to say they had all made up!!!

And I just have to share this story...one girl in particular made her life a misery...she used to bully her by phone..unknown to Nats I rang this girl one day (saved her number in my phone as 'idiot') she gave back as good as she got but she didn't bother with Nats after that. In fact fast forward a couple of years and they became friends....but one day she saw my phone ring with her number and up flashed 'idiot'...fortunately she laughed. Natalie is now going to be her birthing partner in a few months..

sorry rambling now...but girls can be nasty pasties.......

sallyx

Love the piccies Wol...do you breed piggies? Im thinking about getting one for B, well that or a lovely mini dwarf lop bunny.

Sammy I know that girls are horrible...I think they are more my issues than hers to be honest. I never really had a best friend at school and always seemed to be the one left out and I really don't want B to have that.

Anyway she is fine, Its friday and my mum is coming over today and staying tonight B will be really excited to see her and hopefully will take her mind off Daddy. Actually question, if she doesn't want to speak to him on the phone, should I make her or just let it go? Last night she was colouring away and I made her and then we had the tears...felt bad, maybe for her too its easier not to speak to him.

right off to do scratches and check bank

hypno06

Don't force anything - she will find her own level over time......just remember to say to OH that it is not "personal" as far as B is concerned, she is just busy, or tired, or whatever, so will no doubt speak to him later/tomorrow etc.

I think the fact that she wanted to carry on colouring just proves that she is actually quite settled. Try not to unsettle her by making a big thing about "talking to daddy".

Enjoy your evening x

sammy115

I agree with Hypno Sally, if she doesn't want to don't force the issue, it really isn't personal. Chloe is very often doing colouring or something when OH phones and she doesn't want to talk to him. You could tell her that if she ever wants to phone daddy just to let you know so that she doesn't get the impression that the communication always has to be instigated by him. (You may already have done this but it is just a thought)

sallyx

Thanks Girls...just as I thought, I know OH will take it personally but im not upsetting her just for the sake of it!

redsquirrel80

sallyx wrote: »

Thanks Girls...just as I thought, I know OH will take it personally but im not upsetting her just for the sake of it!

I agree it's better not to make it a big deal - he should understand that, but if not he'll just have to live with it!

Nice piggie Wol.. I got one when I was about 12 and my mum and dad still keep them now, they are fab

Hope you've got some nice plans for the weekend Sal

System

Hi Sall, just popping on to say Hi :wave: Sorry to hear about your split and the heartache its causing, hope things start to smooth out for you all soon x

Shoe_Gal

Hi Sally

Just caught up! Hope you have a good weekend, and have something nice planned

sallyx

Have had a lovely day so far..Mum is here until tomorrow and then I think B and I will do something nice on Sunday, might take her to the cinema if its raining or swimming. Might also venture shopping for some undies

Strangly Ive had another payment from CTC, I know they have just processed my new claim as a single person so maybe this is the first payment £512 though :eek: so have stuck it in the savings account just in case!

Had the first real incident of missing Daddy today when B went up to her room when she got home from school. I called her and she shouted im not in the mood...went up to see if she was ok and she was led on her bed sobbing that she wanted Daddy Felt really sad for her, but she is fine now and will be trying to distract her as much as possible this weekend

BILLIE

Sally - my boys went through that stage and also the "it's all your fault" stage and that really is like a knife in the heart. The hurting themselves and then saying "we want daddy to make it better". Even though he never was even when we were together!! You have come a long way, but there will be times when you think you have gotten over it and something else is said. Be strong you are doing great. Billie xx