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Sallyx's Sink or Swim, Swimerdy Swim Diary ;)

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  • Shoe_Gal
    Shoe_Gal Posts: 7,235 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture Combo Breaker
    Sounds like he's in denial - hoping you will change your mind :mad:

    Excuse me being nosey :o but have you been in this situation before and forgiven him/let him come back?
    Sometimes it's hard to walk in a single woman's shoes - that's why we need really special ones!
    Total debt @ Oct 2008: £29,226.42 Credit Card- £[STRIKE]7493.56[/STRIKE] - £7243.56
    Weightloss : 0/34lbs
  • sallyx
    sallyx Posts: 15,815 Forumite
    Yep SG....Last time was just before B's first birthday, he said he wasn't in love with me anymore and wanted to leave, was looking for a place to live and then after about 4 months he said he wanted to try and make things work....things have never been the same again and hense we are here again. This time however I have already moved on, want him to go and am not going back to this carp again.

    Whenever things are tough and I need to seriously rely on him, he just can't cope with it and seeks solice with someone else!

    No more of this carp situation I shall be happy and free from it all :)
    I'll make a wish, take a chance, make a change And breakaway. I'll take a risk, take a chance, make a change and breakaway ....
    Finally Debt Free...
  • Gemmzie
    Gemmzie Posts: 14,876 Forumite
    I really think you should consider changing the locks once he goes tomorrow Sal, sounds like otherwise he could come back whenever
    No longer using this account for new posts from 2013
  • Shoe_Gal
    Shoe_Gal Posts: 7,235 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture Combo Breaker
    Sounds like it is all clear in your head, but not so clear in his :mad:

    I am sure you are doing the right thing, but I understand that it will not be easy not to give in to his almost inevitible request to come back! Especially as you have a child
    Sometimes it's hard to walk in a single woman's shoes - that's why we need really special ones!
    Total debt @ Oct 2008: £29,226.42 Credit Card- £[STRIKE]7493.56[/STRIKE] - £7243.56
    Weightloss : 0/34lbs
  • sallyx
    sallyx Posts: 15,815 Forumite
    I can't change the locks Gem its a rented house. Im not worried about him coming back and spending time with B here if he has to, he just needs to understand that this is MY house now and its time for him to move on!
    I'll make a wish, take a chance, make a change And breakaway. I'll take a risk, take a chance, make a change and breakaway ....
    Finally Debt Free...
  • Verbatim
    Verbatim Posts: 4,831 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 1,000 Posts
    sallyx wrote: »
    I can't change the locks Gem its a rented house. Im not worried about him coming back and spending time with B here if he has to, he just needs to understand that this is MY house now and its time for him to move on!

    Ihen perhaps it needs to be made explicitly, crystal clear. At the moment it doesn't sound as if you have stated this. He could leave today thinking that he has options unless you tell him in plain English that your relationship is over.
    CCs @0% £24k Dec 05 £19,621.41 Au £13400 S 12600 Oct £11,981 £9481 £7500 Nov £7250 D £7100 Jan 6950 F £5800 Mar£5400 May £4830 June £4660 July £4460 Aug £3200, S £900, £0 18/9/07 DFW Nerd 042
  • tigzem
    tigzem Posts: 2,361 Forumite
    Thinking of you today xxx
    "Nobody made a greater mistake than he who did nothing because he could only do a little." Edmund Burke
  • Shoe_Gal
    Shoe_Gal Posts: 7,235 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture Combo Breaker
    Hope you get through today Ok - thinking of you :A. You always 'sound' such a stong person and I know you will cope with whatever is thrown at you :)
    Sometimes it's hard to walk in a single woman's shoes - that's why we need really special ones!
    Total debt @ Oct 2008: £29,226.42 Credit Card- £[STRIKE]7493.56[/STRIKE] - £7243.56
    Weightloss : 0/34lbs
  • spud30
    spud30 Posts: 16,872 Forumite
    Thinking of you Sal. Hope you and B are OK hun :kisses3:
    Is it better to aim for the stars and hit a tree or aim for a tree and land in its branches :think:
    Loves being a Wonderbra friend :kisses3:
  • LouiseJ
    LouiseJ Posts: 11,156 Forumite
    Also thinking of you today my friend xxx
    But these things take time, I know that I'm, the most inept that ever stepped.
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