homemade presents and ungrateful family!!

vikki_louise

Thats really awful, even if you had given a box of tissues its plain rude to ring and say that let alone something which so much time and love went into. Could you use it as a reason to say lets not exchange gifts in the future? Or lets just stick to birthdays (not that I would want to spend a penny or minutes time of them)?. I know how gutted I've been when ive put a lot of time and energy into a home made gift for my grandmother who says its nice then just burries it in her house never to be seen or used again but at least she doesn't ring like that!

lolly1981

he didnt actually ring us..we rang him to thank him for our kids presents...but i actually think that makes it worse as OH sat there saying how much the kids liked theirs and thanks etc.then his brother started on the we didnt appreciate ours lol.

it is disheartening when you spend time on something making it...i made my niece my (bros daughter) a dress once took ages she loved it and it felt really good that id taken that time out...but this time i felt like whyd i bother. and we even made food so it was something that was usuable lol...id like to think i didnt just make some crap ...of course not implying for a second that the stuff your grandma hid was crap...im going to be very weary of making anyone anything in future jsut incase lol.
saying that i gave my aunt a hamper too and the first thing she said...ohh lovely someone has been busy!

emmell

Where do people get these relatives from, my family are quite the opposite, the phone rings like mad on Christmas morning everybody thanking everyone for the gifts (and meaning it too). I had one home made gift this year (kind of) a large clip frame with photos of the Pink concert I attended earlier in the year (the ticket was bought for me last christmas by my cousin who has made the clip art for me this year) I absolutely love it just as much as my other presents.
I can't stand selfish ungrateful people.
ML.

Zazen999

Cripes!
My Bro got a 25kg bag of Desiree, a jar of home made chilli jam and a kilner jar of home grown mixed beans from us. I got a bottle of their plum wine and my OH got some beer. Everyone is happy!!! Esp me!

jamtart6

ring them lolly and tell them you dont want to exchange gifts any more! i would not be putting up with this the ungrateful sods!

pookienoodle

what a horrible thing for your BIL to say.
what values is he teaching his kids?
If people cannot understand the love that goes into homemade gifts then there is something very wrong with them.
next year get him one of those oxfam gifts,maybe the safe water for 10 people one.
along with a little note saying the real gift you are giving them is the gift of knowing when to be grateful for what you have got.

chrisb1357

Another idea. Tell them that the 3 wise men never gave toys

Chris

Jami74

Thats terrible!

Not quite as bad but our gifts weren't really acknowledged. I told all the adults that we only want to do gifts for the children but got a lecture from my parents about how they want to give their children (me) presents and how my brother is really into Christmas and makes sure that everyone gets a present (which he rushes out to buy on Xmas eve with borrowed money). The kids and I decided to make a cracker for everyone, dd decorated them and chose the jokes and between us we thought of little personal gifts to put inside (including scratch cards of which two were winners). I had this idea that they would open them with the rest of their presents in the morning before we arrived and would enjoy the novelty and effort. As it was when we popped in at lunch time to thank them for our presents dd asked them if they liked the crackers at which they hurriedly pulled them and left them on the table with all the other cracker debris. I'm not sure what saddens me more, the fact that they didn't realise the thought that went into them or that they probably just assumed we were too tight to get them a present. So next year they'll all get a toiletry set which they'll bin by the end of January.

SUESMITH_2

he sounds horrible, he will have more money to spend if from reading what you have said he only has the kids at weekends.

one of my family this year has been horrible and made it known that any gifts from our side of the family would go in the bin unopened (and yes, she would do it, it wasnt an idle threat), our local homeless charity was appealing for presents so i bought for them instead and popped a note in her mums christmas card to say what i had done - the charity were delighted with the gifts and i was pleased that i had done a bit of good.

mum2one

lolly1981 wrote: »

he didnt actually ring us..we rang him to thank him for our kids presents...but i actually think that makes it worse as OH sat there saying how much the kids liked theirs and thanks etc.then his brother started on the we didnt appreciate ours lol.

it is disheartening when you spend time on something making it...i made my niece my (bros daughter) a dress once took ages she loved it and it felt really good that id taken that time out...but this time i felt like whyd i bother. and we even made food so it was something that was usuable lol...id like to think i didnt just make some crap ...of course not implying for a second that the stuff your grandma hid was crap...im going to be very weary of making anyone anything in future jsut incase lol.
saying that i gave my aunt a hamper too and the first thing she said...ohh lovely someone has been busy!

Your well entitled to the rant, I just can not believe the ungratefullness of it all, you put ur heart and soul into it, you could of gone out and brought a selection box, that would of been wrong as I'm sure the kids would of had to many and it would been urs that would make them bad,never mind the fact that they may of eat 10 bars.

I would use this as the perfect excuse to say, look as the present wasn't suitable, then I think its best if we just exchange cards from now on.

I would carry on making the gifts, as I'm pretty sure they would be well appriciated.

we made mini sets - we have 2 eldery neighbours by us, both widowed gentleman, so at xmas do a shoe box up- mini whisky, mini jams (5 for £1 at Morrisons), some shortbread, cake etc, and to them they really appriciate it.

I knit, and if anyone has a baby, I always do a mix and match package, travel wipes, disposable bibs, fold up changing mat, never spend more than £5 and put 2 handknitted cardigans, and I have letters saying never realised how useful that bag of items were (friend -her 1st baby).

Please,please don't stop the hampers. xx