homemade presents and ungrateful family!!

anonymousie

Bloody cheek!! If he doesn't like them maybe he could let you have them back when you you meet again as a lot of time and love went into them:mad:

Friend of mine knitted for her nearest and dearest and got the same sort of reply- She's preg without many spare pennies and all that time she spent on the gifts-:mad: ungrateful lot, and I'm afraid spoilt brat kids your relastive is raising.....

We havew similar in our family and I only knit for peeps I know will enjoy their presssies (interestingly, this year including a request for a knitted item from the least likely member of my extended family- my SIL- who has plenty of squids to spend but loved something I knitted for me- it was a real peasure to knit for her! But I digress!)

Your son will know about Christmas for real- not in a "gimmee gimmee " way but in the spirit of giving, You have done a good job there (())((()))

I patted myself on the back proudly this year under similar circumstances when my 14yr old (nearly) DS said thank you, and meant it, for a pocket diary with a steam train on it from his 90+ yr old great great aunt- he wasn't smitten with the gift itself, but the effort she had made to totter to the PO and buy it for him was really, and honestly appreciated.

(Ok the moneysaver in him came through too as he said later "I'll give uncle C this for his birthday"- 28/12 'cos he loves trains- and he did too!!).

~Nexy year get the kids somr tat toys and forget him, or spend a few £ on an oxfam gift- and if he strops about that just smile , zen like and make a small charity donation on his behalf quietly hereafter, or add the £ to a grateful recipients gift instead!

Apricot

I can't believe how ungrateful some people are. I would much rather prefer to get a nice home made gift that can actually be used (eaten) & has thought & love gone into it than a gift set from boots or the like that has just been grabbed off the shelf.
I love homemade gifts & toyed with making some myself this year but due to my lazyness I didn't actually get around to it.

I hate ungratefulness with presents. I asked my friend what to get for my goddaughters this year as they have so much every year (£500+ spent on each of them aged 4&5) and she said a dvd each. On xmas day I gave them the dvds which I had bought (after finding out what they would like & what they already had) and the elder one just said "oh, another dvd" put it down & walked off. I don't blame her one little bit as she is only 5 but it just shows the terrible influences that parents can be on their children. I was taught from a young age that even if I wasn't impressed with a present to always say thank you & look pleased!

Penny1981

Your gifts sound great, i would feel so grateful if i thought someone had taken time and effort to make me something. Time is precious these days and it should be cherished. I dont wanna bad mouth your family, at the end of the day they are family. But they should feel bad for the way they received your gift not you and your family (which sounds adorable by the way)

HellsGranny

Something I have noticed here in Britain is that most folk have bought into the 'plastic fantastic' dream, and the commercialisation. In the States its the opposite, folk adore getting crafted items, and will pay good prices for them.

Here I have noticed at Craft Fairs, people being very patronising about the prices of handmade items which have cost time, effort and expense on raw materials to produce to an excellent standard. My though is, we have been spoilt by the availability of cheaply made, sweatshop produced crafts from third World countries, and cannot recognise quality or appreciate the hours of design and labour which go into crafted things.

Again, I see in 'special' markets (we have a continental one), handmade goods at less than we can produce them here. The whole thing makes me so cross, The majority of the British public don't appreciate quality made goods which aren't mass produced.

Lolly, You have made presents with love and care for your family and they have thrown all your effort and thoughtfulness back in your face, The Biblical saying 'Pearls before swine' comes to mind for your Brother in law's attitude. Don't bother with him again. You've done nothing wrong, so don't feel guilty.

I would love you as one of my rellys, though!

Cheers, HG

aliasojo

HellsGranny wrote: »

..........The majority of the British public don't appreciate quality made goods which aren't mass produced.

This is so true although I don't think it's their fault. People these days are generally cash rich/time poor and have been raised in busy households that view money as the main enabler.

We're an advanced technical society and I think sometimes people forget the basic building blocks of what's important

princesspoppypop

Regardless of what your BIL thought of the lovely gift you made he should have kept his thoughts to himself! How hurtful could someone be..... its just terrible!
Keep going with the handmade goods and don`t let someone like that put you off!

teeni

this thread reminds me of a conversation with my daughter in law just before my 1st grand child was born, she knew that i knitted and clearly stated that she would not dress the baby in home made garments so not to bother making any thing.

forward three years and she showed me a beautiful hand knit arran jacket she had bought for the now toddler for the princly sum of £45.00.
her face was a picture when i told her i did the knitting for the shop and she had paid £45 for something she could have had for nothing.

princesspoppypop

teeni wrote: »

this thread reminds me of a conversation with my daughter in law just before my 1st grand child was born, she knew that i knitted and clearly stated that she would not dress the baby in home made garments so not to bother making any thing.

forward three years and she showed me a beautiful hand knit arran jacket she had bought for the now toddler for the princly sum of £45.00.
her face was a picture when i told her i did the knitting for the shop and she had paid £45 for something she could have had for nothing.

Hehe ...I like it!

Ive just sent a pattern round to my Mums to make a baby cardigan- she is a beautiful knitter... I must be old fashioned and love white knitted cardigans and booties on babies and have asked my Mum to make loads for new arrival in April!

Poppy x

ceebeeby

I saw the title and clicked in here!

I cannot believe the selfish, unthoughtful comment!

Can you imagine Mary and Joseph saying to the Three Wise Men, sorry, take the gifts back, they're not good enough!! Maybe next year, instead of making something for the kids, spend a day with them, letting them help you make the gifts etc. and enjoy the experience.

I'm shocked that someone could be so ungrateful!!!

lolly1981

we still havent seen OH brother but apparently the gifts he bought us were passed back and mum and dad hada few words...he said to his dad that he hadnt meant to make us feel bad and he was sorry if it came across bad...he wants our kids to keep the gifts he bought and he wants to sit down with OH and talk about it!

OH has calmed down a lot now think he was still quite upset by it...but i guess we'll have to see what bro says...to be honest im surprised that he was like that and thought that way as i didnt think that was like him..maybe OH other bnrother would be like that but not this one...i guess we'll just have to see what he has to say...and what his apology is like .

maybe he was just having a bad day...even still it did upset me quite a bit....if you dont like something keep it to yourself...its the thought taht counts...well thats how i see it