Ring - to keep or not to keep, to wear or not to wear?

shellsuit

ben500 wrote: »

Sounds like a few on here already have a nice collection of such gifts, seems a common trait in British women to gather such trinkets from ex's

The ring was a gift. Should she give back all the books, CDs and perfume etc he has given her too?

I've still got a ring my ex bought me one Christmas and if I didn't already wear a ring on the finger it fitted, I'd still wear it today. It wasn't an engagement ring, it was a 4piece puzzle ring, why the hell should I have handed it back over? I didn't ask him for everything back when we split up.

When you have split with an ex, have you both swapped all gifts to each other back?

shellsuit

And back on topic to the OP ~ I'd keep it.

If it hurts to wear it, put it away until you can look at it and wear it by not feeling anything.

hothothot_3

.....This reminds me of what serial killers do, keep a trophy so they can relieve the experience of power over their victim, as a ring is symbolic of something that never ends (it goes in continual circle) it is like you never want the man to escape your clutches. Please, I know this must be difficult for you to let go - but holding on the past is not how to live your life - I recommend if it is valuable to take it to the pawn shop - let someone not emotionally involved wear it.

Kylie

I put a very expensive ring in the bin. Probably should have donated it to charity.

busiscoming2

Keep the ring, it was a birthday present and one you had wanted for a while. Put it away and get it out in the future when the present pain has gone.

Will you give back all the other birthday presents you have received and expect him to return all his - I doubt it, a gift is a gift, no returns!

SailorSam

A friend of mine was telling me one day he had lost his wifes wedding ring, and it had been very expensive.
I said to him considering it cost so much you don't seem very upset.
No, he said there is a bright side to it.
She was wearing it at the time.

donquine

Jewellery to me always reminds me of the person who bought it for me.

I would never wear anything bought by an ex. Bin, donate or sell - unless it was a family piece, then I'd give it back.

d-seven

If King Soloman were alive today, he'd probably say 'Flog it on Ebay!'

Zazen999

tayler_remi wrote: »

He had said, whilst we were seeing each other, 'As long as you wear that ring on your finger, I'll know you still want to be with me.'

But he won't be seeing you now will he? Unless he is stalking you of course.

lostinrates

That it has made you so conflited would be enough for me to send it back. As a birthday gift you can of course keep it, as you could whether it were from an ex, a friend, a family member or a work mate with whom you are no longer in touch.

If it is oing to be a constant reminder I think you are possibly beter off without it. so oiving it back seems sensible.

Personally, what I would do would depend n the ring..if it were something I'd chosen and a one off or an antque I'd keep it, if it were a fairly standard bu pretty thing I'd return it, or if he didn't want it, give it to a female family member or sell it.

I've not given jewellery bought back at the end of relationships, nor had items of comparable worth returned. They were gifts freely given and received and meant.