Ring - to keep or not to keep, to wear or not to wear?

katebl

I still wear a lovely ring my ex gave me - we were together 2 years - it's now 3 years later (I have been with my OH for 2 years now), TBH I feel lost without it but it's no longer sentimental, just pretty :-). Keep hold of it!

vegankris

If it were me, I'd either give it back or give it away.When I broke up with an ex about 6 years ago, I donated most of the gifts he'd given me to the PDSA.
I also think it's something any future partners you have may feel uncomfortable with you wearing if they knew the history.

whitelillies

Do nothing for the moment. Your still feeling emotional. If you give it back he may be hurt too and you may regret it in the long term but if you wear it you'll be hurt. I would keep the ring and accept it as a gift from him but not wear it until all the emotions you have have healed. Ive got xmas presents from my ex that he left for me as we were together when he bought them and i bought his but i dont want to open them, i dont want to give them back because he'll be hurt, i cant give them away either because i know they were meant for me and me only but i cant wear or use them either as im still hurting. So ive just done what i feel is best and left them wrapped in my wardrobe until a time comes when i can accept them. I didnt give him his presents as i dont want to see him as im hurt and he'll have to accept that as thats the way i feel

ben500

You should at least offer to return it, for two reasons, first it's the right thing to do, secondly by doing so hopefully you will make it quite clear the relationship is over, if he declines then there are plenty of suggestions here how to use or dispose of it, even if you don't want it as a memento of your relationship he may well do, also the accepting of the return of the ring may well serve to aid him accept the end of the relationship and not pursue you further.

mrbrightside842

So, he dumps you but says 'as long as you wear that ring on your finger I'll know you want to be with me'? Nice guy! I'd throw it back at him and let his ego take the blow. Get get yyourself a better ring. In fact, get yourself a better guy to get you a better ring!

ceridwen

Personally - I'd keep it.

Put it away somewhere safe and think about it in a year or two - when emotions arent so "raw". I expect you will decide still to keep it then.

I've done that myself with a bit of jewellery from an ex - ie kept it - and once things had "cleared" in my mind then worn it again. Its a nice piece of jewellery - so I just regard it that way. The ex concerned turned out to not be a very nice person shall we say - but heck...the jewellery was and the amount of money it cost him to buy it was absolute "peanuts" to him anyway...

though I have to say that I found out not long after finishing with him that he had been consistently unfaithful to me anyway (errr...and worse...)....so I certainly wasnt going to concern myself with HIS feelings in the event...

Claire2831

It’s not an engagement ring so I wouldn’t bother offering to give it back, it would be like offering to give back a bottle of perfume that he had bought you or any other gift that had been given.

If you still have strong feelings attached to the ring then I would do as others have suggested and put it away in a box until you feel better about the situation and then make the decision.

tara747

Keep it - put it away for now as others have suggested if it is too painful to wear right now, then get it out at the appropriate time. If you want to wear it, great. If not, sell it and buy yourself something nice or a holiday with the money so you get some pleasure out of it without the uncomfortable memories xo

Don't give it back - he sounds like a moron after what he said. 'As long as you wear this ring I'll know you still want to be with me', I mean !!!!!!!!!

ben500

Sounds like a few on here already have a nice collection of such gifts, seems a common trait in British women to gather such trinkets from ex's

shandypants5

Keep it, sell it,wear it or bin it, I really dont mind what you do.

But I do think you should spend more time thinking about your relationships then your trinkets.

I think there are a LOT of people out there who are only in relationships for what they can "get".

If you want him back then go chase him, if you want a nice ring, then keep it and go find another guy.