MSE Parents Club Part 9

elle_gee

:hello: Scruffy... Missed you earlier! MM reckons you were making it up with DH Everything okay at Chez Scruff?

ManOnTheMoon

scruffy96uk wrote: »

MOTM whats up sorry I'm just here you don't sound your usual self??

Hi scruffy :wave:

No, i'm fine

I just don't like generalisations, although I appreciate others experiences, I don't think people appreciate that I have experiences too. My experiences of my girls mothers are that they are awful mothers, but I don't think all mothers are bad.

Anyway, i'm fine, just saddened with attitudes.

How are you? Must get to bed shortly.

scruffy96uk

elle_gee wrote: »

:hello: Scruffy... Missed you earlier! MM reckons you were making it up with DH Everything okay at Chez Scruff?

No I was busy ebaying as it was free listing day!!

Then I've been sat here trying to conjure up the courage to open the hatch and put a trap up. DH and I are sitting in bed and all we can hear is the little blighters scratching:eek: I've done it though!!!

How r u and Ryhs?

scruffy96uk

ManOnTheMoon wrote: »

Hi scruffy :wave:

No, i'm fine

I just don't like generalisations, although I appreciate others experiences, I don't think people appreciate that I have experiences too. My experiences of my girls mothers are that they are awful mothers, but I don't think all mothers are bad.

Anyway, i'm fine, just saddened with attitudes.

How are you? Must get to bed shortly.

I'm fine ta apart from more little furry visitors, I know they are only little but they petrify me, big jessie that Iam lol:rotfl:

elle_gee

And nor was Tia saying all fathers are bad :rolleyes: She was saying her DH is having a tough time accepting something that is significant in their family life right now. She never said all father are bad, and she especially didn't have anything to say about single fathers (I saw each of your posts between edits :cool:).

elle_gee

scruffy96uk wrote: »

No I was busy ebaying as it was free listing day!!

Then I've been sat here trying to conjure up the courage to open the hatch and put a trap up. DH and I are sitting in bed and all we can hear is the little blighters scratching:eek: I've done it though!!!

How r u and Ryhs?

LOL Are you sleeping with the Tupperware lid under your pillow?

We're good ta

BeenieCat

MOTM, i read your post before you deleted it. I kept trying to write out a reply but everything i wrote sounded stupid.
I'm lurking from my mobile too so it takes ages to post
I've always found your posts to be helpful, it really helps to get a different perspective from someone more experienced, especially for me since there's no men in my life whatsoever. Please don't stop posting here
For what it's worth i think the generalisations that men avoid some aspects of parenting are quite widespread in society, and sadly so many men are the cause of that. That doesn't mean to say anyone would assume you to be like that, especially as you're so clearly not. Nobody bats an eyelid at single mothers anymore, but when i first saw your sig i felt complete admiration and an automatic respect, not because i think ALL men would do a runner, but because it's not everyday you meet someone who is doing what you are.

I look forward to reading your posts when i see your username pop up, so please don't leave us.

ManOnTheMoon

scruffy96uk wrote: »

I'm fine ta apart from more little furry visitors, I know they are only little but they petrify me, big jessie that Iam lol:rotfl:

Yep, big jessie They'll be more scared of you

elle_gee wrote: »

And nor was Tia saying all fathers are bad :rolleyes: She was saying her DH is having a tough time accepting something that is significant in their family life right now. She never said all father are bad, and she especially didn't have anything to say about single fathers (I saw each of your posts between edits :cool:).

No, but if I said 'from my experience of a woman...' no-one would like it and I don't have friends to back me up and would be lambasted. Unfortunately I will always have an opinion.

Anyway, it's not important what's going on here at the moment, but thanks to Jillie the other day for commenting and Glamazon for her advice and help and Feelie for her advice as well. It was most appreciated.

I'm sorry Tia your OH is having a tough time and I hope he deals with whatever he needs to in whatever way he needs too. I'm sorry i've not read back, this thread moves extremely fast, but best of luck for the future.

Happy Birthday to MM. Have a nice day and put your feet up.

ManOnTheMoon

BeenieCat wrote: »

MOTM, i read your post before you deleted it. I kept trying to write out a reply but everything i wrote sounded stupid.
I'm lurking from my mobile too so it takes ages to post
I've always found your posts to be helpful, it really helps to get a different perspective from someone more experienced, especially for me since there's no men in my life whatsoever. Please don't stop posting here
For what it's worth i think the generalisations that men avoid some aspects of parenting are quite widespread in society, and sadly so many men are the cause of that. That doesn't mean to say anyone would assume you to be like that, especially as you're so clearly not. Nobody bats an eyelid at single mothers anymore, but when i first saw your sig i felt complete admiration and an automatic respect, not because i think ALL men would do a runner, but because it's not everyday you meet someone who is doing what you are.

I look forward to reading your posts when i see your username pop up, so please don't leave us.

Hi Beenie, I hope you, Cameron and Amber are doing well.

I've not really been helpful to anyone, just because I have little to offer as the main subjects are about alot younger ones than mine, although I try and chip in if I can.

The truth is, i've heard it all before and my experiences with a bad mother of my own and bad mothers to my brood, is that mothers aren't all that. Of course I know some mothers are good, but can you imagine if I said "my experience of mothers is that..." Do you honestly think I wouldn't be jumped on in a far worse fashion than my small comments? Me neither.

My comment wasn't even negative, merely pointing out that maybe we aren't all that bad. It wasn't said in a bad way. Just because it doesn't have 8 :rotfl: 's...

I guess I feel like those people who left, a bit on the outside. I get alot of responses and appreciate the time and effort people have given me in the last few months. I've always thanked people for their time, however I have little to offer.

I appreciate the 'admiration', however I do what I do because I love my girls. Not because I have to, but because I choose too. I feel sorry for anyone who thinks their partner only does things when they have too. I'd argue that my partner ever got to that stage, it may be time to go seperate ways.

Maybe it's a touchy subject as i've always been judged for doing what I have done on my own, but like I say, I feel sorry for anyone who feels their partner only does things when they need too.

You can contact me anytime via PM if you need any male perspective and i'll occasionally pop in and read what's going on, and thank you for your sentiments, they are appreciated. I have alot of admiration for you with what's happened over the past few months and if anyone can diss men, you are entitled too

Like I say, PM me if you need anything.

Take Care :cool:

angela6834

MOTM..sorry to read your post. I know im not as regular as most on here but i enjoy reading your posts. Please dont stop..

Happy birthday MM and sorry choppy, I forgot to wish you Happy Birthday yesterday too xx

Spag Bol in the slow cooker....I hate spag bol from a jar and much prefer making my own. I think from what i know that this has to be left a few hours for the flavours to taste their best. I brown the mince, then stick everything in the slow cooker. Mine is huge so i can make about 6 batches for 3 of us and then use these for chilli, lasagne etc. It is the best bolognaise ive tasted.

Rose is 8 months now, 6 months corrected and still cannot use a sippy cup. Ive bought non spill, free flow and she cannot manage either. She manages better if i just put an open cup to her mouth, tho not ideal. Does anyone else have a problem with them?