MSE Parents Club Part 9

scruffy96uk

nite nite all

BeenieCat

Yeah that's got to be my next step. Tbh i'm starting to wonder i could use this to help me get moved somewhere else with 3 bedrooms. I know it's highly unlikely but i really do feel like it's making me ill. And all the delay of them monitoring, well i'm already depressed and doc said i'm at risk of it developing into pnd i just know this 24hr stress is pushing me further and further into a black hole. Not to mention my ex and my warped family. I am on the wrong side of everyone at the minute i'm starting to question it lol.

Ex isn't coming this weekend, to see his 4wk old daughter for the very first time. Not a good time apparently. I didn't even ask for an excuse. I just wondered why i was even prepared to give him an undeserved chance to let us down yet again. Still reckons he loves me though:rolleyes:. I think he loves the life more. He has nothing where he is, but here he gets to pretend he's a grown up and not sit in his room all night like a 12year old.

money_maker_3

night scruffy !!

and ps. I dont know that song !!

MadDogWoman_2

MM - It's a count down song it's starts of with 5 then 4 etc it's on one of Katie's Nursery Rhyme CD's. It's also done at swimming they sit on the mat, which is spun round then the all jump into the water at the end - it's one of her favourites.

It's in my head now.

money_maker_3

beenie, you know you are better than them all by not stooping to their level hun xx
Hope you get it all sorted soon

elle_gee

MDW, does your mum look after DD while you're at work or is she at another childminders?

Becles, I have a question for you please.. (and anyone else who's parents look after their LOs while they work). Did you write down / agree any rules for childcare before your mum started looking after LO?

My mum's been reading the Grandparent Ground Rules and wants me to write some things down so she knows what I do and don't want her to do.. Thought I'd make a start on it soon for the one day a week she's going to start having Rhys :cool: Any thoughts on what I need to include? (has anyone using a childminder done this too maybe... I assume they have some kind of agreement thing already written up? ). Tbh, I think mum's been reading too many "grandparent caring gone wrong" horror stories...

She doesn't want paying for it, but I've said I'll always leave money in the change bag for groups/tea and cake/entry fees if they go out for the day, and we intend to put some money aside each week and treat both mum and dad every so often (bargain hotel deals, that kind of thing). She's got money saved (well, Lotto winnings) to pay for a carseat for her car when the time comes.

money_maker_3

elle, my mum and MIL have Jas a day each a week and although there is nothing written down, I have told them a few things that I expect to be done.
Main thing is that when she is at their houses, if she mis behaves she is to be told that she is not allowed to do it, the reason why and make her sit on the sofa with nothing to do foor 5 mins and then get an appology.
She is to be limited to 1 treat per day at their houses, so no bar of chocolate and an ice cream and a biscuit after lunch .. fruit is there for a reason !!
She is not to sit in front of the TV all day, whether she colours in or they play a board game or something, but she needs to have her intelect used a bit !!
When she was younger I also had what time her naps were and what to do if she woke up and stuff, but really, other than that, well with my mum anyway, I trusted her to do the right thing

money_maker_3

Right I am off to bed as I have a day of decorating tomorrow and I have to squeeze taking Jas to gymnastics as well !!

night all xx

elle_gee

money_maker wrote: »

Right I am off to bed as I have a day of decorating tomorrow and I have to squeeze taking Jas to gymnastics as well !!

night all xx

You haven't mentioned it lately.. I take it your bum is alright now? Just remembered you suffering driving to gymnastics last week!

Nighty night.. I'm off too xx

money_maker_3

No its still sore Have got a cushion on the car seat and I have to sit an an angle on the sofa, cant sit flat on my bum a all !!
Chris still finds it highly amusing though !:p