***Sat/Sun 19/20 December weekend chat - 6 more sleeps to go!

Ames

BB, how do you manage to leave it in the fridge overnight, it sounds lush I'd be wanting to drink it straight away.

As for the OH, it sounds a very one sided relationship - what do you actually get out of it? It all sounds very similar to where I was in the summer.

LouiseJ

Burlesque_Babe wrote: »

this is his own doing and he knows he does it - every time we have a big conversation about how he takes the pish about turning up so late I get the 'oh, I won't be late anymore' and I tell him it will last for 1 night - and it does :rolleyes:

If he ended things tomorrow.......if I'm brutally honest I think I'd be a mess I'd be 39, fat, single for the first time since I was 19 and 4 days away from Christmas. Not good.

But BB.........how much of the man have you really got cause he sounds to me more like a rude and selfish brother than your partner.

Burlesque_Babe

sallyx wrote: »

So you love him and are happy to carry on this way? Do you think there is ever any chance of him changing and making you truely happy.
Yes you may be 39 and single but that doesn't stop you from enjoying the rest of your life hun!

I do love him, but I hate the way he seems to use me to exorcise whatever demons he has deep inside. I don't think there's any chance of him changing, no. He has his life very compartmentalised and there's little crossover between things. I've never ever met any of his friends - in nearly 7 years.

LouiseJ

OK I shall shut my big gob now:o

Love actually is on in a bit :T

Burlesque_Babe

beanielou wrote: »

Im 47

I'm sure you're fibbing there beanie - you can't be anywhere near 47, you look far too young

sallyx

is it Lou, what channel

Ames

BB, I don't know how to put this diplomatically, and I hope you don't take offence. If you haven't been single since you were 19, do you think that might be part of the problem? That you've become so scared of being single that you'll take anything he throws at you? Maybe you need to be single for a while to find out who you really are and what you want from a relationship? And to see that you can manage alone and so no-one can hold you to ransom emotionally over it all.

Snaggles

BB, it's so hard to hear the things he says to you and not drive down there and kick him in the nuts, then shove him off the end of the pier.

:grouphug:

You would be a mess, and yes, it would be an awful time to be in a mess, but you would get over it...no matter how bad you feel, it does get better.

I know I moan about it but being single really isn't all that bad. The biggest obstacle is the loneliness, which I thought I couldn't do much about, because I can rarely go out without the kids, and even if I do, I'm so bloody shy I don't speak to anyone and everyone thinks I'm miserable, or snooty, even though I'm actually quite nice once I stop stressing...but even *I* am beginning to find ways to spend time around other adults.

I think YOU look fabulous, but your relationship is overweight and maybe it's time to lose about 14 stones?

LouiseJ

sallyx wrote: »

is it Lou, what channel

ITV at 9 o clock.:T

Snaggles

beanielou wrote: »

BB~sorry but i have to agree with scardy~ that is emotional abuse.
Not that I can talk~at least you have a man!

Ahhh Lou hun, I can understand why you feel like that but we HAVE to get out of the mindset that a man who treats us badly is better than no man at all.

I think it's Bunny that says 'We accept the love we think we deserve'. We need to start believing we deserve love, kindness and respect.





And I know, I know, I have been the worst culprit, but I am trying very hard to break the cycle, and I am no longer letting men get away with a one sided relationship.