im a cheat.. help!!

Minimum_Wage_2

it is so obvious that you are not in love with your OH to have been sleeping with others, you dont value the relationship your in! are you sure that its not that the grass just looks greener on the other side? you could go to this other person and find out that you were mistaken and want him back!
many people make the mistake of leaving the one they are with because they are with them and not realizing that because they had them that they wanted something else and then find out that it was them that they wanted in the first place!

my opinion is leave the one you are with, be on your own for a while (show some respect for that relationship by being on your own for a while). in that time while you are having a re-think you will know which one you really want and be able to make the right choice. dont do what many do and just run to them and then find out it was a mistake!

this person has been so kind to you and it will hurt him to find out what you've been doing behind his back, even more so if he finds out that you have jumped straight into someone else's arms straight from him.

split from them both and have some time out to get your head straight before you do anything else that you will regret!

BeenieCat

And perhaps get yourself to the GUM clinic _pale_ :eek:

Misstress

Pabs , i agree with the other posters about leaving your OH, dont be with the other guy either, take time to get your head together, have counselling and try to build your self esteem. Your worth more than what your putting yourself though. Take care

iamana1ias

BeenieCat wrote: »

And perhaps get yourself to the GUM clinic _pale_ :eek:

Why? Having sex with multiple partners doesn't have to equal STDs :rolleyes:

BeenieCat

Makes you multiple times more likely to have got them though doesn't it. If she was off her face on drugs i doubt condoms were the hot topic of the moment.

Stephb1986_2

The poor guy being with a tart like you do him a favour and leave him he deserves better than you.

zara*elise

You should leave him. Jeremy Kyle would love you for his show, you can get a free hotel stay and some counselling.

Seriously, there's never an excuse for cheating, especially not SEVEN times. Do the right thing and leave.

vaio

That’s an interesting philosophical question in the cheating arena,

which is worse……shagging 7 people once each or the same person 7 times?

larmy16

BeenieCat wrote: »

Makes you multiple times more likely to have got them though doesn't it. If she was off her face on drugs i doubt condoms were the hot topic of the moment.

Also condoms do not protect against genital warts, crabs and herpes. I cannot imagine people doing a close inspection of someones bits and bobs when they have lost their inhibitions through a ton of alcohol. I don't believe that all these people sleeping around are having safe sex. If they were, why are so many sexual diseases on the increase?

To the OP, you only feel safe copping off with all these guys because you have a trusting partner at home. Whatever the hell happened to using your brain for a bit of fantasy if you find your sex life a bit mundane? Get your thinking cap on or get out of the relationship. Poor man.

fernliebee

Leave your poor bloke, give him a chance to find someone else who will be faithful.

My guess is that as you so obviously have no respect for him, that you also have no respect for yourself hence the 5lagging around, and so you stay with him because he looks after you/ makes you feel like a better person than you are.

You need to be on your own, truly on your own- no sex buddies etc, and sort your head out. Realise you don't have to open your legs to get people to like you, and find something other than sex that you can value yourself for.

If you can only do one of the above then make sure it is leaving the poor innocent bloke that you are screwing over!