OS Daily Thread - Sunday 13th December

Hardup_Hester

Hugs RR, sorry no suggestions but I hope it sorts it's self out.
Hester

pammyj74

redruby that seems like an awful position to be put in and not fair on your parents to do that. I cant give any advice as have not been in that position before but it does sound like your mum is getting a bit stressed and taking out on the nearest person who unfortunately is your dad. (and you) Is there anyone who can have your dog for you tomorrow and maybe let them calm down a bit.
Hope you can sort it out. I didnt speak to my parents for 8 years. They hadnt seen my younger two until DD was 5, shes 8 now.

Well on my list I have done:
Clean out fish tank and put it on freecycle
WALK to morrisons
Put photos in collage frame given to me last xmas

still to do:

Write xmas cards
Iron clothes for next week

which can be done tonight once kids are bathed and before xfactor

tired_mum

Evening one and all
Ruby I have no advice to give I am sorry that you find yourself in an immpossible situation hugs to you and hope the moving date comes through on monday
PP hope you are ok
Sunny glad your dads tests were clear
Diva hope you hear from Tris tonite
Well the tree still isnt up but OH managed to put up the outside lights he didnt get in till 1.30 this morning after his works do I couldnt sleep so was up till 3 this morning then the cat was sick so not a good night
Well better get a shake on little dog needs a walk and i need to start wrapping up to go
Have a good evening

Bitsy_Beans

Redruby - not sure what to suggest. I think you deserve to be treated better than you have and I can understand you wanting to rectify things. Do you think they would be more open to an adult conversation in a few days time or so? Could you write a letter and just push it through the door instead? Hugs to you xxx

DS is still being a total PITA today. I don't know what's got into this child Apparantly my nephew is being a right royal PITA too so perhaps it's an age thing........
Feel bit fed up - been housebound with poorly kids for nearly 2 weeks and this weekend hasn't been any different. DS will be going to nursery tomorrow so hopefully he'll burn off some excess energy and stop whinging all the time.

Molly41

Hi Guys,
Late posting...been a busy bee today. Started very early as DD got drunk last night and fell flat on her face...literally. She split her lip very badly and her cheek is very badly bruised. Had to take her to casualty to get it xrayed but luckily its just a bruise. The staff were brilliant with her as she was still drunk and VERY upset. There was a bright side though as when she hurt herself she called out for her big bro and he really took care of her (he was at the same party) so I feel a little more optimistic that thet will be friends when they are older.

I have also finished decorating the house for christmas and am pleased with it. I have also mostly finished my xmas shopping but it needs to be delivered so keeping fingers crossed. Most of it from Amazon so I think it will be ok. Just got to wrap it now.

RedRuby - I had a terrible fall out with my mother after my dad had an op as I felt she was not treating him right. I did not talk to her for a few days and it quietened down. I would say that you dont know how you dad is behaving when you are not there and she is probably exasperated by him and the way he is. I would avoid taking sides...my mistake. Offer practical help. Its hard to say what to do as dynamics in families are so complicated. I know that I can have a huge bust up with my parents and then its forgotten very quickly.

Busy day tomorrow as I have to get house sorted as its very untidy. No cleaner tomorrow . Loads of washing and five sets of bedding to get done:eek:. I also have an Occupational Health review so am expecting that to be mega stressful.

Hope you have a good evening,
Mollyx

ALIBOBSY

Wrapped up warm with the kids and went out for a lovely walk today. It was cold (first really frosty day we have had around here) and we had a lovely tramp over crunchy paths and through the trees. We are really lucky we live in a semi rural area and just a 1 min walk from our house is miles and miles of open land with trees ponds and the river.

OH decided to forage a bit of holly (there are dozens and dozens of holly amonsgt the trees, some are huge so we thought no one would mind a bit) We also picked up some pine cones and bits of twigs. The holly (probably because it has been so mild here) had no berries at all, but we got some rosehips (yes rosehips!-even saw so crab apples on the ground and some still in the tree lol).

At home we took 2 thin bendy branches from a bush and bent them into a circle. Then with a bit of garden string (we already had)and OH getting pricked alot made our own wreath-never knew OH was artistic at all lol. Added a few bits of rosehips and pine cones and it looks great, very old style. may add a bit of cheap ribbon from the pound shop tommorow to finish it off.

Even had a few bits left to tie in a bunch for a centre piece and a couple of bits of holly to hang around the front room.

ali x

redruby

Thanks all,

I have phoned her again, and she basically said that they are both very cross with me, and that she would send my dd's christmas presents up through my sis, I tried to explain how upsetting it was to see my dad treated like that, but she said that they both did not want to know and she put the phone down on me, I have been in tears, I just cannot bear to think of my dad going through that. I will leave it now, I cant keep phoning and upsetting myself.

Molly hugs to your poor dd xx

And hugs to any in need xx

Bitsy_Beans

Oh RR I am sorry to hear what's she's said but I am guessing if your Dad is siding with your mum then he's got to paddle his own boat so you need to leave him to it. You tried, he didn't appreciate what you were doing so I'd let it lie. I wonder if he's feeling a bit.....what's the word......like as a man he should be fighting his own battles rather than his daughter doing it for him? Just a thought.
Anyway have a good cry, a stiff drink and see what the week will bring with them xxxx

pammyj74

redruby I dont think your mum is in the right mind to talk at the moment so best to leave it a few days. I am fortunate that I dont live near my family or they would do my head in! I am only really close to one sister and I have 2 others and a brother. My dad passed away a couple of years ago and we didnt get on at all really. I was the black sheep and even now I dont feel part of them all as I am far away. But when they need someone strong they turn to me even though I am not the oldest!!
Sorry that you have been in tears, its awful. Try and be the adult in this and dont rise to the temptation of shouting back if you can.

Molly sorry to hear about DD but nice that big bro was there to help, its nice when that happens. My younger two have 15 months between them and constantly fight :mad:

Bitsy I had to work out what PITA meant then but didnt take me long lol

have done the ironing so only the cards to write and my daily objectives are then done :T

Kitchenbunny

(((hugs))) Redruby.

It's been busy here today. I've made mini quiches for Saturday's party, done all the ironing, had a go at cake decorating practice with decorator's caulk on the tumble drier and found out I'd lost 4lb when I went on the Wii Fit earlier. Now, tea (beef stroganoff) is cooking nicely and I'm going to put my feet up.

Kitchenbunny xx