How to cope when OH picks friends over you

welshmoneylover

*Louise* wrote: »

I'm interested...how did you react to him doing this??


Why does he think it's okay to treat you so flippantly?

I just walked out of the house completely stunned by this and started to wonder why the heck I was putting up with this.

tandraig

dont put up with it - I have the feeling you wont anyway. what a shock for him! you deserve better - its out there - value yourself hun - when you do others treat you accordingly.

*Louise*

welshmoneylover wrote: »

I just walked out of the house completely stunned by this and started to wonder why the heck I was putting up with this.

And he still went???


I would have thrown SUCH a hissy fit

You really do deserve to be treated better. Have you sat down and discussed all of this wth him thoroughly?

welshmoneylover

*Louise* wrote: »

And he still went??? Yup


I would have thrown SUCH a hissy fit I was too stunned to react to be honest

You really do deserve to be treated better. Have you sat down and discussed all of this wth him thoroughly?

Not yet building upto it slowly cos I think I know where the conversation will end up as saying bye bye.

In some ways, I miss the nice side of him but unfortunately I never saw as much of it as I'd have liked

It's my own bl**dy fault for putting up with it for so long.

*Louise*

welshmoneylover wrote: »

Not yet building upto it slowly cos I think I know where the conversation will end up as saying bye bye.

In some ways, I miss the nice side of him but unfortunately I never saw as much of it as I'd have liked

It's my own bl**dy fault for putting up with it for so long.

You never know - it could be the wake up call that he needs.

Just don't put up with it any more - no one should be treated like they are second best

x

welshmoneylover

*Louise* wrote: »

You never know - it could be the wake up call that he needs. No, I've been through this before with him and it got me nowhere, apart from just getting more upset each time it happened.

Just don't put up with it any more - no one should be treated like they are second best

x

Too true there hun,

I'd like to say a big thank you to you all for offering different perspectives on this situation.

The more I think about it, the more angrier I get with myself for putting up with him. I feel like snapping his aerial off his car :rotfl:Only kidding but would love to see the look on his face :beer:

Jo_R_2

Wow that's well out of order - I would have been livid!

So you'd arranged to go out, you were getting ready, and what, he turned round and said he was off out with his mates Was he there with you I assume when he did this? What exactly did he say?

welshmoneylover

Jo_R wrote: »

Wow that's well out of order - I would have been livid!

So you'd arranged to go out, you were getting ready, and what, he turned round and said he was off out with his mates Was he there with you I assume when he did this? What exactly did he say?

He just laughed and said summat along the lines of 'what do you want to go out for?'

*Louise*

Tell you what - my OH wouldn't have got back in the door that night.......:mad:

Mupette

Next time he gets in the 'mood' play along for a while.. then just up and leave and go and watch tv... if he says something, say you had a better offer... (regardless if there was tat on tv) what do you want to have sex for anyway ...