Weekly Flylady Thread 7th December 2009

fedupandskint

Tuesday - living room, hallway, stairs
[STRIKE] Level one
PUT UP YOUR TREE[/STRIKE]

DONE!:j

Good grief!!! This has taken 3 hours to rearrange the LR to make room, clean the room again and put the tree up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Also put up the new door curtain so I now have matching curtains in the LR!!! Woo hoo! Grown up at last!!!

Tons left to do this afternoon, bloomin christmas dec's and blast them for taking so long!

methekidsandthecat

Afternoon everyone

It has been ages since I have been here but could not cope with everything and do this as well.

So what has been happening since the summer .....

I finally got Mum and Dad moved - so so tiring from this distance....22 trips to the tip in moving week alone - many more before and since then!

Found DS wanted to go to Uni so applied through clearing and amazingly he got in... but to Southampton Solent ...... only the other end of the country to me! Travelled all the way down to find him a place.... then again to move him in a few weeks late (took 5 hours to drive each way). Applied for funding at end of August and YIPEE he has just recieved his loans on Friday ....he has now finished this term .... last day Friday!! So I have been struggling to support him financially as well. Hence have not had enough money to even start my Christmas and Birthday shopping or even to buy coal/wood.... dont get paid until 23rd so I will be very late with everything!.

I have been down to Mum's several times in the last few weeks and everytime I have to bring back a car full of stuff or she will just take it out of the bags and cram it back in the house. She has taken to her bed for a whole month as she cannot cope.... My sister has done nothing to help at all as she has 'Depression' she has not been to work for 9 months but has found time to start and up an internet business in that time. I on the other hand have been struggling to be focused at my full time work and cope with one teenager depressed at Uni as he has no money and the other not coping with 6th form... I wish i could get off this merry go round for 9 months!

AF failed to visit for 4 months so it has been like having permenant PMT since the summer and my house is full of crap and I dont know where to start. We have been trying to squeeze past the DW they have kindly given me but I cannot afford to have plumbed in yet - it is sat in the hall by the back door and you actually have to turn sideways to get past it. I have no where to store it - the down stairs loo has been full of bags brought back from Mum's as I have not yet had time to sort through them - she wants me to ebay the stuff. you can't even get in the the room.

I am sooooo sorry that this is a boring post and I know that it sound very whiny but I am sat here in tears and really don't know where to start. I have only wash up and put the stew in the slow cooker this morning.....

Me

Oh managed to get 2 days leave and did i manage to rest and have some me time - ---- No - i went to Mum's and sorted out 6 boxes of old books and took them to the Auction rooms. Then went back to hers and sorted out lots for the charity shop and guess what brought even more back with me .... it is still sat in the car as I do not have the energy to bring it up our long path!

juliejim

Hugs me - that's an awful lot going on and to have to deal with yourself.

hex2

Good to see you back Me, sorry things have been so difficult.

Bedding is in WM. Oven and hob are clean, just waiting for the shelves to come out of the DW. Lazy I know . I will get at least one star today.

Time to fetch more logs in and create more hoovering. I do lack logic [STRIKE]sometimes[/STRIKE] often.

methekidsandthecat

Thankyou for 'listening'......

I think I should go and try and fit the DW in the old coal shed (now storage cupboard) - its just that in order to ft it in I will have to empty the whole cupboard and start again - a massive job that won't really help with tidying the house. Still it should make it a biteasier to get in and out of the house.

I am going to do HH Sorting and then have something to eat and will report back.

Me

rach

hello all

I've been to church and done some xmas shopping on the way back, got fed up after an hour - too many people around!

DH is cleaning the shower curtain then I'll do the bathroom, hopefully he'll do in here (lounge) then we can put the tree up. We're having a little Christmas dinner tonight for the two of us, have bought a nice corn fed chicken. I could also do with doing a bit more wrapping later.

me - i plumbed in my own dishwasher in my last place - was very easy. Even if there aren't connectors it's quite an easy job if it's going close to your washing machine.

lil_me

greenbee you could just whizz some regular sugar in a blender
juliejim ((hug)) pleased you are feeling better
poohbear blot as much as possible out, clean with warm soapy water then spray 3 water to 1 vinegar mix on & allow to dry. If there is a situation you know she will get excited in let her out first to reduce what is in her bladder.
kazm ..... has she got a specific place/box for everything? Like one for bags, dolls, jewellery etc? Then it all goes in it's place, each day before bed she puts everything away. Anything not away goes in the bin.....works a treat but of course follows on the thought that everything needs a place before it can be put away. You need to be so rigid with the checking every day but it does work as there isn't time for it to get in a state. We working on getting back to the sorted level with DS1 (needs to be this before I can restart with the rules), not managed it since moving. He's screaming at the top of his voice at present in protest, wailing, mer mer mering (no other way to describe it) & crying as he's been left with some items to put in a box & I have come downstairs. He will be sat not doing it & is just making a racket so I leave him to it for a bit. Told him it's done before Christmas or no presents & he knows I mean it, there is no space for more toys. DS2s even gone up to help him because he's nice like that & he is screaming at him for it
Qullion I used to go mad, this year no chance, I just don't have it to spend, about the same as you apart from the Chameleon stuff which is for all of us. It's not about what I spend here, more about them getting the main thing they want.
me I agree if there is enough pipework it's easy (ours needed holes in walls & extended pipes etc) B&Q have a DIY guide off the shelf, there are some vids on youtube too

Ok I have a list of what I need to buy, or who for as I still have people I don't know what to buy for them. I am now wondering when I can fit in shopping. I best go make sure the munchkins are sorting that room & do a wm/dw switch x x

smartie12

mumofjusttwo wrote: »

While doing a search noticed that Smartie had passed her BSL Level 1. Well done on passing. It is me that who is also doing it and am loving it. It is so interesting. Well I had my exam last Tuesday but ours get sent to Durham Universersity so we won't know if we have passed for about 6-8 weeks :eeks:

Oh I'm sure you've passed;) The next 2 exams we do get sent off... got to make sure I'm looking good for those!:rotfl:

kazmeister

methekidsandthecat wrote: »

Afternoon everyone

It has been ages since I have been here but could not cope with everything and do this as well.

So what has been happening since the summer .....

I finally got Mum and Dad moved - so so tiring from this distance....22 trips to the tip in moving week alone - many more before and since then!

Found DS wanted to go to Uni so applied through clearing and amazingly he got in... but to Southampton Solent ...... only the other end of the country to me! Travelled all the way down to find him a place.... then again to move him in a few weeks late (took 5 hours to drive each way). Applied for funding at end of August and YIPEE he has just recieved his loans on Friday ....he has now finished this term .... last day Friday!! So I have been struggling to support him financially as well. Hence have not had enough money to even start my Christmas and Birthday shopping or even to buy coal/wood.... dont get paid until 23rd so I will be very late with everything!.

I have been down to Mum's several times in the last few weeks and everytime I have to bring back a car full of stuff or she will just take it out of the bags and cram it back in the house. She has taken to her bed for a whole month as she cannot cope.... My sister has done nothing to help at all as she has 'Depression' she has not been to work for 9 months but has found time to start and up an internet business in that time. I on the other hand have been struggling to be focused at my full time work and cope with one teenager depressed at Uni as he has no money and the other not coping with 6th form... I wish i could get off this merry go round for 9 months!

AF failed to visit for 4 months so it has been like having permenant PMT since the summer and my house is full of crap and I dont know where to start. We have been trying to squeeze past the DW they have kindly given me but I cannot afford to have plumbed in yet - it is sat in the hall by the back door and you actually have to turn sideways to get past it. I have no where to store it - the down stairs loo has been full of bags brought back from Mum's as I have not yet had time to sort through them - she wants me to ebay the stuff. you can't even get in the the room.

I am sooooo sorry that this is a boring post and I know that it sound very whiny but I am sat here in tears and really don't know where to start. I have only wash up and put the stew in the slow cooker this morning.....

Me

Oh managed to get 2 days leave and did i manage to rest and have some me time - ---- No - i went to Mum's and sorted out 6 boxes of old books and took them to the Auction rooms. Then went back to hers and sorted out lots for the charity shop and guess what brought even more back with me .... it is still sat in the car as I do not have the energy to bring it up our long path!

HUGS me, that is soo much to cope with

kazmeister wrote: »

Jinky this is the child that

• spilt banana milk shake in her bed and it was a week before I discovered it.
• I find fruit peelings/skins in her bed (and under the sofa cushions)
• She has a shelf above her bed that has numerous amounts of cups/mugs/bowls and concoctions - she likes making potions !!!!!!
• She has asked me why her room smelled of sick - we have yet to discover the answer to that - we have now, apparently it was a cup of coffee that had gone mouldy and ended up bubbling :eek:
• Somewhere in that heap of carp are the 3 pairs of gold earings I have bought her since she had her ears pearced in July and she has had to resort to wearing rubbish in her ears as she cant find them !!!!
• She has cut up CD's with my dressmaking scissors and the pieces are like shards of glass all over the floor (well now in the heap)
• There is nail varnish and acrylic paint all over the surfaces
• She has gouged into the plaster on the walls with a nail
• Peeled the border off her wall in places as she was bored
• Wehey she has just found her mobile phone thats been missing for at least 2 months
• She has also just thrown away a school bag that had a split yoghurt in the bottom. The bag hasnt been used for at least a fortnight

and thats just for starters and she's only 10, I dread puberty and the teenage years

Right I am going to shift my butt and go get showered and do something - oh dear not a very good role model am I

Lilme - she had specific places for everything. 2 storage trolleys under her ed. Her cupboards had clear plastic boxes labelled up for everything. Small storage unit for hair bands/slides etc. I labelled everything and told her 10 mins every night - She just wont do it and doesnt seem to care even though I wont allow friends round while it is like it etc. I havent had the time or energy in the evenings to 'chase her up on it' as I have been so knackered myself. Hopefully once its tidy we can clean in there then I'll start dejunking the cupboards and start with a new relabelling system after Christmas.

Have just spent an hour helping her to sort the heap of carp into small piles of different things that hopefully she will just pick up and put away :rolleyes: although she has the dog in there at the min so thats probably getting its hair done and nails painted while she designs a whole new outfit for it :rolleyes::rolleyes:

I'm going to sort washing and have a cuppa

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Afternoon!

I think some 10 year olds do seem to enjoy living in squalor. She isn't coping with the amount of stuff she has (although it is an improvement, it's not enough of an improvement) so I think you need to reduce the amount of stuff. Drastically. With binbags. And not replace it. Acceptable level of Christmas presents, but not mad level - after all, she wouldn't be able to find anywhere to put it.

With adults, I would suggest driving the stuff off to 'put on Ebay', and just sling it before even getting it indoors. If they ask where it is, either say the money went towards petrol, DS's support, etc, that everything went as a job lot for a tenner or just that nobody put a single bid in, so you charity shopped it.


But then again, I could be grumbling because my Dyson finally disintegrated this morning. The plastic housing keeping the HEPA filter and the dust bucket bit together just shattered into a million pieces. Other bits have broken off previously, but this one prevents the creation of a vacuum. So no vacuuming today. :eek:

It's not worth fixing because the turbo brush is useless (clogs up constantly in the gears, not just the bar) and the housing costs more than anything else! It is probably about six years old and it has had a very, very hard life.

I'm debating whether to mark time with an incredibly cheap £20 cleaner and bang out on a Miele in the January sales or to get a slightly dearer one - a Bosch at £70 - and hope I can get away with it. Does anyone have a suggestion?

On a lighter note, BF phoned this morning to say that he finally feels well enough after his Swine Flu, chest infection and Seasonal Flu to come back up.

No more waiting for buses in the cold and rain for a couple of weeks

DD2 can be deposited at the school gates on time

DD2 can be collected from after school clubs in a warm, dry car

No walking DD2 to the church for the school carol service in the perishing cold, waiting outside for 45 minutes (as would take longer than that to get back home on bus) and then not getting back on a school night until way past her bedtime

Someone to help carry the Xmas shopping

Someone who can give me a cuddle without wanting some pocket money and will stay there for long enough to make it worth switching the heating off.

And someone who will be buying me a Christmas present without me having to pay for it

Been cleaning windows again today, place stinks of stardrops with bleach too. I think putting a thin layer of Mr Sheene over the WM, TD, DW and kitchen cupboard has helped keep them cleaner this week. I must remember that one more often...

Anyway - off to roast some chicken and potatoes for later!