Nice people thread

Davesnave

When you get to my age, it will be five days off!

GDB2222

michaels wrote: »

I went for my Cambridge interview in my ripped jeans and denim jacket; I was the only candidate there not in a suit and later found out that the other candidates had thought I was one of the undergrads there to answer questions. The interviewer asked me about my attire and my answer was that if it mattered then I had obviously applied to the wrong college - I suspect that is the only reason I got in and they regretted it for the next 3 years...

You say all this rather modestly, but wasn't it a bit of an ego trip on your part? You wanted them to take you despite your clothing, to accept you on your terms, because after all that would demonstrate how extra special you were if they did take you. It was a cry for love or reassurance. (Sorry to psycho-analyse you over the internet, knowing absolutely nothing about you!)

That's all par for the course if you were a teenager at the time, and I am sure they took that into account. I don't think that it really works for adults, though.

:-)

SingleSue

sjaypink wrote: »

Happy valentines day everyone! Who got what gifts then?

Absolutely begger all!

Mind you, I think it helps if you have admirers

michaels

Not forgetting I had a built in excuse for if they didn't take me - 'the conservative so and sos couldn't even see passed my clothes to my genius'

Like I said on the other thread about why people post here - it is cheaper than therapy

GDB2222 wrote: »

You say all this rather modestly, but wasn't it a bit of an ego trip on your part? You wanted them to take you despite your clothing, to accept you on your terms, because after all that would demonstrate how extra special you were if they did take you. It was a cry for love or reassurance. (Sorry to psycho-analyse you over the internet, knowing absolutely nothing about you!)

That's all par for the course if you were a teenager at the time, and I am sure they took that into account. I don't think that it really works for adults, though.

:-)

wageslave

GDB2222 wrote: »

You say all this rather modestly, but wasn't it a bit of an ego trip on your part? You wanted them to take you despite your clothing, to accept you on your terms, because after all that would demonstrate how extra special you were if they did take you. It was a cry for love or reassurance. (Sorry to psycho-analyse you over the internet, knowing absolutely nothing about you!)

That's all par for the course if you were a teenager at the time, and I am sure they took that into account. I don't think that it really works for adults, though.

:-)

I am not so sure it is an ego trip although it may easily termed arrogance. Which I accept can be seen as the same thing.

You know you are really good at something. Why the fu ck should you make a huge effort? Just turn up and they are lucky to get you.

I don't see how that is a childish thing. More like self belief.

Of course, for it to work, you need to be really exceptional at what you do.

Some people are.

They are ones that will always get hired irregardless of what they wear.

GDB2222

Ah, good point, I forgot the insurance angle of being obnoxious! As this seems to be confession time:-

Once upon a time long, long ago, in the times of the Cambridge entrance
exams, a youth decided to answer the question in the Physics paper on
"Design an experimental apparatus to measure the vapour pressure of Sodium
at 100 deg C". In the heat of the exam, said youth drew a very fine picture
of the apparatus including the feature of bubbling steam at atmospheric
pressure through the Sodium to ensure the 100 deg C. After the exam, the
youth thought "Sodium + steam = bad idea!", but by then it was too late. In
the fullness of time, he was admitted to the university. In fact, they gave
him a scholarship, as he wrote a particularly fine chemistry paper. Still,
physics is physics, and chemistry is chemistry, and the youth had been
careful not to mix them up in the exam.

3 years later, sitting in a practical Physics seminar, he was surprised to
hear the head of the Rutherford Laboratory running through the health and safety aspects of
experiments, and singling out the answer the youth had given in the exam
paper - no mention of the youth's name, but lots of graphic descriptions of
the likely blowing up of the laboratory and the effect of showering the
survivors in molten sodium. The youth never found out whether this had been put in the seminar specifically for the youth's benefit, or whether the Prof was so taken by the exam answer that he continued to use it in his seminars for the rest of his career.

lostinrates

wageslave wrote: »

I am not so sure it is an ego trip although it may easily termed arrogance. Which I accept can be seen as the same thing.

You know you are really good at something. Why the fu ck should you make a huge effort? Just turn up and they are lucky to get you.

I don't see how that is a childish thing. More like self belief.

Of course, for it to work, you need to be really exceptional at what you do.

Some people are.

They are ones that will always get hired irregardless of what they wear.

why make the effort? Courtesy. Its all very well being great at something, but its also nice to show respect and courtesy. There is a reason to go to a university with such history: there are courses equal to many Oxbridge courses at other uni's IMO, one of the reasons to go to them is the tradition, the histories, the people drawn to attend, but perhaps more importantly lecture, and become part of the histories them selves.

For all that, if someone tells me someone at one of those uni's who can remember what anyone is wearing I'd be amazed. Most can't remember the colour of the carpet in the room....(its a little game I play, much to DH's amusement). DH can't tell me the colour of the floor in his office, nor the colour of the wall in rooms he was brought up with for 25 years in various homes...

Davesnave

DD2 had to attend for interview last week at one of the country's better Art Colleges. She asked me how she should dress for the occasion and I replied that she should go as herself, adding: 'You know they're all weirdos at those places, anyway!'

So, she went as herself. After the interview she added: 'I suddenly realised that I was there to interview them. If they don't want me, fine, but I have to like them too.'

She was offered a place a few days later.:)

PasturesNew

I went for my meeting today ... feedback is I'm fantastic ... but the employer's looking for a "magic bit of paper" that I've not got ... and the other bugg4h has got... and you can't get the bit of paper unless you're in the job ... so they've specifically not said "no" yet, but the balance of probability is they'll go for the one with the bit of paper and not me. My experience is big/wide/fantastic and I passed muster ... I just don't have that magic stamp on my card... they (and I) know if they gave me the job I could quickly get the magic stamp, but at the moment they want to show off "the stamp" the other candidate's got to their clients in order to win more business. (All a bit cryptic, but didn't want to be too open about what it was.)

lostinrates

PasturesNew wrote: »

I went for my meeting today ... feedback is I'm fantastic ... but the employer's looking for a "magic bit of paper" that I've not got ... and the other bugg4h has got... and you can't get the bit of paper unless you're in the job ... so they've specifically not said "no" yet, but the balance of probability is they'll go for the one with the bit of paper and not me. My experience is big/wide/fantastic and I passed muster ... I just don't have that magic stamp on my card... they (and I) know if they gave me the job I could quickly get the magic stamp, but at the moment they want to show off "the stamp" the other candidate's got to their clients in order to win more business. (All a bit cryptic, but didn't want to be too open about what it was.)

Can you work for hem on W/e for a week/month to get the magic stamp? If it would tip the scales in your favour and the job is right, and it would help for other jobs might be worth making the offer.....