What are your thoughts on this?

BARGAINHUNTER!

Happy_Girl wrote: »

Is it that, or is it that the site publishes emails that have been sent through their site? Some of the emails shown on the site look quite specific as if they have been sent to one particular person, and not generic as if they are there for people to copy iykwim?

I have looked at the site and the site is there to enable people to send emails to somone else without revealing their identity. The site publishes all the emails that have been sent using it. The email was specific to me.

BARGAINHUNTER!

sarymclary wrote: »

Felicity - that's a bit of brilliant detective work! Well done. I've had a look at the rules of the site, and it looks like you can send an anonymous email, but it will always get posted on the site, which is why they recommend you don't specifically name someone.

OP, I wouldn't give any further response to the ex about this. However, I would mention it to a close friend or family member, just so that someone else is aware of it. Does this ex live anywhere near to you, or do your paths cross at all anymore? There are tweaks you can make to your privacy settings on facebook that can not alert, like a friend cull, but you can make it so that he cannot message you, see your daily updates, see or write on your wall, etc. I had to do this for someone who I met at a school reunion a few months back, and he then began to post constantly on my page, comment on my statuses, and try to instant message me. He now gets to see nothing, none of my pictures, statuses, the lot. I did it after I had been away on holiday, and my page would have been 'dormant' for a while, so it didn't arouse any immediate suspicion.

Luckily he does not live near me and I don't see him any more, just odd email and text. How do I put those setting on Facebook? if I delete him altogether it might force him to do something more so if I could just stop him interacting with me on Facebook but still keep him there as a 'friend' that would be good.

BARGAINHUNTER!

Zazen999 wrote: »

How convenient; of course we all delete threatening emails rather than save them for future evidence, don't we?

There is no way I would delete a threatening email if I had received one. But thanks to the website the contents of the email are there for all to see!

Zazen999

BARGAINHUNTER! wrote: »

There is no way I would delete a threatening email if I had received one. But thanks to the website the contents of the email are there for all to see!

No - my point is......that you'd only get rid of the evidence if you did it yourself. I'm guessing he doesn't know that you know about that website.

I'd do like sary said and go quiet on FB for a while and then just lose the connection.

In fact, I'd be inclined to message him a link to that website; through facebook and then immediately afterwards remove him entirely. Any further texts would result in an immediate charge of harassment.

bills_2

Felicity wrote: »

Hi, being a bit of a detective, I put some of that email into google (just wondering if your ex has posted anything about it on the web maybe asking for advice also) and came up with this ...

http://venompen.com/

I have no idea what it means though, but looks like a site where you can send anonymous emails from, just thought it might help a little, well maybe not, lol!

Your email was sent 24/11 via this site by the looks of it.

My advice, leave WELL alone, don't get involved at all.

Good luck!

Nice Detective work! OP just ignore it and try and not speak to the ex as much, put a bit of distance between you both

BARGAINHUNTER!

I have just had a chance to have a proper look at the venomon pen website www.venompen.com where the original email originated from. The email that my ex said that he had received is reference 4880 on the site, sent on 24/11 now the really strange thing is that if you scroll down a bit and look at reference 4738 sent on 28/10 the two posts are almost identical .......

Permalink 4738 Date 10/28/2009 Subject leave him alone. I know who you are, I know your texting him, and I know he texts back. You know who I mean...
Stop texting him, leave him alone or I will get your partners email address and tell him exactly whats been said. Do you think its good for your family, I know you have kids.
So it stops now or I tell. Tell my boyfriend I've emailed you and the situation will be worse FOR YOU not me.


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Zazen999

Crikey - perhaps he is going through his ex-list on a one man vendetta.

Felicity

OMG the plot thickens how VERY freaky indeed!

So the person who sent that email (your ex or another) ...

1. Is not very original and needed to copy some text from another email on that site, not likely IMO.

2. Is in the habbit of sending these things to people. Somebody who has too much time on their hands, is malicious and enjoys causing trouble. Do you know anybody who could fit this profile?

This leads me to think it is just some sad, jealous but probably harmless person. Best to stay clear though just in case is more sinister.

Prob a good idea to keep copies of those mails from that site just in case.

supermonkey

could it just be a random spam email? Did it defeintlyt mention you by name?

BARGAINHUNTER!

supermonkey wrote: »

could it just be a random spam email? Did it defeintlyt mention you by name?

No - the email posted at the top of this post was exactly as received, but trust me - it is not spam - it refers to me and my ex.