How can I meet 'the one'

jcr16

i know the saying don't look and your find it , is proberly doing your head in but it is so true.

i was 19 having a fantastic time, out all the time, loads of mates, clubbing prob 3 times a week, pub for the other 4 lol. i was loving life. felt i was missing something as i was desperate to settle down with my fella, but for 2 years of his broken promises , his lies, me thinking i was truely in love . i put up with his excuses blah blah blah. anyway we spilt up and i met someone else.

couple weeks into relationship i had a chance meeting with another guy.he seemed nice , but thought nothing of it. got talking anyway we had same circle of friend but never met ( my best mate and he went to college together and went way back), i knew both his brothers for years, his sister in law, both his neices and his nephew. he worked at the club i was at 3 times a week, again never saw him there.one of my ex's even lived 2 doors away from him and yet again never saw him.

anyway from that first time i met him may 21st 2001, we been together every day. we got married 14 months later in 02 and had our first child 03. He is definatly he ONE and all the time we were so close but just never knew it. i guess fate made us meet at the time which was right. nearly 9 years on and things are still perfect, sill feels like a honeymoon relationship. i love everything about him. we still hold hands when out and about, give cheeky little kisses like you do when your a teenager, when he touches me i have the butterflies of anticepation in my tummy. it is a fairy tale and i love it.
You will find it hun, and when it happens you will know instantly. i have to give my ex a huge thankyou tho, because all the times i thought i was in love, when i did find it i realised just what it was and how all the time before i was trying to convince myself it was.
i never thought the love of my life would be someone who i had so many connections with but i had jus not got round to meeting him.

Love is where you least expect to find it.

Lucy-Jane

I met my DH at 25 in a nightclub in London (a very cheesy one!) :eek: - I was out with a couple of girls from work and he was on a friend's birthday do.

I wasn't looking for anything serious - we've now been married 10 years and have 2 beautiful children and I couldn't imagine being with anyone else.

You will meet someone - it really will be when you're not expecting it (and then you can come back on this thread and tell us about it)! :rotfl:

myothercarisaferrari

Don't rely on someone else to make you happy - only you can do that x

Silverbird

Haven't read the other replies, but just wanted to say that you don't have to pay for internet dating!

Get yourself on a few free sites - Friends Reunited Dating or Yahoo Personals.

I met my husband on Yahoo Personals. Sometimes these things take time, but don't give up, as new people join all the time and there are people out there just like you that just want a loving relationship but can't seem to just stumble across partners like others can. Keep searching and my one bit of advice is please don't dismiss any men who don't use a profile picture - my husband hadn't gotten one and although I didn't fancy him on first sight, I fancied the pants off him by the second date and believe I'd fallen for his personality first, which has got to be a good thing (oh and it seems he hadn't got a pic because he hadn't got a scanner!)

Gingham_Ribbon

Men can smell desperation.

Apart from the obviously good advice to stop looking, I'll tell you what I did.

A friend and I had way too much to drink one night and set about writing a list each of qualities we wanted in a partner. I decided that I wasn't going to waste time with someone who didn't tick the boxes. (Literally.)

I found my husband within a couple of weeks. I think that was partly luck and partly that I'd sorted out my head a bit and made some decisions about what I deserved and what I wasn't prepared to put up with. It made for a great start to our relationship. I didn't pick someone completely unsuitable and I was prepared to walk away if it wasn't right.

Edit - oddly, I met him at her house the next time I visited her. She'd moved and he was her new landlord.

Alikay

Stop looking but try and get out more. Don't turn down invitations (unless they look really grim!), take up an evening class or similar, put your coat on and go for a walk - just get out there! You probably won't meet "the one" directly, but everyone has friends, brothers, colleagues.....

I'd known DH literally all our lives (kind of a cousin by marriage), but met up with him at a family wedding when we were both grown up and really got on well! It took a few years to actually get together but a very firm friendship developed from there.

happyrichard

I would say that you should give everyone a chance and not find faults too easily.

At the age of 26, I think you should chill out a little and let life take care of itself. Panic if you are still in this situation at 56.

Tete_en_l'Air

I HATE it when people tell you to stop looking! If you've been single long enough and know you want a relationship, then that is nigh-on impossible (I know).

The best bit of advice I ever read (in some daft magazine I think) was "Mr Right is not going to fall from the sky into your lap; you need to be proactive" - and yes, while people say join clubs, the gym, go out with your girlfriends - it's not always possible/desirable - last place I'd want a potential suitor to see me is in the gym!!

I say give internet dating another go, and this time actually MEET people. The more you meet, the more relaxed you'll become and the clearer your ideas of what you want will be. Don't give up on people because of one flaw - I didn't think much of my OH for our first few dates, but we've been together two years now and I think he's the best thing ever.

Good luck!

hellokitty08

Well, sounds like my life story too! lol, been single for a year now, and I am 26 too. Thing is I was with my ex for 7 1/2 years, so the whole dating thing is a bit scarey to me!

I work 6 days a week and one evening and do try to keep myself busy with meals out with friends, trips to the cinema, and i help at Weight Watchers one evening a week to. I am not the sort that goes out drinking too much, so feel a bit traped some times. I have been using Plenty of Fish (or PoF) its a good site and free, but no luck yet! In fact I am always complaining I dont get time to reply to the e-mails I do get. Doesnt mean I dont get lonley!

Think my ex made me really fussy about not settling for less (again) hehehehe