How can I meet 'the one'

smartie12

The "one" will turn up when you least expect it.

I found mine on MSE!!!:j

You are only 26. Enjoy your single life while you can;)

RoxieW

aww smartie that is so sweet!
I dont subscribe to all this if you stop looking it will happen. You have to make it happen. Try to increase your social life even if you are busy. That way you increase your chances of meeting someone and if not at least you are not lonely at home dwelling on it. Plus when you do meet someone you look all interest and popular which is very attractive..
I recently went on a bit of a social drive - it took a few weeks of effort. i joined a couple of clubs, got more involved with my childrens school, said hello to more people, text old friends, arrange nights out but now I have invitations coming out of my ears! What are your interests/hobbies? Perhaps you could join a gym or enlist some girl friends on some pre-xmas nights out. Nurture yourself, pamper yourself, make an effort with your appearance and your social skills and when 'the one' comes your way he wont know what has hit him!
good luck

Morglin

You could always join an online dating/friendship site - Sarah Beeny (Property Ladder) owns this one that is apparantly reputable.

http://www.mysinglefriend.com/

Lin

gerryscot

Someday your prince charming will come. Mine just took a wrong turn, got lost, and is too stubborn to ask for directions.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

minerva_windsong

Kay_Peel wrote: »

Have you made any sort of social life through your University? It sounds like you could do with some fun in your life. Surely the University has a society or a group that would appeal to you.

I nearly dropped through the floor when my daughter, a mature student, told me that she had joined the Uni's Scuba Diving Club. She explained that she hadn't gone mad but had noticed that there were only a couple of girls and a LOAD of hunky lads having a lot of fun and weekends away. She also went to receptions and events held by the Post-Graduates, who were more of her age (26) and who welcomed mature students.

Her most successful forays onto the dating scene came when she volunteered to work in the charity shop near to the University. Funny old world.

I agree with that idea - I met the majority of friends from uni that I'm still in touch with through student societies, and we had plenty of members who were mature students. I also met my boyfriend of two and a half years through a student society.

However, I wouldn't join it just to meet people, but more to meet people generally. That's how you create the random connections, you'll meet someone and then meet someone else through them, and on it goes. I do however agree that if you get on with enjoying your life that a potential partner is more likely to show up.

Curlywurli

Not much help, but you'll meet someone when you least expect it. I had seen a fortune teller who told me that I would meet someone within the last year, he'd be the love of my life bla, bla, bla. At the very end of that year my uni friends and I went house hunting. We got the wrong bus back, saw a nice pub and went in. My future husband was sitting in there. The strange thing is that the fortune teller had told me that a hospital was important- we were going out on a date and happened to drive past my old flat- turns out he'd lived there too in exactly the same flat (right opposite a hospital)- two years before!!!
I never dreamt that I'd meet anyone or have a family, but ten years later (married for five) I'm sitting here in our house with our two little children having a nap upstairs. I seriously never thought I'd meet anyone, I'm really shy and lacking in confidence. I never seemed to meet anyone nice. But I think sometimes things are meant to be. I wonder what would have happened if we hadn't got on the wrong bus. Go out and about, meet people, chat to anyone and see what happens- Good luck!

WolfSong2000

I know exactly how you feel! I don't socialise nearly as much as I should and pretty much all the guys I know are just friends. Others have made excellent suggestions about going and and getting more involved - great way to meet people. Getting your friends to set you up on a blind date is another (more risky) possibility.

As for me, after 23 years of being single and absolutely no real relationships to speak of (although plenty of first dates - none ever went beyond that, though) I got asked out (via facebook of all things) by a guy who lives accross the hall from me in my block of flats. Still early days, but touch wood it's going well. Utterly random encounter, but I'm not complaining!

Fuzzy_Duck

I know how you feel, I was single for ages until I got talking to my OH who found me on MySpace of all things :rolleyes: Met up with him and he became my first boyfriend, and we're still going strong.

Before then I didn't go out all that much and I was too shy to approach anyone anyway. I really would suggest a free dating site like plentyoffish if you've already been using dating sites. As it's free it does attract the odd weirdo, but going on as many dates as possible does increase your chances.

I think finding male friends is a good idea to be honest, but it does depend on the person. Some people wouldn't dream of dating a male friend, but it works for others. If I was asked who my best friend was I would always say my boyfriend, which was true for the brief time we were together before we dated!

Zozo1985

Keep your chin up, take the fact that you want to be in a relationship off your mind, be confident and flirty around blokes that you like, and take chances.

The dates that you keep putting off may be your potential 'one'. You have to give people the chance and see if you get on and have a laugh. If you don't its dating experience and something you can look back on and laugh if it was a dating disaster! We have all had them, and gone out with blokes who seemed so much more nicer after a few glasses of wine but just werent that 'one' after that first date.

I have always been the girl whos like 'one of the lads' and been single practically most my life but I have now met my Mr Perfect and we now live together. I always thought I would be the last to settle down and find someone but how things change all of a sudden. I never went looking for it, it all just happened through meeting through friends up town and being very simular once we got chatting

He is out there don't worry and you will eventually meet

rev229

At your age I felt the same and was persuaded to join a dating agency. Back then there was no online stuff it was all face to face meetings or telephone calls. The first few men I was matched with were a bit odd but I carried on. Anyway the 6th person I met was the one! We hit it off straight away! Moved in with him 6 weeks later and married him a year later. We have been together for 15 yrs and have 2 kids and a dog!! We have been together through sickness and health, richer and poorer and better and worse!! But would not swap him for anything! Everyone else we knew had been together years before they married and most weren't even engaged by the time we married or had the kids. We both knew what we wanted when we met ie marriage etc. So trying joining an on-line dating site and meet up with some of the people. After all they have joined for the same reason.