How can I meet 'the one'

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Fuzzy_Duck wrote: »

I think finding male friends is a good idea to be honest, but it does depend on the person. Some people wouldn't dream of dating a male friend, but it works for others. If I was asked who my best friend was I would always say my boyfriend, which was true for the brief time we were together before we dated!

True. And I think it might work for some people if it's a relatively "new" friend. My best friend is a bloke I've known since childhood - literally decades. I think it's hard to find someone "attractive" if you grow up with them.

becky_rtw

smartie12 wrote: »

The "one" will turn up when you least expect it.

I found mine on MSE!!!:j

You are only 26. Enjoy your single life while you can;)

Me too :D:j:j

(oh and take up running - plenty of hot single men in not a lot of clothes who are very friendly :cool:)

Puzzledbubbles

i agree with everyone else

I think that relationships grow from the strangest of seeds.

At the tender age of 17 i had a very good friend who at the ripe old age of 25 gave me the following piece of advice:

the most attractive thing is seeing someone having fun

A few years later, i know say that one of my mantras is sing like no one is listening, dance as if no one is watching, love as if you have never been hurt and live like there is no tomorrow.

I think you have to be happy in yourself and stop trying too hard and he will suddenly arrive

Oh, and quite a few friends have had luck on the Sarah Beanie site and some random friendship site which i think is called something like Zumba????????

Hope that this helps, and good luck

lostinrates

Again, stop looking! Looking for anyone to date is hard enough, looking for ''the one'' is near impossible. You don't have much time, but you have to make some. Between my last long term relationship and my next (when I got married) I made sure I was doing something social at least 3 times a week...with friends, with dates, whatever. For a start, new friends, new dates and even...the one can't find you if you are busy working or studying. Studying is crucial of course, but you might need to focus it a little more, be more organised using other bits of spare time and make revision notes for each lecture the same day, so that you have them to crib from over the week, and prepared for before exams.

and don't find fault too quickly...give anyone (who doesn't give you the creeps!) at least one chance and unless they do something unforgivable...a second chance. People do/say silly things if they are nervous/excited and I liked to think, when I was dating, that people were excited and/or nervous about taking me out. DH, of....almost five years, was someone I gave the benefit of the doubt over and went out again.

dieselhead

Aww thanks everyone, some good advice, I will try to get out more! Maybe I will give some of the free dating sites a go!

But most of all I will try to keep a simile on my face!

Minimum_Wage_2

hello, i am sorry but i thought you were male seeking a male, :eek: dont know why.
its all well and good your friends meeting people but then i they with the right people and is everything good? At least this way you are saving yourself from any heartache.

im free, single and lonely but it hasn't stopped me from still getting on with my life :T
just enjoy what you have and maybe once a month go out with your friends, :j there is always that chance of meeting someone, no matter what you are doing. you dont have to go out and look for them as you will never find them. find new friends make new friends.:beer:

dieselhead

Minimum_Wage wrote: »

hello, i am sorry but i thought you were male seeking a male, :eek: dont know why.

:rotfl::rotfl: Just to clarify I am female seeking a male!!

Have been thinking about what everyone has said and how do you know if you really like someone or if its just wishful thinking as you are desperate?

Jinx

I echo the thoughts that you should get out there and socalise, join a dating site, join a club, Mr Right probably won't knock at the door (unless you're having a house renovation maybe!!)

Back in 2003 I hadn't met 'the one' in pubs and clubs (and blind dates were a disaster!) so joined a dating site. I chose a paying one as I figured someone paying for a service would be more actively looking.

I spent the next 2 years having a blast! I chatted to lots of nice people and got to know and date nice men and went to the arranged nights out which were great, really good fun. Ulimately I hadn't met the one and decided to shelve it when I had the opportunity to meet someone who worked away and I had chatted to online for 18 mths....

We got married a fortnight ago :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

moonkee

I think everyone has felt like that at times but only for fleeting moments. Organise more girlie evenings out - NOT to meet men but to socialise and relax. The annoying thing is that the second you're happy alone the second you meet the right person.

Oh and I do advise against internet dating. My housemate is going through the same thing but she keeps meeting terrible men on the internet. In the dozens. Not one has been even half decent. One was married, another had kids, several had ex girlfriend issues and at least a dozen attempted/succeeded to sleep with her then she never heard from them again.

I'm sure it works for some people but you're 26. It's not for you yet!

Souk08

dieselhead wrote: »

Have been thinking about what everyone has said and how do you know if you really like someone or if its just wishful thinking as you are desperate?

You just know if you fancy someone and they are decent. I'm a bit different to most of the posters in that I love being single, have been all my life and just love my life and all the fun I have. However if I let my single life be rubbish then I WOULD be desperate to meet someone. What I'm saying is, build a life that you can enjoy without a man and if you meet a great one then bonus but if not, then no big deal. Best of luck X