Getting your faith back in the other sex

ben500

Hope I didn't upset the op, it's just that for the briefest of moments this did look like the thread to be reading.

lilmissmup

I am the OP Ben and found it funny don;t worry!

lilmissmup

So I guess it hasn't then? Would he consider counselling for your relationship?

Brighton_belle

I think you can block emails from known addresses.

Cheering stories: I met my lovely, kind OH when I was 39 after being single for a very long time. I had to do alot of work on myself before i met him - had some counselling to learn what I really wanted in life and who I was and that I was worth loving. That's the key I think, having that confidence to be attracted to someone you deserve and not setting your sights low.

My OH is not perfect, but he is loving, kind and thinks the world of me - and backs that up with small everyday actions. I don't have to be anyone else but the real me with him. And that is blissful. We laugh together every day and he is always cuddling me.

Your ex talking about 'love' is laughable really isn't it - he truely doesn't know the meaning of the word - I suggest he means lust.
Good luck - you are asking all the right questions to make a much better future for yourself.

lilmissmup

I hope he did love me at some point over the six years otherwise I think that makes it worse but I get what you mean.

He didn't get any thing like that from me since we split though.

worriedsik

lilmissmup wrote: »

I hope he did love me at some point over the six years otherwise I think that makes it worse but I get what you mean.

He didn't get any thing like that from me since we split though.

i have been through similar recently too , its over now but i did have to get the police involved because the emails txts & txts yo my landline (when i changed mobile number !)
i loved him but he was tearing me apart and like you he had sucked me back in so many times before that i had to take the drastic action and get the police to isue him a warning (very sad but necessary for my own sanity)
iam now healing because there is no contact & asking myself the same Q ''did he really love me'' i have came to the conclusion that he probably did love me but not in the way i wanted or deserved to be loved
iam also in the position now that the thought off another relationship turns my stomach and iam hoping that one day this will change because its a scary thought isnt it ? iam enjoying being single & busy fixing myself joined college etc
This relationship was also my second off the same type off guy and both times i got involved with these types i was at a low in my life
iam now very aware off this and it wont happen again because iam going to make sure i dont enter into any relationship untill iam mentally healthy again

worriedsik

Brighton_belle wrote: »

I think you can block emails from known addresses.

Cheering stories: I met my lovely, kind OH when I was 39 after being single for a very long time. I had to do alot of work on myself before i met him - had some counselling to learn what I really wanted in life and who I was and that I was worth loving. That's the key I think, having that confidence to be attracted to someone you deserve and not setting your sights low.

My OH is not perfect, but he is loving, kind and thinks the world of me - and backs that up with small everyday actions. I don't have to be anyone else but the real me with him. And that is blissful. We laugh together every day and he is always cuddling me.

Your ex talking about 'love' is laughable really isn't it - he truely doesn't know the meaning of the word - I suggest he means lust.
Good luck - you are asking all the right questions to make a much better future for yourself.

nice story i hope this happens for me one day although iam now 47 !!! so iam kinda thinking now its me on my own forever lol

lilmissmup

God worriedsik thats really bad, I have just spent the last few months not wanting to carry my phone round with me.

He would leave all contact for a maximum of 10 days and then text me, but even if it was to say Hi it would either get my hopes up or he would text me something meaning he knew I would ask more and then would just tell me it was nothing :rolleyes:

I think this must be the end now, I doubt he was happy being told the home truths I told him that I didn't think he was a nice guy and that he only came running back to get kicks.

If he does contact me again I hope its only to admit the truth, although I know it, I am seriously hoping I don't hear from him for a long long time if ever again cos its never gonna end civil ally as much as I tried it too, it aways got confusing or nasty again on both sides.

worriedsik

lilmissmup wrote: »

God worriedsik thats really bad, I have just spent the last few months not wanting to carry my phone round with me.

He would leave all contact for a maximum of 10 days and then text me, but even if it was to say Hi it would either get my hopes up or he would text me something meaning he knew I would ask more and then would just tell me it was nothing :rolleyes:

I think this must be the end now, I doubt he was happy being told the home truths I told him that I didn't think he was a nice guy and that he only came running back to get kicks.

If he does contact me again I hope its only to admit the truth, although I know it, I am seriously hoping I don't hear from him for a long long time if ever again cos its never gonna end civil ally as much as I tried it too, it aways got confusing or nasty again on both sides.

lilmiss....it was bad and upsetting but i had no option as he had me on a string & i was going back and forth with him like a yo-yo
they dont like the truths so you may find you are off no use to him now, now that you have him sussed out
he would come running back just to make sure he could get you back put you on the pedestal then pull the rug from beneath it

Brighton_belle

worriedsik wrote: »

nice story i hope this happens for me one day although iam now 47 !!! so iam kinda thinking now its me on my own forever lol

Thanks worried sik (I love your sig)- my OH was 44 and he (like me) though he'd be on his own for ever too, so keep believing that it can happen if you want it to in the future
But you are doing great getting back on your feet on your own and not looking to be rescued by another relationship - this is a very good sign. Well done re college course and realising your pattern and being determined to break it