Getting your faith back in the other sex

lilmissmup

Okies I haven't exactly been secret on this website about my personal life over last few months, I have shared my break up with many people on here and have had some great support.

I have suffered a lot of pain and heartbreak at the hands of my ex esp last few weeks ,I got "played" when I promised myself I wouldn't let it happen after my first love did it too.

Right now I am not looking for a relationship nor will I be for a long time as I feel I can only just start getting my life back on track but can any of you please give me some stories of meeting the people that truely deserved you because right now I am only 25 and feel like I am just gonna get trampled over by people I thought loved me for the rest of my life!

Oldernotwiser

I would learn to enjoy your independence rather than trying to rush into another relationship. Why not ask for stories about how great it is to be single and all the things that you can do when you have no ties?

LydiaJ

Hi lilmissmup

There are some decent guys out there, but it sounds like you don't tend to pick them. If you want a better relationship next time, you'll need to become a better picker. (I need to do that too!) Work on getting yourself as emotionally healthy and mature as you can, and you'll find you attract (and are attracted to) other emotionally healthy and mature people.

lilmissmup

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

I would learn to enjoy your independence rather than trying to rush into another relationship. Why not ask for stories about how great it is to be single and all the things that you can do when you have no ties?

These are welcome too!!!

I really am not looking for anyone else just don't wanna turn into a man hater which I am on the verge off right now!

lilmissmup

LydiaJ wrote: »

Hi lilmissmup

There are some decent guys out there, but it sounds like you don't tend to pick them. If you want a better relationship next time, you'll need to become a better picker. (I need to do that too!) Work on getting yourself as emotionally healthy and mature as you can, and you'll find you attract (and are attracted to) other emotionally healthy and mature people.

I like to try and blame it on the fact I got with my ex when I was 18 and I grew up, he didn't, not in the way I needed anyway. Maybe now I am older when the time comes it will be better.

myothercarisaferrari

Evening,

I'm not sure if you followed my ups and downs over the last few months. I came out of three year relationship (his choice, not mine) in September and it broke my heart.

I am getting on with things, due to move into a new flat (!!) near my mum's in the next few weeks and rebuild my life as a 'me' rather than a 'we' and I cannot wait. I am nervous and apprehensive, but excited at the same time.

I am only a year older than you and I am not even thinking about a relationship now. Boys do no even enter my mind, the thought of being close to someone again makes me nauseaous!

Live your life the way you want to and you will meet some when you least expect it.

If you fancy a chat or a wibble please feel fre to PM me :-)

Minimum_Wage_2

take this time to chill out and build you health back up, im sure that in time you will find the right person for you but for now use this time as your time!

lilmissmup

I really am not thinking about being with anyone else.

My ex told me last month that he still loved me and that he wasn't sure he didn't want to be with me when actually hes been talking to other women in real life and online, and was only coming back to me when he had been knocked back by them and then tried to deny half of what he said to me so I just want to hear some happy stories cos both the men I have loved have strung me along after they left me, I must have a sign on my head saying "fool"

jak

What a complete git! Well i'm in a similar situation as I think we've chatted about before... However, my Aunty Rosemary never had a boyfriend or ANYTHING until she was 67...then she met the love of her life and they are so happy and very sweet together...So you see, it can happen at any age. you just need to meet the right person. But equally, don't accept someone into your life if they are not worthy of you. I know it sounds obvious but I agree with LydiaJ. That is such good advice. And I shall be following that advice too...
Good luck and chin up!
J
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sleepytiger

Hi lilmissmup. Thought I'd share my story with you. I had the worst history of relationships, dating idiot after commitment phobe after psycho after waste of space and eventually, after one too many awful breakups and having my heart broken repeatedly, I swore off men. I decided I was happier on my own and that my dating days were over. Shortly after this, a really sweet guy asked me out. I wasn't really up for it, but I went anyway, and didn't treat it like a date. I was myself, I didn't play any of the usual games. To my surprise he liked this and asked to see me again, and slowly he won me over. We've been together for ages.

OH isn't perfect but he treats me nicely and tells me I'm beautiful and that he loves me every single day.

So don't write them all off. There are nice ones out there and eventually you'll find one.

jak

As for getting your faith back, well i've just spend the whole day trying to get to my (lying, cheating) husbands phone to see if he's seeing anyone now we've seperated. I am so sad... BUT he is a major liar! Anyway, I think I really need to take that advice and get a life!!!