finding friends

Careful_girl

Hey Shez, how are you?
Having bored Urbs with my wingeing, I am going to start to close all the reports i have not done and go to bed.
Thanks all for being cool.
especially Urbs she has many smilies....in her store.
Night!
CG:j

urban_spirit

Morning shez.

Night shez. That was a quick conversation!:p

urban_spirit

Its been lovely chatting to you all, and fab we have some newbies joining in!

Hope you all have sweet dreams xx

savingforoz

Ghost wrote:

Oh, I'm so sorry I missed yours Urban Spirit! That'll teach me for rushing through a thread - lazy girl! *slaps own wrist*

Your Jasper and Jezebel are GORGEOUS too! In fact, they look very similar to my beautiful two-year old Daisy, and she's got a similar fleece with pawprints - but in red!

Here's a photo of my Poppy - just a link as it's a big file - she's a little darling and so cute! http://www.asksophie.f2s.com/poppy.JPG

Good morning everyone - I can personally vouch for the fact that Poppy and Daisy are gorgeous, as is their mum Lily! Morning to you, Ghost - you know who I am!

Wish I could post a pic of my little Sophie but accidentally deleted them all
off my PC recently - she is a cute black short hair who rules me with a iron paw.

Have read this thread with interest as I agree that many of us would like more friends in our lives, and not just casual ones but close ones with whom we can really share our feelings and thoughts and have lots of laughs. Hope you all have a great time at the Southampton meet - up!

urban_spirit

Hello friends

Hope youre all having a good (overcast and drizzly) sunday!

Another sleepless night, totally shattered. Focused on CV making today. Can anyone recommend any good job hunting websites??

Welcome to savingforoz. I love the 'rules me with an iron paw'!! Fab!! :T Got a demanding cat just the same Yep, would like more friends that you didnt have to return their knives from your back when they leave!

Am just making a cuppa - anyone want one??? Settling down to watch dermie for an hour at 1.30pm - slurp!

Hope youre all touched (no, wait for it) by a little happiness today

Zon_2

Thriftylady wrote:

it doesn't sound pathetic to me at all. its often said that loneliness is the last great taboo in our society - people find it easier to admit publicly to being a drug addict, or having been abused as a child, or any number of traumatic things, than they do to admit that they are lonely and would like to make friends....

Have been reading most of the posts from this thread,thanks to the original poster for having the guts to say what 99% of us wouldnt like to admit at all!

For a male perspective on things,my tuppence worth,i know there have been other contributors before this!

My perspective on things could perhaps be called a bit like looking from outside since Im Asian by origin,have been in the UK for 5 years now and hence can sense the difference in cultural sensibilities.

Sadly this increasing isolation seems to be part and parcel of the Western world,where family relationships are literally up the creek in a good majority(fortunately once in a way you do see people who are in a relationship that makes your heart glow as well!)Empathy in general is less in the western world,probably thats because everyone seems to have enough problems and issues already!

As a male,I can understand that most of us would put up and manage with things,again it depends I guess on how much of a private person you are!
I was married to a person who was a hell of a dominant character, lost all contact with everyone else,have to sit at home,NO contact whatsoever with anyone else(Note that this does not imply that one would want to have affairs etc!!)
(An example of how bad things were-Ran after and nearly assaulted a girl who made a comment(compliment) about me on the tube escalator.I escaped big time trouble only because I was quicker and pulled her down to the floor before anything happened)


Think of it and I was even lonelier ! in the relationship than now that Im out of it.Life is good nowadays and Im not going around either!
Just a message to all you girls,give your man the relative freedom he needs(obviously doesnt mean anything unreasonable)
Chain him down and you see life ebbing away!
Now things look bright, there is always a chance that I would meet someone who is suited to me!
Relationships are like walking a tightrope,one has to find the right person,and continue to maintain the right balance.


Very occasionally one does feel lonely but then you think of the(possible) hassle in a fulltime relationship and you think maybe not!

Which is why I would prefer good friends anyday to the suffocation of an emotionally draining relationship!!

Thanks for listening to this ramble!!

urban_spirit

Zon wrote:

Have been reading most of the posts from this thread,thanks to the original poster for having the guts to say what 99% of us wouldnt like to admit at all!

For a male perspective on things,my tuppence worth,i know there have been other contributors before this!

My perspective on things could perhaps be called a bit like looking from outside since Im Asian by origin,have been in the UK for 5 years now and hence can sense the difference in cultural sensibilities.

Sadly this increasing isolation seems to be part and parcel of the Western world,where family relationships are literally up the creek in a good majority(fortunately once in a way you do see people who are in a relationship that makes your heart glow as well!)Empathy in general is less in the western world,probably thats because everyone seems to have enough problems and issues already!

As a male,I can understand that most of us would put up and manage with things,again it depends I guess on how much of a private person you are!
I was married to a person who was a hell of a dominant character, lost all contact with everyone else,have to sit at home,NO contact whatsoever with anyone else(Note that this does not imply that one would want to have affairs etc!!)
(An example of how bad things were-Ran after and nearly assaulted a girl who made a comment(compliment) about me on the tube escalator.I escaped big time trouble only because I was quicker and pulled her down to the floor before anything happened)


Think of it and I was even lonelier ! in the relationship than now that Im out of it.Life is good nowadays and Im not going around either!
Just a message to all you girls,give your man the relative freedom he needs(obviously doesnt mean anything unreasonable)
Chain him down and you see life ebbing away!
Now things look bright, there is always a chance that I would meet someone who is suited to me!
Relationships are like walking a tightrope,one has to find the right person,and continue to maintain the right balance.


Very occasionally one does feel lonely but then you think of the(possible) hassle in a fulltime relationship and you think maybe not!

Which is why I would prefer good friends anyday to the suffocation of an emotionally draining relationship!!

Thanks for listening to this ramble!!

Hi Zon, and welcome to our friendly thread. Sounds like you had a really horrific expereince with your ex, good that youre out of it and can breathe again and be yourself.

From my humble observatons, I feel that what fits under the umbrella of 'the family unit' - which was once large - has shrunk incredibly leaving a lot of people on the outside of it, lost. I think its really sad.

Re. the message to all us girls - please dont generalise us thinking were all the same. Dont do that. The abuse is down to actions of the individual regardless of what sex they are. I've never emotionally or spiritually stranged anyone, i'm a laid-back kind of girl. I have had abusive relationships with men, but I dont think youre all the same - you're all individuals and I respect that.

I do hope you meet someone that makes you happy, and you make them happy in return. I think if youre with the right person the relationship is a pleasure, not a hassle.
Good friends though are priceless.

Come and ramble as much as you want - we all do!!!


CG - can I lend some sunshine please?? Cold, grey and wet here and a amchine load of wet washing (pants!). Hope youre getting some peace, and youre having a ''good'' day xxx

Back to CV-ing for a bit

whatamess_2

Yep, would like more friends that you didnt have to return their knives from your back when they leave!

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Afternoon peps. Finished work not to bad a shift, loads of bloody paper work had to be done.:eek:

Weather pretty crap here as well, overcast but not wet.

Nice to have a perspective from a male from a different culture.
Zon as has already been said we are not all the same in relationships, I have had a physically and emotionally abusive one, and one that I thought was nigh on perfect. (bit wrong on that score). Relationships are all about give and take so long as you are not the one doing all the giving, or taking.

On a lighter note supposed to going to a 21st party for one of the girls in my team but need a kick up the bum to get there.

Messy

whatamess_2

OMG just found out peachpickle lives in the same town as me.:D
The far southeast of the uk that time has forgotten.
Or as I say on occasion `this god forsaken place` Nowhere in the uk is quite like `Thanet`

Messy

ukbadger_2

Gosh - how many posts to read ??

Back from parents bbq , it was great but their t'inernet connection was stuffed and I missed checking to see how everyone is doing.

I was supposed to be meeting my new gumtree friend to watch the footie but my niece thought she would see if my mobile would float in a glass of milk this morning and it is not surprisingly reacting quite badly to the experience ! Upshot is I couldn't contact friend so arrange the meet and I don't have her number written down :mad: ( think I should have learnt to keep a note of the numbers after the phone down toilet incident !). I'm really annoyed - not with my niece as she's pretty adorable (told me she wants to marry me today - pre milk incident), but I was looking forward to meeting up today. I have sent friend a msn messenger to explain why I haven't been in contact - I just hope she isn't too put out.

Another bit of gossip is that I have been cajoled into a blind date tomorrow - it's possibly too soon after ending relationship but to be honest it was over months ago anyway. I am looking forward to it but this is where all my insecurities about my looks come out of the woodwork. It's better now as I feel less needy of a man in my life now that I am making progress on the 'get a life' front.

You guys rock.

Come on England !!!