i cant sleep

pavlovs_dog

my heart goes out to you emma.

reading your OP, it sounds like the period was kind of a sign that there definately was no more baby (i remember you mentioned something about phantom pregnancy in your other thread)..perhaps the insomia was your body's way of dealing with the grief?

im glad to read that you are now feeling better, and are talking to people rather than bottling it all up inside.

have you and OH thought about doing something together to remember the baby by? i know it must be hard to lose a baby so early in pregnancy - i suppose in some weird way it must be easier to deal with a still birth, because you can have a funeral and put the baby to rest. perhaps it would help with the grieving, and in turn, the healing process if you did something to recognise the life of the child that you lost, and perhaps name the child and plant a tree in its honour, so that you can lay them to rest.

from my limited understanding of what it must be like to go through a miscarriage, i know that guilt is a key emotion. perhaps doing something in honour of the baby would help you to come to terms with the fact that it sadly wasnt meant to be, and that the baby was too good for this world, but that none of that is your fault.

thinking of you. all the best

p_d

regularsaver1

This is a touching post

Glad you are feeling better

emma_b_4

Thanks again every1, im returning to work tomoro, feel really nervous, this week had flown by, i can sleep now though and get through the day without crying so im okay!
the leaflets were fab im going to make a donation as a thankyou if anyone else is interested https://www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk they really were very good.and i dont feel like a freak now aftre reading and talking to them..

also https://www.babyloss.com is a good sight too for anyone else who has had the same experiences as me

xx

Fran

Great that you're getting sleep and are feeling better. :T

I've added those websites to "Useful Links" on the benefits board in case anyone else finds them useful too.

emma_b_4

Thankyou

they have been very useful to me xx

emma_b_4

dont know if ite my eyes , but check the babyloss link i think you have put bablyloss ? maybe not might just be my tired eyes x

Fran

emma_b wrote:

dont know if ite my eyes , but check the babyloss link i think you have put bablyloss ? maybe not might just be my tired eyes x

Thanks, I have changed it now.

Careful_girl

Emma I still think you should go to see your GP. As someone said they will not make you take things you don't want. I have always found them very good listeners and can refer you just like this lovely lot of friends you have. Degrees realtionships pregnancies and miscarriages are all hefty things to cope with. You need some professional support where they can follow you up in the future. You sound as though you are doing really well and we all admire you. There is no need to be worried about seeing your GP when you have coped with all this.
Best wishes and lots of hugs,
CG

Turning_into_scrooge

I sleep absolutely dreadful, 3 hours to me is heaven. My sleep problems started just before i was diagnosed with depression about 6/7 years ago. The anti depressants did make me sleep for a while but then unfortunately i was in a car accident which caused other problems. I have given up where sleep t night is concerned now as it takes the pressure off. I'm still awake at 5 or 6AM and sleep until 8 or 9 am at the latest i take meds to help but they don't work. Best advise is what Fran said, check it out with your GP my original depression stemmed from grieving which i was ignoring by trying to live what i thought was a normal life. It does get better my didn't but that was through another area. Try not to stress about it too as that makes it worse, but do see your GP they will more than likely be able to help.

Just a last thought a friend of mine recently had a miscarriage which she wasn't coping very well with, i sugested to her to name a star after the baby. She did do, she chose a name that could be for a boy or a girl and she had a necklace that she wears with the little tag on it representing the star. I think she said it cost about £8 or £10. Just something to think about.

Turning_into_scrooge

Dora_the_Explorer wrote:

Hello Emma, good news that you had a better night's sleep.

http://www.livinglifetothefull.com/elearning/index.php?option=com_frontpage&Itemid=1

might help you to sort out your thoughts. The site is supported and promoted by the NHS. Best wishes.

thank you for this post Dora, I've had a look at the link which ive saved to have a proper look at when i'm feeling more up to it.:T :beer: