i cant sleep

emma_b_4

hi claudie and thanks, i might get some st johns wort, i dont want anything on prescription, or need it for that matter! last night i slept 5-6 hours which is double what i have been doing, i think its cos i spoke to some1 honestly and had a really good cry (rather than biting my lip and keeping tears hidden to not upset family etc)
i also spke to my mum and MIL and admitted that i was struggling 'behind the scenes' which was hard but i felt better. i dont want to keep bringing up the MC with ppl, i cant pin point why i am getting upset, im not depressed though, i think maybe i kept myself so busy after it happened that i didnt just grieve.. ?
anyway feeling much brighter today after sleeping some more, i have been getting up at 7am not matter how much sleep i had..other day i was still awake at 6am, then got up at 7am, harsh, but i do agree with keeping with a routine for your body clock.

thanks again you are all stars and have helped me through such a difficult time. i knw mse probably isnt the best place to discuss what i have brought up recently but if it has helped anyone else as much as me than its been worth it

(((((((((((((((((((((((((big hugs))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

thankyou xxxx

Dora_the_Explorer_5

Hello Emma, good news that you had a better night's sleep.

http://www.livinglifetothefull.com/elearning/index.php?option=com_frontpage&Itemid=1

might help you to sort out your thoughts. The site is supported and promoted by the NHS. Best wishes.

skyrocket

Hi Emma

I hope you are feeling a bit better since taking your exam.
Grief after a miscarriage takes as long as it takes, there is no right or wrong. The most important thing now is that you and hubby take care of yourself as best you can, try and eat healthily and just take as long as you need to heal.
Stuff what everyone else thinks! They didn't go through it, you did. Family and friends often try to say well-meaning things and the end result is you end up wincing through some of that stuff they say!
I am a hypnotherapist and will send you my Relaxation cd if you want, just pm me your address. You can listen to it before bed.
Go to these counselling sessions, it really helps to talk to a neutral party.
If ever you want a chat just pm me, I'm here.
Sky x

emma_b_4

thankyou so much, i will PM you after i type this

i have just spoken to someone at the miscarriage association and she was lovely and i had a good cry and feel a bit happier now - its like evrytime i cry i feel a bit better - which must be grief. she is sending me some leaflets out and also gave me the number of some1 else who is now a counsellor, some1 who has personally had a miscarriage. it has really helped me just to speak to some1 for half an hour.

also today i have applied for the gmtv wedding competition, which has given me something good to dream about tonight...

my friends and family have all tried their best through what must have been a hard time for them, after all, what do you say ?

if there has been, orhas to be, one positive thing to come out of this it has to be that i have realised how much i love my OH (soppy sorry) hes a bl**dy star

i was going to go to herbalists today but i look a bit of a fright what with crying and having no sleep so think i will leave it till tomoro ..!..

thanks again
i really do love this site its soooo much more than moneysaving xxxxxxxxxxx

hollydays

glad your feeling better

Js_Other_Half

Well done on your exam - and being able to talk about everything to both tutors and the miscarriage association.

bestpud

Glad you've found some support and you're feeling happier.

Congratulations on passing the exam too - must have been a big relief to get it out of the way.

Savvy_Sue

Dora_the_Explorer wrote:

There's a latin phrase for it which I can't remember but it means He Was Sick.

Aegrotat.

Congratulations on passing your exam.

I have a CD from Meditainment for relaxation and sleep. I like it because it isn't hypnosis or religiously oriented at all. Got mine from Amazon but I saw it in a shop first. Rarely stay awake to the end.

You're doing all the right things: talking to people, getting help etc. Grief affects us all differently - and there are times I still grieve for the baby I lost 17.5 years ago! Not to alarm you, I'm not always affected by it, but sometimes something crops up and I just feel sad.

And another thing is to try not to worry about not being able to sleep. OK it's grim, but I find it better to lie there thinking pleasant thoughts rather than "Oh no, I'm not going to get more than x hours sleep and I'm going to be wrecked tomorrow." I know it can be hard, but I try not to worry about anything until I have to, IYSWIM, and that includes how I'm going to feel tomorrow.

One final word ... be aware that SJW can interact with other things you're taking. I know the pill is one, so that's just something to be aware of.

emma_b_4

hi

i havent got any herbal remedies yet, and im not on the pill or anything .. just using condoms, obviously not very well hence the unplanned pregnancy ..
we have decided to just carry on with them as contraception and see what happens i suppose..

sleeping is going much better i am actually tired on a night now and fall asleep fine till around 2am then im awake mostly, but feel better as i know i have had some sleep.
mums theory is that my body thinks ive had a baby and so is waking me at times i would be feeding etc..hmmm..doubt it..

all in all feeling bit brighter, it has helped to talk to ppl, although i have found it hard to admit i needed some support, which is wierd, i always thought it would be easier .. when you need help, get it, kind of attitude.

the MA sent me some leaflets out and they are really good one for OH too as i know he is grieving and he has been fab for me so im trying to help him too.

guess theres more ppl than me struggling to get to sleep now with this heat " i like it warm but i dont like it this warm " LOL Peter kay quote....

thanks again
xx

Savvy_Sue

emma_b wrote:

the MA sent me some leaflets out and they are really good one for OH too as i know he is grieving and he has been fab for me so im trying to help him too.

Emma, I'm so glad you're beginning to feel a bit better, and also that the MA's leaflets have been helpful for both you and your OH. I do think the chaps are just expected to get on with it when anything like this happens, and it can be really hard because even though they haven't had the physical effects they're still grieving, as well as supporting you while you're grieving, yet it's not talked about. Hugs to both of you.

emma_b wrote:

guess theres more ppl than me struggling to get to sleep now with this heat " i like it warm but i dont like it this warm " LOL Peter kay quote....

Oh definitely! I really don't function well in hot weather!