Children Kissing

foreign_correspondent

hmm - my six year old niece said she wanted me to go into the other room with her the other day..., she then whispered (very dramatically!) "I have to talk to you on your own - Sarah (her best friend) has a boyfriend, a proper one, and she has SNOGGED him! - Twice!" followed by giggles.... I told her I was glad she had told me, but that really her friend shouldn't really be snogging boys till they are at least at 'big school'!!

Most kids are quite aware of words like snogging at this age, but do not really fully understand what it means - maybe you can gently encourage her that "a peck on the cheek" is the coolest thing to do!

webitha

dont fret its normal my 4 yr old, is affectionate, as were my older 2, (they have since got "too old" for that sort of thing) lol, and she gives a a magic kiss which is where she puts her hands either side of my face and kisses for ages.

as for not kissing/ being affectionate in front of her? carry on, apparently its very healthy and good for their emotional well being, to see loving parents, so snog away, pat his bum as he walks, you LO will find it funny, as does mine, whereas my 8 & 10 year olds go yeark :rotfl:

Krystaltips

My five year old does the snog thing too... I have told her she shouldn't snog Mummy but I think it's an experiment thing for her...

She doesn't have a boyfriend at the moment, but she has been in love with same boy since nursery... Sadly he plays with my friends daughter more... DD told me the other day that this other girl has 'broken her heart' with this boy... Which is super cute... But I'm dreading her teenage years already!

Bubby

thankyou for all your advice, I can't take back the fact that I already told her off but I am going to ignore the situation now and hope that she will get bored of it all. I don't really think it has come from her and she told me this morning that she doesn't like it but that this friend kisses everyone:rolleyes:
I am really glad that it is normal and that i don't have anything to worry about :T

Paparika

Bubby it's normal, sooner or later it will wear off.. until she 'likes' boys

hm71_2

my DDs all sadly now to old for mummy kissings- if I gave em a peck "oh no mummy big snogs" at that just used to be a big long kiss where you give em a squeeze as well! my eldest DD runs a mini club for 4-6 yr olds & a lot of the little boys wanna hold her hand and all say she's their g/f 2 boys had a bit of a tiff about who loved her first- their 4!! it doesn't mean the same thing to them as it does to 'grown-ups' I think the key is they are playing princes/princesses think about how does prince charming wake snow white, how does prince eric get aerials voice back all with a kiss.

kezlou

Hello,

I personally wouldn't tell her off after all they at the age where their bodies are changing and they are just being very affectionate. I think its lovely.
The school my children go actively encourage the children to hug one another, holds hand etc and the teachers are careful about the kissing issue but allow them to do to a certain degree.
Both of my boys kissed they friends (boys and girls) and cuddled them, my nine year old doesn't do it any more as he "grown" out of it but my five year old still does.

As for parents kissing well me and partner kiss, hug, cuddle in front of our children and i think its helps them to be comfortable around us. For instance is it wrong that a child wants a kiss of a parent? so why not a friend? We kiss them good night as a sign of affection nothing else.
Quite a few of my children's friends are shocked when me and my OH hold hands or give each other a peck on the lips as they don't see they parents do it. In a lot of ways the children seeing us becoming affectionate and open with one another has my kids friends to come and tell me they problems, when they feeling lonely or just want someone to stand next too. Some have even ran over and giving me a massive hug when they parents have been there (normally i'm to talking to them). The parents always say "they never hug me like that" and ask the lids why and the children always respond "because you don't like hugging". I feel awful when they say this and only today one little girl ran up to me and said my mammy gives hugs like you do with ****"

Today give her a hug and a kiss and forget that you ever told her off, no doubt she already has.

So relax and don't worry

Errata

Hardly a week goes by on You've Been Framed without a clip of little kids kissing - and often wiping their mouths with their hand afterwards. I'm pretty sure the clips woudn't be shown if this behaviour was well outside the norm.

Bubby

kezlou wrote: »

Hello,

Today give her a hug and a kiss and forget that you ever told her off, no doubt she already has.

So relax and don't worry

She had forgotten about it until she mentioned the not liking it this morning. We are extremely close and if I tell her off we always make friends again straight away, she tels me all of her secrets and i'm dreading the day this stops:(

kezlou

I;m sure it wil never stop, my nine year still comes for hugs and tells me his problems all the time.
My 13 year old niece stills runs over to me now and gives sloppy kiss on the cheek, back breaking hug, then begins to tell all about how she kissed a boy, school etc you name it, i hear it all from my huge family.

Just be open, affectionate and it will stay like that for a long time to come.