Children Kissing

zenmaster

Wait till she starts kissing the dog on the lips!

Bubby

mumslave wrote: »

You snog in front of your child and wonder why she does it too? Kids copy adult behaviour.

The thing is we have always been affectionate (not inappropriate affection), we don't have a full blown french kiss:rolleyes:
I would understand this if she was the instigator but she wasn't it was a friend of hers and this has set it all off. I have a very good relationship with my daughter and I don't want to do anything that will cause her any anxiety but I don't really feel comfortable allowing this would it be fair to explain that rather than it being naughty it is not something I like or not something that is appropriate?

Bubby

zenmaster wrote: »

Wait till she starts kissing the dog on the lips!

Is that next?:eek::rotfl:

mumslave

well make up your mind lol, you say in the end of your last post, should we avoid this kissing when the children are around, so suggesting you snog around your child. She is only five, I imagine its a passing phase that you could just ignore and it will pass a lot quicker than you making a fuss over it and making it even more interesting. Keep an eye but dont do anything unless you really feel there is reason to be concerned.

abbecer

Maybe snogging at that age isn't great but I certainly wouldn't make any issue of it.

Bubby

mumslave wrote: »

well make up your mind lol, you say in the end of your last post, should we avoid this kissing when the children are around, so suggesting you snog around your child. She is only five, I imagine its a passing phase that you could just ignore and it will pass a lot quicker than you making a fuss over it and making it even more interesting. Keep an eye but dont do anything unless you really feel there is reason to be concerned.

Yes I re-read my post and I had meant to put "should we avoid this" and then thought I should put " should we avoid kissing" but ended up putting a mix of both:o
My parents were never very affectionate around us and it made me very uncomfortable about it when I was a teenager and so I wanted our children to feel comfortable around their parents showing affection and also thought it was normal for children to see their parents in love

mumslave

dont worry hubs and i are the same, we are affectionate around our children too, but to a gentle level, i wouldnt want to be snogging in front of them really, but kissing yes. As you arent snogging each others faces off, it probably is more likely to be something she has seen on tv or a friend has instigated, but at five it really will be just kiddie curiosity. I am sure we used to play that game about catching the girl and kissing her (cant mind its name now) about that age or so. Its harmless, but I know with my kids, if i draw issue to anything, it will get dragged out much longer, so I tend to wait and see first if its anything i do need to intervene, or just kids learning and playing.

KiKi

Perfectly normal. My goddaughter went through a phase of going upstairs with her 'bestest' friend (who's a boy) and they'd suddenly go very quiet...and we'd find that they'd stripped their clothes off!!! It was a curiosity thing. They're getting to the stage where they're learning boys and girls are different. But don't forget that at 5 they're really too young to have any motive other than benig curious.

Don't tell her off or draw attention to it - she's not being naughty. Kissing won't mean anything to her other than being really funny, or something that's interesting for all of 4 weeks before she discovers the next fad of the month.

In response to your question 'is it fair to explain that you're not comfortable with it' - no, I don't think it is. She's 5. Most 5 year olds know that there's a difference between good and bad, and right and wrong. And they know that parents will let them do one thing but not another. However, being 'uncomfortable' doesn't really fall within their understanding at 5 years old. It's too grey an answer.

You can't make this about you and your discomfort because it won't mean anything to her and will be confusing. If you really, really don't like it, then I think you have to make it about her, and tell her that although she's found it funny / nice / entertaining, it has to stop now, as kissing is something grown ups do. Ie, make it 'wrong' without telling her off, so that she knows it's one or the other, and then stick to that same answer and reason if she continues to do it so she knows you're going to be consistent with it.

'Mummy's not comfortable with the idea' doesn't quite cut it.

HTH
KiKi

Buttonmoons

It's normal! My DD is 3, and got a peck on the lips from her best (boy) friend at nursery and went all coy and embarrassed. I thought it was sweet. They are always hugging and holding hands. It's what kids do, no need to tell her off for it

mumslave

my eldest came home from preschool in a right strop today, because her 'bf' wasnt in today LOL he has lasted a week, I am quite impressed. She is 4.