Trying For a Baby part 4

billybobberyl

hi all im new here and dont really know all the terminology so sorry in advance!
I went to hospital on sunday 29th nov with a suspected mc, then had several blood tests over next 2 weeks as hormone was still rising so they were concerned of an ectopic, it was then comfirmed on thurs as a definite mc.
TMI bit i only bled for the first 2 days and had nothing since. until friday when i was bleeding again but have now got the feeling this is AF as it has that achey feel and is not the pain that i had for thosde 2 days, is it poss to have af that soon after mc and if it is AF does that mean we can ttc again after it goes, sorry am not sure of much at the moment and still trying to get my head around mc. i felt fine and was coping but all the waiting and tests have seemed to make me feel worse and now im really sad couldnt even walk past baby clothes in tescos! sosrry again x

rach

QQuaver wrote: »

Good morning everyone!

CD8 here. My cycle is long and irregular, so my ov is sometime around 21st Dec. Should I tell OH when my ov is or shall I just don't mention it?
It is our first cycle TTC so I don't want to make it un-romantic:o (but definitely want to BD around ov dates:cool:)

I wouldn't tell him, or at least don't make a big thing of it! We're also on our first month and I thought that we should bd last night as we hadn't since thurs but DH was tired and didn't want to (first time ever!! I must be wearing him out!) and he said 'i don't want to feel pressured into it all the time'....so, i'd advise keeping it low key!

I fear that although we've bd'd loads we haven't since Thursday and I think I ov'd yesterday so may've missed the boat this month, who knows as my temp is all over the place. I've also read a lot that the main thing is just to bd lots between periods!

rach

billybobbery - big hugs to you. I'm new here and everyone has been really welcoming.

It would be great if someone could do a list of abbreviations, below is a list I found on the verity (pcos) forum but I have noticed some different ones here, e.g. ss

AF- Aunt Flo
AI- Artificial Insemination
AO-annovulation
ART-assisted reproduction technology
ASA- anti-sperm antibody
ASAP- as soon as possible
BB- bulletin board
BBL- be back later
BCP- birth control pills
BBT- basal body temperature
BD- baby dance
BETA= Beta = Beta HCG - it is a bloodtest to see if you are pregnant or not. A quanatative beta just let you now Yes or No. A Qualitative beta gives a number of how much HCG (The pregnancy hormone) is in your system. Most doctor's like to see this number double every 48 to 72 hours when you are pg.
BF- boyfriend or bestfriend
BFF- bestfriend (too)
BFN- big fat negative
BFP- big fat positive
BIL- brother in law
BMS- baby making sex
BRB- be right back
BTW- by the way
BV- bacterial vaginosis
BW- blood work
CB- cycle buddy
CD- cycle day
CF- cervical fluid
CIO- Crying it Out
CM- cervical mucous
D&C- dilation & curettage- A d&c is a procedure where the inside lining of the uterus is scraped. It is usually done when a woman has a missed miscarriage (baby is gone but the body isn't passing it) or an incomplete miscarriage (some tissue passed but not all). There are other instances where it is performed.
D&E- dilation & evacuation
DE- donor eggs
DD- darling daughter
DH- darling husband
DI- donor insemination
DIUI- donor intrauterine insemination
DOST- direct oocyte sperm transfer
DPO- days post ovulation
DPR- days post retrieval
DPT- days post transfer
DR- doctor
DS- darling son
DTD- do the deed (sex)
DW- darling wife
DX- diagnosis
E2- estradiol
EA- endometrial ablation
ED- endometriosis
FAQ- frequently asked questions
FHR- fetal heart rate
EWCM- egg white cervical mucus
ET- embryo transfer
FE- frozen embryo
FET- frozen embryo transfer
FIL- father in law
FRER- first response early
GD- gestational diabetes
H/A- headaches (as suggested by websissy)
HPT- home pregnancy test
HSG- hysterosalpingogram
HTH- hope that helps
IC- incompotent cervix
IF- infertility
IR- insulin resistance
IUI- in uterine insemination
IYKWIM- if you know what I mean
IMHO- in my honest opinion
IMO- in my opinion
KWIM- know what I mean
LAP- laparoscopy
LMAO- laughing my a$$ off
LOD - laparoscopic ovarian diathermy
LOL- laugh out loud or lots of love
LSP- low sperm count
LPD- luteal phase defect
MC- miscarriage
MIL- mother in law
M/S- morning sickness
MWC- married with children
NPC- natural progesterone cream
O- ovulate
OD- ovulation dysfunction
OH - other half
OHSS- ovarian hyper-stimulation syndrom
OP- original poster (person that started the thread)
OPK- ovulation predictor kit
OT- off topic
OV- ovulated
PG- pregnant
PLS- please
PMA - positive mental attitude
POAS- pee on a stick
PUPO- pregnant until proven otherwise
RE- reproductive endocrinologist
SA- semen analysis
SAHD- stay at home dad
SAHM- stay at home mom
SC- sperm count
SO- significant other
STICKY- is a thread that the moderators want to stay at the top of a forum. MOst threads move down the forum when people stop replying. Stickies will always be at the top.
TCYOF-Taking Charge of Your Fertility (book by Toni Weschler)
TMI- too much info
TTC- trying to conceive
2WW- 2 week waiting period after O before PG test
TX- treatment
US- ultrasound
TSH-thyroid stimulating hormone

katyj10

Hi billy, so sorry to hear your sad news. I've recently MC as have a few on here so we feel your pain too. the sadness will pass eventually but it is totally normal.

Can I ask, how far gone were you? everyone's different but have the hospital offered you an operation (ERPC) or tablets or did the MC pass naturally?

We can help you with our own experience if you can say. I don't think AF arrives that soon - for me I MC naturally (TMI: there was a lot of bleeding and large clots) at 8 weeks on 14 November - I bled for just over a week -and I am still waiting for first AF although I think she's due next weekend as I had signs of Ovulation last weekend so I think I am in the two week wait now.

As for trying again, no one gave me any advice this time (it was my second MC) but the first time they said wait for first AF as it helps with dating when you get pregnant. If you feel emotionally OK you can try when you are ready (we just got back into it this time as we waited 3 months last time and it still resulted in MC so I just thought what's the point). I've been promised some tests if it happens again but i'm hoping it won't come to that.

So, I think you just need to look out for signs of ovulation once the bleeding stops. You might feel a bit of pain or the egg white cervical mucus or if you're brave feeling the postion of your cervix - I'm no expert on this one!

SOrry for the long post. I just wanted to tell you what happened to me and offer you some support. I have made lots of effort to not use abbreviations but you'll get used to it.

Take care and others may help with your query too.

Katy x

PS. SS is symptom stressing - eg. ooh my boobs are sore, I wonder if I'm PG???!!! Silly but we all do it when AF is due.

1more?

hi girls welcome rach & billy
theres a list of abb on the first page of the thread sorry im no good at links

congrats to the bfps

ive been lurking for the last few weeks last time i was on i had been for an early scan & was unsure if bean was sticky & it is i had second scan on 9th & it was all there heartbeating and all
thanks all for putting up with me for all these months now i want a few oldies to join me !!!!!!!!!

QQuaver

Sorry to hear about your mc. I had a missed mc where the baby died at 10 weeks (found out at 11 weeks), but nothing happened, so I had ERPC operation.

I had ewcm at 10 weeks which I thought strange (morning sickness ceased at the same time), had ERPC at 11 weeks, and a week after that, light AF. After that my cycle is back to normal.

So AF can come back pretty quickly:o
Some people TTC straight away without waiting for a period, and have perfect pregnancies, so I think it is OK to try again if you are emotionally ready:)

QQuaver

katyj10 wrote: »

(we just got back into it this time as we waited 3 months last time and it still resulted in MC so I just thought what's the point).

Oh dear, I waited for 3 month as well...:o

QQuaver

rach wrote: »

I wouldn't tell him, or at least don't make a big thing of it! We're also on our first month and I thought that we should bd last night as we hadn't since thurs but DH was tired and didn't want to (first time ever!! I must be wearing him out!) and he said 'i don't want to feel pressured into it all the time'....so, i'd advise keeping it low key!

I fear that although we've bd'd loads we haven't since Thursday and I think I ov'd yesterday so may've missed the boat this month, who knows as my temp is all over the place. I've also read a lot that the main thing is just to bd lots between periods!

Thank you Rach. Men are such strange/sensitive creatures:o

Metranil_Vavin

Morning ladies.

Looks like I am going to be testing on Xmas day this month...cant even begin to imagine what getting a BFP on Xmas day would be like...awesome!

Meeting a friend for lunch today who is also ttc, but has also had 2 MC's in quick sucession..she swears by her Clearblue monitor.

I reckon if by the new year we are having no joy, I msy invest in one myself.

Happy Sunday all xxx

billybobberyl

ty all for your replies/ welcomes.
we were only 6 weeks so was early.
this just feels so much like af that is why im thinking it i guess.
it was natural mc and have one final blood test thurs to make sure hormone is still down, will ask them what they think too but thanks everyone.
its odd i thought id never want to do it again if it happened to me but i cant wait to start trying lol sound randy dont i!!