Trying For a Baby part 4

jennyfleur77

mariagti wrote: »

Sorry to ask on this thread but i had my erpc on monday. Monday and tuesday i felt fine. Yesterday i had some cramps no more painful than period pain but today i woke up with quite painful cramps this is day 3 after the op is that normal? Ive had no bleeding since tuesday.
The cramps seem to hurt more when i go to the loo and push down to wee or no.2.

thanks xx

Maria, if I were you I would call the EPAU at your local hospital and describe the pains to them? When I had my erpc (both of them) I had no pains at all, you may have a small infection or somethins, which will be nothing to worry about, you'll just need a course of anti-b's to get rid of it! Definitely give them a call though, that's what they are there for and it'll stop you worrying straight away!

Smartie, don't worry too much about the clot, they are quite common in periods, I get them all the time!! Have you had any major hormone changes or anything lately? The thing about all of this that I find the hardest to cope with is that you can't see what is going on inside you! If you break a bone or cut yourself atleast you can see what is happening and whether its healing or not, but this is just a guessing game!!!

Metranil_Vavin

Fuzzy - no I actually find the less i do it the less i want to!

Maybe I'm over the hill at 36! :eek:

I actually havent felt particularly attractive for quite a while now either..maybe thats got something to do with it!

jennyfleur77

MV, I've actually forgotten what sex is?

Metranil_Vavin

Twinkle - my sex drive has diminished a lot in the last few years. I think it started when I met OH and although he's lovely, he'd had a rubbish r'ship with his ex wife and they wouldnt have sex for months and months on end.

I think he'd lost all his confidence, and so when he met me and I just wanted to jump all over him, he shrunk away and things wouldnt happen as they should IYKWIM.

I think his hesitation and awkwardness rubbed off on me, and now I cant relax as I think he isnt having a good time or is struggling....its really hard to explain..makes me feel a bit sad

Metranil_Vavin

...I know OH loves me..loads, but sometimes I dont think he really fancies me that much!

twinklie

Awww MV it sounds like you guys could do with a chat and perhaps a spot of counselling - relate are meant to be good. I'm a complete hypocryte though...I could probably do to go myself but haven't ever been.

Even prior to the abuse I suffered I didn't have a high sex drive. My mum doesn't either (shudders at the ackward conversation I had with my dad when he was spilling his heart out).

I think your issue is slightly different to mine - mines much more selfish I think. But I know what you mean about feeling sad. I do too...I wish I was more into it.

Metranil_Vavin

...having said that we need to BD tonight for sure as I think i'm ov'ing, so he wont have any bloody choice in the matter!!:p

smartie12

Oh yes... forgot to send PMA twinklie's way to pass on:A

I'd rather have a decent bar of chocolate/chinese/good nights sleep(haven't had one for about 6 and 1/2 years:eek:) than sex. DH would rather it vice verser:rolleyes:

Jenny... I don't know of any major hormone change??? It's my 2nd AF since having early mc so would it maybe be that??? Like I said I do normally have small clots but to "give birth" to the monster clot was a first for me!:eek:

jennyfleur77

Smartie, when was your m/c?

Maddie

smartie - completely off topic, but how have you been thanked in more posts than you have made?

I've been here ages and prob have one of the lowest post counts lol - need to chat more!