MSE Pregnancy Club 17

gill_81uk

Nikkit - I totally agree that the kids should have moved, we were always made to sit on the floor so adults could have sofas...and tbh does a 2 year old really care where they sit??? You shouldn't have even had to ask the kids....your OH and his bro should have done that for you. I would've been fuming!

Had hen do last night - was really good fun altho it was a shame to be sober!! The bride is 14 weeks pregnant so atleast she was too tho lol. Glad it's over with now tho as it's been a bit hectic preparing for it. So glad I'm off work tomorrow, feel shattered today so don't think I'll get anything productive done.

ooh here's my ticker

nikkit72

it just annoys me , as when hes kids are not here , its always my kids cant do this cant do that , but when hes kids are here , oh yes kids are allowed to do what they like , no rules for them , hes excuse is , he only sees them once a week and its nice for them not to have rules here . !!!
Hes kids have stopped sleeping here all because , my kids ahve a routine , they go to bed at a certain time watch tv till a certain time and then go to sleep , hes kids have no routine , even the 5 yr old goes to bed when she wants and does what she wants at her house, and last time they slept i told them at a specific time to go up to bed and to watch tv , the 5 yro then had a tantrum and said she didnt want to go to bed , in the end she was playing up so much she said she wamted to go home so he just took her , omg if it was my child i would of stood my ground put her to bed and left her to cry until she understood this is my house and she abides by my rules ,

oh well rant over !! sorry

Somnium

Oh wow sounds like alot of you have OHs or Family with double standars when it comes to kids! Hope I dont experiance this but have a feeling know it all SIL will be a tad like that, well its a toss up between that and not talk to me! She is a funny one and when we were at OH rents over Xmas she didnt once speak to me, even just to ask how I was? If I initiated convo its all one word answers so I gave up! She is only one on that side who has kids (from a previous marriage) and if I were her, knowing my situation (all my family are miles away!) I'd be offering support. Well we all know they say you cant pick your family!

three2be

Nikkit your OH is being stupid IMO, just saying because BIL was in the same position years ago and thought he was being the cool dad letting them do what they wanted when they wanted etc. Well it has all back fired spectacularly, his second wife left him and took their kids as she couldn't take the lack of structure and double standards, as the kids got older they realized that he was a push over and took them for everything and gave him no respect or her for that matter, now that they are old enough to decide when to see him they don't basically unless they want something.

Think the last time they seen him before the funeral was xmas last year. They make more of an effort to keep in contact with me and OH?

Going to be brave and walk over to mum and dads, maybe the walk will start things up, just waiting on DD's mobile charging just incase anything happens enroute, then i will waddle over,lol

nikkit72

thansk for all the wise words it makes me feel better that its not just me being silly , as sometimes i blame hormones and think its me being stupid ,

hes now gone out with bro so i feel a bit better as its now me and kids and my rules satnd !! mmwwaahhhh

Somnium

Go Nikkit hehe, stand your ground hun x

32b - enjoy your walk, hope it does the trick.

Sarah_Joanne

Thanks for all the batch cooking suggestions ladies. I like making stew in the slow cooker so I will do that, plus I have some carrots and parsnips to make soup from. Yum yum!

My MW apps have all been on the day i.e. 34 weeks exactly etc, apart from the home visit. I think it depends on the area and also on the MW whether they will do a sweep a couple of days before guideline times etc, I think Beenie had this problem and she had to wait.

Somnium wrote: »

Q. does anyone else seem to find they end up with food down there front/bump alot? If its something with sauce or gravy its enevitable I'll end up wearing it! Oh and crumbs in the cleavage lol!

Yes! mainly crumbs down my cleavage but lots of slops on my bump too. I'm also finding it hard to eat on the sofa off a tray. My sofa is low and deep and it's hard to sit comfortable and eat, I need to be at the table now (although I do prefer eating at the table anyway).

nikkit72 wrote: »

it just annoys me , as when hes kids are not here , its always my kids cant do this cant do that , but when hes kids are here , oh yes kids are allowed to do what they like , no rules for them , hes excuse is , he only sees them once a week and its nice for them not to have rules here . !!!
Hes kids have stopped sleeping here all because , my kids ahve a routine , they go to bed at a certain time watch tv till a certain time and then go to sleep , hes kids have no routine , even the 5 yr old goes to bed when she wants and does what she wants at her house, and last time they slept i told them at a specific time to go up to bed and to watch tv , the 5 yro then had a tantrum and said she didnt want to go to bed , in the end she was playing up so much she said she wamted to go home so he just took her , omg if it was my child i would of stood my ground put her to bed and left her to cry until she understood this is my house and she abides by my rules ,

oh well rant over !! sorry

Sounds like a nightmare Nikki. I'd be well pee-ed off too. All the more reason to enforce the rules of the house if they are only there occasionally. Doesn't look very good for your kids to see OH's getting away with whatever they want.

Kindof - I use some plastic take away boxes that I've saved, and also just freezer bags too. Sometimes I put the food in freezer bag, tie it up, then put it into a take away box in the freezer so it freezes square, then take out the box and leave it in the bag.

CAFC hope your car gets sorted.

I'm hungry but not sure what we've got in for lunch.

three2be

nikkit72 wrote: »

thansk for all the wise words it makes me feel better that its not just me being silly , as sometimes i blame hormones and think its me being stupid ,

hes now gone out with bro so i feel a bit better as its now me and kids and my rules satnd !! mmwwaahhhh

Sounds mad but they will respect you in years to come even if whilst growing up they make you cry with their apparent disrespect, What i mean is my nephew has respect for no one but me (gosh makes me sound big headed), no one not even his mum the one that died disciplined him or anything out of guilt because she was a single mum and dad didn't want to know.

Well i was always strict with him the way i am with my own, believe me he hated me for it, once even attacked me for refusing to give into his demands, but when his mum died i was the only one he asked for a hug and spoke to the day of the funeral, OH family were really annoyed at that but i put it down to him feeling deep inside that i also respect him.

I need to go i think i'm jibbering on and on lol

Twinkles08

Nikkit that sds sucky,sds like he's desperate to stay in the kids good books and wants to be 'fun' daddy all the time.Trouble is he won't earn their respect that way and will have his hands full when they are older.
Be proud that you are bringing up your children well and that they have a good routine that will leave them feeling safe and secure

Sarah_Joanne

Twinkles08 wrote: »

Nikkit that sds sucky,sds like he's desperate to stay in the kids good books and wants to be 'fun' daddy all the time.Trouble is he won't earn their respect that way and will have his hands full when they are older.
Be proud that you are bringing up your children well and that they have a good routine that will leave them feeling safe and secure

Was just going to add that you will have a much better relationship with your kids once they are older than OH will but Twink beat me to it!!