does your other half money save or spend?

Sallys_Savings

Hi,

I was wondering how many people out there are in the same situation as myself.

I really try and be careful with money (I always have) and love the thrill of getting a bargain (yes, sad I know).
Today I brought a brand new book (or looked brand new) for 50p from a car boot sale for my nephews birthday and was really chuffed and

THEN

my other half spends today he came in with a bottle of drink (not that he drinks all the time but still an unnecessary purchase) and some flowers for me (which i really do appreciate, but the £7 could of gone to better use).
I know that makes me sound so ungrateful and I should be pleased that he still buys me flowers after 22 years of marriage.
Eventhough I thanked him I still think all my hard work money saving and he just spends money.

He doesnt spend spend spend like some people do...but as I go to buy the best value item he'll go for the luxury. All my money saving (saving 10p her and 20p there) seems to be counteracted by his spending.

:eek: does this happen with anyone else out there?

hobo28

Yes, I think thats us too. My best mate & his wife and I'm sure many many couples up and down the country.

I think the issue is how much you actually NEED to save. There's absolutely no harm in living a little now and again and I don't think that buying a drink for himself and some flowers is out of order.

Whats the point in saving every penny if you can't enjoy life now and again?

Rachie_B

aww bless him thats sweet

i agree so long as hes not doing things like this (buying flowers / other expensive non essentials) all the time i think its fine

but yeah i think in general guys arent as "good" with money as us women folk

i lmao @ my hubby the other day though ,think hes finally learning lol

i called him on his way home to say could he pick up some loo roll from co op on his way past

he comes in with a 4 pack of Andrex !!! as you can imagine i start to rant lol and he says " but the co ops own brand 2 pk was £1.05 ( !!!! cant believe some locals do all their weekly shop there !) and this andrex was £1.70 "

so was a nice treat to have "luxury" loo roll pmsl

would have preferred flowers though <sigh>

Becles

Yes! After living as a single mother for a long time, I'm used to scrimping and saving.

He's never saved at all and is used to spending all his money each pay packet.

We're decorating the hall, and I said a mirror would be nice to go on the wall, so you can check you look tidy before you go out! I saw one for £50 which was a little more than I wanted to pay, but it is very nice. He wants one for £300 with lights round it and special effect glass in!

shelly

With hubby and I its the opposite. I'm the spender and he's the saver, although I have learnt from him and got much better in the last few years. We both treat ourselves and eachother to little things now and then but for bigger spends we do stop and think "Is this a want or a need?". He's definately the better one with money though.

Rachie_B

Becles wrote:

Yes! After living as a single mother for a long time, I'm used to scrimping and saving.

He's never saved at all and is used to spending all his money each pay packet.

We're decorating the hall, and I said a mirror would be nice to go on the wall, so you can check you look tidy before you go out! I saw one for £50 which was a little more than I wanted to pay, but it is very nice. He wants one for £300 with lights round it and special effect glass in!

:eek: omg :rotfl: men and their gadgetty things :rolleyes: :rotfl:

Becles

:rotfl:

He loves his gadgets. We've got a frothy drinks maker, candy floss maker, expresso maker.............. :rolleyes:

abbecer

My husband used to be bad with money but is pretty good now. Most of the time.!! However, when it come's to tools that's another story entirely. If he needs a certain tool he has to buy it instead of borrow it!! He says it is incase he needs it again in the future. We have more tools, tool boxes, power tools than we have room for but he still insist's he needs them all.

Does anyone else have an OH who is like this??

Rebecca x :rotfl:

margaretclare

No, my DH is very very solvent. I've learned a lot from him. He was in debt a few years ago due to repeated redundancies and ex-wife's inability to come to terms with their reduced circumstances. Not now, thank goodness!

He was the first person to convince me that it's useless saving money and having debts at the same time. That was a lightbulb moment, if you like!

He gets state pension money every 4 weeks and usually he has £200 left from the previous 4 weeks. On my advice, he sticks it straight into his cash ISA, and that provided half the cost of our new roof very recently.

Margaret Clare

Thriftylady

Rachie_B wrote:

aww bless him thats sweet


but yeah i think in general guys arent as "good" with money as us women folk

its funny you should say that because I would have said the opposite. I know so many women (myself included, before I discovered this site and turned my attitude round) who have run up massive debts on clothes, shoes, haircuts, weekend breaks, generally just living beyond their means. On the other hand, men definitely tend to be 'into' gadgets etc, but because these purchases are one off type things, I've always thought that they think about them a bit more before committing to it. We have a house full of expensive audiovisual equipment, definitely luxury items, but OH researched them for months before committing to buying any of them, to be sure he got the ones which suited us best. He'd probably say that the anticipation and the research is as much fun as actually getting it in the end, and they were bought to satisfy him, not to keep up with anyone else (in fact, he'd say that most people don't appreciate the difference between quality stuff and that which just 'looks the part', but thats a whole other thread!).

hobo28

Rachie_B wrote:

so was a nice treat to have "luxury" loo roll pmsl

would have preferred flowers though

Remind me not to use the loo at your house!

If we're generalising, I would say that women are probably worse than men. I think this is down to fact that women are under more "social" pressure to look good, have a nice home etc. A man can look scruffy and live in a hovel and thats ok. Not for a woman tho.