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Birdie85

Oooh, look at all of you pretty girls on my profile! Aaaah...

It looks like I've got a big night of rating ahead of me! I'm going to have square eyes when I go to bed!

Poolie

Well whatever I say I am going to be in trouble because I am a man!

(Puts head about bunker to check out no mans land)

Yes, renting is a pain and lots of people see it as a waste of money as your paying for somebody elses property. The point is you and NIM need to give yourselves some time together after the wedding. You could possibly do with a weekend away just the pair of you (ie leave your mobiles at home!). I know this might cost you out of savings or a budgetting somewhere but it does sound like you both need to get away and talk.

(Ducks for incoming grenade) (ha you missed)

How long has the property been on the market? What did it start and and when? How far has it dropped? What offers do they have in? Do the sellers realise you and NIM are not part of chain? How quickly are they looking to sell? Are they part of a chain?

(Whoosh that rocket attack was a bit close)

Wedding - Yes it is the biggest day of your live, it is NIM's as well. Yes it takes a hell of a lot of planning. If you feel something is wrong and the plans are not as you want speak now otherwise you could loose deposits and things (Mrs Poolie did this and we lost £100).

I agree house buying and wedding are 2 of the 3 most stressful things.

(Runs back to guys dug out awaiting for next female attack)

wendz86

Haha poor Poolie - think you made some good points there though.

Dinah93

Okay, tonights to do list, not happening. In my defense it took 3 hours 45 mins to get home, when usually it takes 50 minutes to an hour.

Dinah93

Poolie wrote: »

Well whatever I say I am going to be in trouble because I am a man!

(Puts head about bunker to check out no mans land)

Yes, renting is a pain and lots of people see it as a waste of money as your paying for somebody elses property. The point is you and NIM need to give yourselves some time together after the wedding. You could possibly do with a weekend away just the pair of you (ie leave your mobiles at home!). I know this might cost you out of savings or a budgetting somewhere but it does sound like you both need to get away and talk.

Going to Birmingham next weekend.

(Ducks for incoming grenade) (ha you missed)

How long has the property been on the market? What did it start and and when? How far has it dropped?

Since February, it dropped £10,000 since then. Started at £149,000. Went to auction guide price of £115,000 didn't sell, came back on the market in May at £139,000.

What offers do they have in?

They say they have a £130,000 on the table since August from a buyer in a chain who hasn't sold their house yet, and they had an offer close to ours from a cash buyer last weekend which they also refused.

Do the sellers realise you and NIM are not part of chain?

They know we're FTBs.

How quickly are they looking to sell?

They moved out and bought another house in January and it has been empty since then.

Are they part of a chain?

No.

(Whoosh that rocket attack was a bit close)

Wedding - Yes it is the biggest day of your live, it is NIM's as well. Yes it takes a hell of a lot of planning. If you feel something is wrong and the plans are not as you want speak now otherwise you could loose deposits and things (Mrs Poolie did this and we lost £100).

I agree house buying and wedding are 2 of the 3 most stressful things.

(Runs back to guys dug out awaiting for next female attack)

We've spent along time talking, and I can now see that NIM doesn't actually have any say in it either. This still drives me batty, but we've agreed the offer will not be dropped from the present level, and in a week or two we'll reassess where we both stand.

Poolie

Dinah93 wrote: »

We've spent along time talking, and I can now see that NIM doesn't actually have any say in it either. This still drives me batty, but we've agreed the offer will not be dropped from the present level, and in a week or two we'll reassess where we both stand.

At least you didn't banish me from the thread.

3hrs 45mins to get home. What happened? There must has been a big accident.

When you go to Birmingham next weekend promise me you will both turn off your phones and have fun and enjoy yourselves. I think having the time to yourselves will do you both the world of good and get any other issues of your chests without other people (parents and all us people here) getting in the way.

House - it ha sbeen to auction at £115k and failed to sell so the sellers have got to re-adjust their expectations. The person offering £130k I suspect is likely to walk away since they did not accept the offer. They are going to have to realistic in the current market. "An offer close to ours" could be the estate agent trying to get you and NIM to up the offer - evil devils.

I would be concerned that the property has been sitting empty since January. If the house is in such a good area why hasn't it sold before? Why are there not more offers? What is wrong? Is there something on the HIP that you don't know about?

Obviously the sellers have enough money not to rush since they have 2 properties on the go. I suspect they have a bridging loan from their mortgage provider.

So both of you have been sat on by NIM Dad? Do you think NIM's mum has something to do with this? I know this is a property you both like but you both might have to conceed that this property is not meant to be as the sellers are playing around. They obviously do not realise what trouble they are causing. I would be surprised the estate agents is not giving them some advise to push on especially in this market.

Wedding Planning - Please tell me your using that software I sent you as it will help you so much and might keep you sane as you go through the planning. Also get a note bad and jot down questions you want to ask as we kept finding there were things we wanted to ask our reception venue that we would forget when we got there. The other thing I can is keep a diary or calendar for the running round you will be both doing. Try and so some of the small things as well as the big things. Things like cars can get booked very very early. Final thought, enjoy the planning as much as the day Reason I say this is if you can get through planning a wedding and keep your sanity you will be both stronger and can will be able to take on anything life throws you as a team.

Lara44

Good advice Poolie.

Last night I managed to get a return London to Lancaster for my next uni trip for £28.00, and a hotel room for £27.00!

I feel a twirly Martin coming on.... :money:

I promise to do dooyoo tonight, so I'm going to come and track you all down, so watch out for me.

Dinah I hope things have seemed brighter after a nights sleep. Even if NIM Dad doesn't sort it out for this property, there are many more that you two would be happy in.

L x

Cinny91

Good advice from Uncle Poolie

Hope you're feeling better today now you've slept on it Dinah. And like Lara said, there are plenty of other places out there. Maybe this one just wasn't meant to be!

Tete_en_l'Air

Dinah93 wrote: »

Okay, tonights to do list, not happening. In my defense it took 3 hours 45 mins to get home, when usually it takes 50 minutes to an hour.

Ugh, wasn't it depressing? After leaving work at 5, by 6.30 I was still sitting 10 minutes walk away from my car park ... in the end I turned round and went back INto Middlesbrough and OH met me there for tea instead, no chippies by the sea for us though And apparently it wasn't even an accident, it was a load of debris all over the A19 from some police chase

I was thinking about this as I was drying my hair this morning and had a bit of an epiphany. If NIM's Dad wants to make a £20k-or-so contribution to the cause, could he pay for the wedding and you save up your own deposit, then you'll be able to choose your house. Of course, this is if he's not already helping with the wedding as well. And may mean he wants to choose your dress etc for you! Just a thought anyway.

Well done and twirly Martins all round Lara!

Weighed in at 10.4 this morning so that's another 1lb lost ... 12 to go, don't think it's going to happen! So I'm going to say 5 to go

poddle911

Sorry you're having such a stressful time of it with the house buying Dinah - as long you have NIM on side then I'm sure it will work out one way or another. What do you reckon about Tete's idea of asking NIM's dad to pay for the wedding instead? I think it's inspired, but obviously depends on how he see it...

Well done on your 1lb off Tete! I stayed the same this week, so I've dropped below my 1lb-a-week target, but it is that TOTM, grr!