Never stay at a job you don't enjoy Get in and out ASAP.

tomstickland

OP, you have my sympathy. There's nothing worse for your state of mind than doing something you hate on a regular basis. The sooner you move away, the better. This is from someone who has clung on to far too many things in the past.

trevormax

I would agree that having a really bad job which you dread going back to after the weekend is over, can be very depressing. I recently had just such a job and this is the only job I have ever hated and I have had many jobs ranging from working in Burger King, to supermarkets, to doing repetative admin work. This particular job was awful and every second working there made me more and more depressed. I couldn't leave though as I would have to pay back the training costs of about £2,000 which they had paid to put me onto training courses.

This was a trainee job and the work was new to me so I needed training to be able to do it. Most of the time I didn't get any guidance and when I did get guidance it would usually be a post it note or a few words to say what it was and that was it. My manager never made sure I had enough work to last the day (usually because my manager was too busy doing her own work) and most days I was reduced to almost begging people for some of their work (normally they gave me the dregs they couldn't be bothered to do). As it was an accountancy I had to charge my time out to clients but since I never had any work or spent so much time trying to get some work, about 80% of my time could not be charged out. When I filled in my time sheets, I felt as if I hadn't done any work and dreaded getting a rollocking off the directors for it. I mentioned this dilema to my manager a few times but she said not to worry as I was a trainee.

January is very busy due to the January deadline for SA tax returns so I was looking forward to it hoping I would at last have enough work to last the day. Sadly, the directors decided to hire a freelance accountant for this month to help ease the pressure and I was shifted to a different part of the building so she could have my desk. I was back to square one again with not having enough work. A few months later, they had a meeting with me to discuss why I hadn't done much work over the busy period. A few weeks after that I was made redundant. In my mind they just decided it was the best way to get rid of me. I wasn't bothered though as I didn't have to pay back the training costs and I got one month PILON to tide me over while I looked for a new job. It was an experience that I hope never to have to repeat again though.

duchy

What I am wondering is why the OP isn't following his OWN advice and quitting.

Oh yeah he can't afford to .... Just like most people stuck in jobs they hate.
Like him that's why they stay.

ceridwen

Just to say "Hi" to the O.P. - as I think some people have been unduly harsh in their response.

I sympathise with your position - and only sorry I can't really offer any practical advice - except "hang on in there - in life generally that is".

Jobs one hates DO cast a dark shadow even on one's leisuretime. You do the best you can to forget them until the next time you're due to turn up for them - but it does take a lot of doing to be able to block them from your mind as far as possible when you're not there. That is what you have to do I think - ie literally try and forget about them as much as you possibly can when you arent there actually doing them.

Other thoughts - treat it as your highest financial priority to reduce financial dependence on having a job as much as you possibly can - then it doesnt feel like the job has such "a hold on you". It has taken a LOT of doing - but I've been cutting and cutting at my need for income as much as I possibly can and have got it that I reckon I am now living on about half my salary (even though I'm so poorly-paid) - YAY ME:T. The rest of my income is saved (though having to be aware of that maximum £6,000 limit savings that is all one is allowed to have by the DWP and get full means-tested benefit if it ever came to it that I ended up on dole). A noticeable amount of extra "savings" can be kept by spending the money whilst one is still safely in work on getting very well stocked-up with stuff (food, etc) and generally "spending to save" (eg getting better-quality stuff that will last longer, etc).

It might be an idea to see if you can find some work of some description that you enjoy in your leisuretime - and, yep, that will almost certainly mean doing it on an unpaid basis:mad: - but at least you will have the chance of doing some enjoyable work and reminding yourself that you "matter"/you have purpose/it's not that you're some sort of "workshy/CHOSEN to be on the dole if possible" sorta person. You actually ARE a "quality" worker and "quality" person and a downright hard worker in fact - its just that you dont have the chance to be that in your job - but dont ever give up hope that maybe one day you will have a job you enjoy (whether because you've been fortunate enough to be able to swop jobs - or because you no longer need a paid job, so are free to do work of your choice).

Don't let your job define you. It says NOTHING about who or what you are - if you dont enjoy it (like most of us if truth be told - and what a sad reflection that is on society) then just think "It serves a purpose - getting the income coming in" and then try and forget it as much as possible outside workhours.

Oldernotwiser

ceridwen wrote: »

It might be an idea to see if you can find some work of some description that you enjoy in your leisuretime - and, yep, that will almost certainly mean doing it on an unpaid basis:mad: - but at least you will have the chance of doing some enjoyable work and reminding yourself that you "matter"/

Another worthwhile option for spare time is further study; this will also give you an alternate focus in life,pass time inexpensively and (possibly) increase the possibility of getting a better job.

vet8

ceridwen wrote: »

Don't let your job define you. It says NOTHING about who or what you are - if you dont enjoy it (like most of us if truth be told - and what a sad reflection that is on society) then just think "It serves a purpose - getting the income coming in" and then try and forget it as much as possible outside workhours.

I could not agree more! :T:T
I HATE work. Now I really like to be busy and I could not stand the sort of holiday where you sit on the beach all day dossing, but I like to do what I want to do and not what some jumped up boss tells me to do all day.

I have had loads of jobs, graduate stuff and lowly jobs and I have hated them all more or less, BUT unfortunately you need to work to pay the bills.

I think a day at a work is a day wasted.

I follow in my fathers footsteps. He was an accountant and hated it. He went to work to pay the bills, but that was it. The moment he left the office he forgot about it until the next morning at 9.00 when he entered the door again.

I think there is too much emphasis on what people do for a living, it does not say who you are or anything at all about you, it just pays the bills and no more. I always feel rather sorry for people who think their career is so important. Haven't they got anything else in their lives?

donnajunkie

if your job causes you so much misery how can you just forget about it the minute you walk out of the door at the end of the day? its not that easy. you can only do that if you are more neutral in your feelings about your job and you neither love nor hate it.

dave4545454

vet8 wrote: »

I could not agree more! :T:T
I HATE work. Now I really like to be busy and I could not stand the sort of holiday where you sit on the beach all day dossing, but I like to do what I want to do and not what some jumped up boss tells me to do all day.

I have had loads of jobs, graduate stuff and lowly jobs and I have hated them all more or less, BUT unfortunately you need to work to pay the bills.

I think a day at a work is a day wasted.


I follow in my fathers footsteps. He was an accountant and hated it. He went to work to pay the bills, but that was it. The moment he left the office he forgot about it until the next morning at 9.00 when he entered the door again.

I think there is too much emphasis on what people do for a living, it does not say who you are or anything at all about you, it just pays the bills and no more. I always feel rather sorry for people who think their career is so important. Haven't they got anything else in their lives?

what a waste of a life. doing something you hate each day instead of looking to do something you actually enjoy and get personal satisfaction and achievement from.

"I think a day at a work is a day wasted." so why are you still doing that job and hating it?

dave4545454

dmg24 wrote: »

Whilst I appreciate that you have had a difficult time in your job, your title is very irresponsible. In the current economic climate, people need to work to survive. Quitting a job, or turning down a job just because you do not like it is financial suicide.

What do you suggest that these people live off?

so basically you're saying it don't matter if the OP is feeling suicidal and might end up killing themselves as long as they still have some crappy job?

you're the one being very irresponsible. i take it that you put your own personal job above your own life and happiness.

lufcgirl

I put in hours at my job so that I can be happy. If I didn't work I couldn't afford the clothes and flights and hotels to see my OH.

So to me 37.5 hours per week of boredom is worth it for the sake of being able to do what I want to do instead of sitting on my backside on the dole till a dream job comes up which may never happen!