Never stay at a job you don't enjoy Get in and out ASAP.

Legacy_user

I write this as hopefully a bit of a warning to others in these tough times. You need a job, choice is limited, infact you'll be lucky to get a job let alone find one you enjoy, do not be tempted to take any old thing, It will totally kill your confidence, self esteem, leave you feeling depressed,bitter and angry with life. Hopefully my story will prove useful to some.

About 4 years ago I got made redundant, I search for approx a year to find a job, I have my house and kids to keep I needed to work and was getting desperate, I wall filling in applications and and never getting as much as an interview, eventually one day I received an interview for a factory job, certainly wasnt' something I was interested in but needed the money as a matter of urgency, went to the interview and got offered the job there and then, the alarms bells should have rang then but no, I accepted the job and started the following week.

I got into the job and discovered it wasn't the one I applied for, I questioned the boss about this who denied all knowledge of this previous job and I rather foolishly never kept the advert with the job description, so I decided I needed to grit my teeth and bear it.

As time progressed I found it more and more of a struggle to get up in the morning and once at work I my days where spent dreaming of being anywhere else, But hating something saps your energy, by the time I got home in the evening I was just to mentally drained to do anything to improve my situation, In the space of 6 months I went from a happy go lucky type of guy to being diagnosed with depression but again was to mentally drained to change, This job was only supposed to be a stop gap but I left it to long, the rot had set it and got a firm grip of me and eventually led to my depression. The scarey thing was the depression set it so gradual I never noticed, it was my partner who pointed it out.

Weekends were ruined with the thought of having to return to work, holidays also ruined, I actually remember sitting last Christmas day in the evening having a few drinks then it hit me like a ton of bricks "!!!!!! I will have work soon" and it left me with a tear in my eye such was my level of hate, infact I say I was suicidal. It was interesting when I had 2 week summer leave, The first week my confidence and self esteem returned, the second as I neared work became more with drawn and depressed again.

I am still there today, however am planning my escape, its not easy I admit because I have went from a confident out going person to a shy wreck all because of this job I hate and never intended to stay at, so as I say I wrote this as a word of warning because if it can happen to me it can happen to anyone.

dmg24

Whilst I appreciate that you have had a difficult time in your job, your title is very irresponsible. In the current economic climate, people need to work to survive. Quitting a job, or turning down a job just because you do not like it is financial suicide.

What do you suggest that these people live off?

donnajunkie

nirelandguy wrote: »

I write this as hopefully a bit of a warning to others in these tough times. You need a job, choice is limited, infact you'll be lucky to get a job let alone find one you enjoy, do not be tempted to take any old thing, It will totally kill your confidence, self esteem, leave you feeling depressed,bitter and angry with life. Hopefully my story will prove useful to some.

About 4 years ago I got made redundant, I search for approx a year to find a job, I have my house and kids to keep I needed to work and was getting desperate, I wall filling in applications and and never getting as much as an interview, eventually one day I received an interview for a factory job, certainly wasnt' something I was interested in but needed the money as a matter of urgency, went to the interview and got offered the job there and then, the alarms bells should have rang then but no, I accepted the job and started the following week.

I got into the job and discovered it wasn't the one I applied for, I questioned the boss about this who denied all knowledge of this previous job and I rather foolishly never kept the advert with the job description, so I decided I needed to grit my teeth and bear it.

As time progressed I found it more and more of a struggle to get up in the morning and once at work I my days where spent dreaming of being anywhere else, But hating something saps your energy, by the time I got home in the evening I was just to mentally drained to do anything to improve my situation, In the space of 6 months I went from a happy go lucky type of guy to being diagnosed with depression but again was to mentally drained to change, This job was only supposed to be a stop gap but I left it to long, the rot had set it and got a firm grip of me and eventually led to my depression. The scarey thing was the depression set it so gradual I never noticed, it was my partner who pointed it out.

Weekends were ruined with the thought of having to return to work, holidays also ruined, I actually remember sitting last Christmas day in the evening having a few drinks then it hit me like a ton of bricks "!!!!!! I will have work soon" and it left me with a tear in my eye such was my level of hate, infact I say I was suicidal. It was interesting when I had 2 week summer leave, The first week my confidence and self esteem returned, the second as I neared work became more with drawn and depressed again.

I am still there today, however am planning my escape, its not easy I admit because I have went from a confident out going person to a shy wreck all because of this job I hate and never intended to stay at, so as I say I wrote this as a word of warning because if it can happen to me it can happen to anyone.

knowing how people think here you wont get much sympathy i suspect. so be prepared to get slagged off.
when people say any job is better than no job stories like this prove that view wrong.
one thing you said about being offered the job on the spot being iffy isnt correct as i have been offered a job on the spot many times and they have turned out to be ok. its just the way certain bosses like to do things. i must say i prefer that way to having to do 2 or 3 interviews and then do tests as well. i prefer the no nonesense approach.

UnoriginalGuy_2

Working at a bad job is better than being unemployed as long as you never forget your dream job and keep hunting. I think "never give up" and "never settle" are both very good pieces of advice, I think "never take a job you dislike" is just awful advise and will leave people in a position to be unable to fulfil their dreams.

I think your life sucks because at some stage you decided it was "fine" and just accepted your circumstances. Instead of getting depressed, you should be happy, you are now in a position to follow your dreams and figure out what will make you happy.

So I congratulate you. You will be happy soon. Just figure out what now, and start planning for, educating yourself, or applying for that dream job.

PS - I got offered my job on the spot - which I enjoy a lot, by the way... I was just the "right" candidate and plus my boss sucks at interview skills and business practices (small business, more fun, less corp' culture).

moneysavermum_2

I have 3 young children on my own and i work 30 hours. I sometimes am bore dto tears with my job and sometimes lack luster and feel il at the thought of another day. I have a degree in health and social care but work in publishing i work their cos its local and is school hours. I make huge sacrifices for my families wellbeing and stability and i dream everyday of using my degree and doing nursing or another allied health profession but they usually are not on my doorstep and dont fit in with the kids. As adults we sometimes get the short straw cos we have responsibilties and the biggest ones are keeping a roof above our families heads and food in their stomach and heat at winter. I suffer from depression and know how flat you feel and i do too on some days. I think its a matter of being in control and i would look for another job whilst still working that way you win as your getting paid but also bettering yourself. I do open university now and dream of the day that one day i can use all the education and get a worthwhile job.

Charlie_AB

I agee, sometimes its not always as simple as packing in a job you don't like.

I've been at the same company for just over 4 years the first three were brilliant i had a job i could do well and it gave me some money at the end of the month. Then they decided they would re-structure and we all had to apply for our jobs - i got one 6 months down the line i was virtually in tears everyday, i hated it, i was too stressed out to do my uni work on the side and had to drop one of the courses (which had been possible the previous year). Then they had a "restructure" in other departments and my dad (who had worked there for a while) was made redundant - which made me feel even worse - my old boss (whom i could never thank enough) told me to apply for the job that was being advertised in his new department - i got it - now another 7 months later i love my job - things have changed and if i could i would leave my job in a instant BUT my dad is looking for a job, my two sisters are students and my mum works PT but isn;t willing to risk her security to try and find a FT better paid job.

LIke the above poster said its a very irresponsible post.

UnoriginalGuy_2

By the way, watch this video (1 hr, 15 mins). Worth it.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ji5_MqicxSo

PS - Yes it does relate to this topic.

hothothot_3

Depression is a very serious debilitating illness. Unfortunatly, it is sometimes misused (not saying on purpose) to the point that, not enjoying work = depression, when it really is not the same thing.

What I would say is if you are depressed you should be certified not fit for work by a GP.

dave4545454

get out of that job straight away, your mental health is a lot more important than any crappy job. ignore people here who say a bad job is better than being unemployed.
no-one should feel suicidal from doing a job they hate and dread, your happiness and mental stability should always come first.

donnajunkie

dave4545454 wrote: »

get out of that job straight away, your mental health is a lot more important than any crappy job. ignore people here who say a bad job is better than being unemployed.
no-one should feel suicidal from doing a job they hate and dread, your happiness and mental stability should always come first.

of course they shouldnt just resign though as they may not qualify for any benefit. they should see their doctor for a sick note to get out of it that way.
i guess if that doesnt work another way is to get another job if you can and if you really dont feel upto any job at the moment get one you know is temporary and therefore will end quickly.

Naykon

UnoriginalGuy wrote: »

Working at a bad job is better than being unemployed as long as you never forget your dream job and keep hunting. I think "never give up" and "never settle" are both very good pieces of advice, I think "never take a job you dislike" is just awful advise and will leave people in a position to be unable to fulfil their dreams.

:T what he said