yougest child soon to be 10, told i cant claim income support

Becles

thorsoak wrote: »

they can be taught to "help" - a three year old can lay a table for dinner - putting out knives & forks etc

That depends on family life. I used to do volunteer work in a primary school, and was amazed the some little ones had never eaten at a table with cutlery before and were used to eating with their hands in front of the TV. Time had to be spent teaching the children how to sit at a table and use cutlery.

Oldernotwiser

Becles wrote: »

That depends on family life. I used to do volunteer work in a primary school, and was amazed the some little ones had never eaten at a table with cutlery before and were used to eating with their hands in front of the TV. Time had to be spent teaching the children how to sit at a table and use cutlery.

Now that's a whole other thread and very interesting - why not start it in DT?

seven-day-weekend

fkelanne wrote: »

as a mother would you not want to help your children out by helping to look after their children while they went to work to get extra money so they can provid more for your grandchildren?

No, actually. Emergencies or occasional babysitting only.

eco

I've found this thread interesting, my older sis will be in the same boat soon and me and my younger sis where worried about how she'd manage on JSA, I'm lucky cos I've never claimed benefits or had kids, but the downside is I don't have a clue what I'd be entitled to if I ever needed to claim.
My sis would find it hard to get babysitters as our parents have died and her ex's parents and ex are useless, when it comes to agreeing and actually doing what they say they will, she hasn't bothered with them much these last few years, my other sis and I work full time too, and don't want to give our hols up to look after her kids.
When we were kids we looked after ourselves alot, but I mainly made sure we were ok, my mum worked and trusted us to keep out of trouble, but I wouldn't trust my sister's kids on there own, I think that's mainly cos I don't think she's disciplined them properly.
I agree with the grandparents who have posted, they have worked and provided for there kids, and should be entitled to some time to do there own thing, retirement isn't that long.
If anyone can point me in the direction of more info on what my older sis can expect in terms of money, my nephew will be 9 in Feb, I'd be grateful, I'll ask her if they have started explaining she will get interviews to explain the changes in the mean time.

Morgan_Ree

property.advert wrote: »

The reverse side is that there are more wierdos around nowadays and kids just cannot be given the same freedom we had. They don't need to be wrapped up in cotton wool for sure but adults need to think things through more carefully than a generation ago.

Oh please!

No wonder kids are being wrapped in cotton wool when parents think like this!!


There are no more ''weirdos'' around today than there was 50 years ago
Do you think crimes against children is something that never happened generations ago?
Of course it happened! It just wasn't common knowledge to the general public whereas nowadays it is thanks to the media
We are constantly bombarded with news stories about child abduction, violence, sex offenders etc etc
Doesn't mean children are no longer safe!

AnxiousMum

In terms of tax credits/term time work - Both my husband and I work term time - he's a teacher, I sell things to schools. Alot of the term time jobs though actually pay you over the course of the year - so we both get a monthly salary 12 months of the year, so no month with no salary which is nice.
There are jobs out there too that are not IN schools, but have a service or a product that only deals with schools. You might want to look into that to see if you can find something. I am able to pick up my kids in primary school every day, and I drop them at breakfast club in the mornings. Still able to attend assemblies, special day time things at the school as well, as I'm not chained to any one location during the day.

Loopy_Girl

AnxiousMum wrote: »

There are jobs out there too that are not IN schools, but have a service or a product that only deals with schools.

Yes I have that. I work in schools (and nurseries) but am employed by the NHS in an education capacity. School hours and term time which I appreciate are like hens teeth but they are out there.

I also have 3 other little 'top up' jobs which I can either take small person with me or I do when she is in bed...although I have my family near me, they have health problems so I am more a support to them then they are to me really!!!!

I also have a health condition which classes me as disabled.

It's not easy but it can be done. I was on benefits for 5 years and as soon as she went to school I got back to work (she's 8 now). Yes it's knackering and yes I am either knocking back Red Bull or Nytol (to combat the Red Bull!!) but it is worth it both financially and also for showing your kids the right way to do things and it also makes you a better person..instead of ' oh there's Mini Loopy's Mum', it's now 'oh, there's Loopy'!! I have my id back!!!

The only thing I would stress is DON'T get used to the £40pw....either save it or use it for treats or something but don't include it in the budget as 52 weeks passes quite quickly.

Jomo

property.advert wrote: »

Don't need stats from any other source than me. I was around then and I'm around now. Kids were safer then than they are now.

What we could do then, kids can't today. Part of that is the number of threats to their safety and part of that threat is the number of threats to kids. For starters, we didn't have 10 year old kids raping 9 year old girls and so many people screwed up on drugs.

I'm not so sure about that, I think child abusers and all that existed just the same as they do now but the power of the media wasn't what it is now. Hysteria!! :eek:

Loopy_Girl

Jomo wrote: »

I'm not so sure about that, I think child abusers and all that existed just the same as they do now but the power of the media wasn't what it is now. Hysteria!! :eek:

Exactly. There seems to be this myth that years ago weirdos didn't exist....did perverts only start being perverts in the 80's then? What about the Moors Murders? The problem is, as Jomo says quite correctly, it's the media that has brought it into the public domain.

Children are no more safer (or less safer depending how you look at it) today than they were 30/40 years ago whatever.

Mojisola

bestpud wrote: »

Whatever my views on childcare, I do not believe children are any more at risk now than they were in the 70s!

There were some awful people about when I was growing up!

Children are more at risk in the home, as said. !!!!!philes work hard at gaining trust and presenting a respectable face.

My views are not based on children being attacked at all!

I agree with this. What I think has changed is the way people separate themselves from each other. When we were out playing, any adult who thought we'd overstepped the mark would tell us off and, if we were in trouble, we'd go to almost any adult for help and get it.