yougest child soon to be 10, told i cant claim income support

ladychelle

Baileys_Babe wrote: »

I was the older child in a family and had to do this, I found this very stressful and resented it for years after. Both children need to be comitted to this and from what you say it wouldn't currently work for your family.

Many organisations support school friendly working hours. Look on your authorities website, most you are able sign up to a regular email of vacancies. HTH.

this sounds like a good idea, when u say local authorities wht exactly do you mean , what would this be called (Im in Bradford)

pelirocco

Anthillmob wrote: »

peronally i cant see why the age is lowered to when kids start full time education @ 5/6. but thats just me.

speak to your advisor.

There is slight fly in the ointment in so far as the lack of jobs ! ( and jobs to fit in with school hours must be almost impossible to find? ) , and childcare is expensive . As an owner of a medium size business I do know what the work situation is like

I was lucky I was able to stay at home when my children were small , and no I have never been on benefits . I dont envy people with small children these days , it seems to me they are damned if they dont work and damned if they arent there for their children

Oldernotwiser

pelirocco wrote: »

I was lucky I was able to stay at home when my children were small , and no I have never been on benefits . I dont envy people with small children these days , it seems to me they are damned if they dont work and damned if they arent there for their children

Do children of 9 and 10 count as "small children"?

jaidenslot

I have just received a letter saying that now i have to attend 3 monthly interviews and next year i won't get income support.
I have 3 girls of 6,10 and 12 and could actually claim carers for my 19 year old who is on the middle rate dvla which i don't as i feel it is my job as a mother to look after him.

I work 6 hours a week cleaning(i get a reduced amount of income support) which fits in around school and my parents look after them during the holidays as there is no childcare around here for the holidays. Before anyone asks could they not have them for 16 the answers no, they will do the 6 but why should they have them more they have there own lives, pensioners and are not unpaid child minders.

Would love to to 16 hours but the school doesn't run a holiday club and what childcare there is in my town all say the same " they can't guarantee my 2 youngest children a place during the holidays as they need to fill the places full time and can't afford to keep them places open for 13(or whatever the holidays are) weeks a year.

Its ok saying once your youngest is 7 you should have a job of 16 hours a week or more but what are you supposed to do with them in the holidays take them with you!!

pelirocco

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

Do children of 9 and 10 count as "small children"?

Just try leaving at home alone and see what social services have to say ?

I wouldnt have left mine alone at that age , and as i said childcare is expensive

Oldernotwiser

pelirocco wrote: »

Just try leaving at home alone and see what social services have to say ?

I wouldnt have left mine alone at that age , and as i said childcare is expensive

I never suggested that you should!

Oldernotwiser

jaidenslot wrote: »

Its ok saying once your youngest is 7 you should have a job of 16 hours a week or more but what are you supposed to do with them in the holidays take them with you!!

Actually, my mum worked as a cleaner when I was young and this is exactly what she did! I can see that it wouldn't work for 3 of them though.

Regarding your parents not being "unpaid childminders" - surely the solution could be to pay them for looking after the children , giving them some extra income. 16 hours or so of childcare, divided between 2 people isn't going to cut into their free time all that much.

jaidenslot

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

Actually, my mum worked as a cleaner when I was young and this is exactly what she did! I can see that it wouldn't work for 3 of them though.

Regarding your parents not being "unpaid childminders" - surely the solution could be to pay them for looking after the children , giving them some extra income. 16 hours or so of childcare, divided between 2 people isn't going to cut into their free time all that much.

I do contract cleaning which is in firms, houses offices, dentists etc and they certainly wouldn't take kindly to 3 kids running riot! I'm sure in my mums day she could have taken us with her but times have changed and there are a lot more rules and regulations now.

My parents are not able or prepared to commit to 16 hours or more to look after my kids even if i did offer to pay them(and i have), they don't just have me struggling for childcare my sister does to and she lives 2 hours away so they sometimes have to travel during the holidays and if sick termtime to look after her kids as well so i think they do enough seeing as they also have a lot of doctors and hospital appointments due to ill health.
I don't have any more relatives near me and my kids have no contact with their fathers side of the family. It is a very small town i live in and no i don't have any friends i can ask as they are in the same boat struggling to find childcare for their kids.

I am hoping that the schools will start up holiday clubs but as of yet there is no plans to, its only recently that they have opened after school clubs.

I have up until now had to go to interviews every 6 months and the first thing they say is there isn't enough childcare to go round(where i live) in fact practically none over school age and they can't see bringing the age limit down to 7 working, if you can find a job and theres not many of them around here there is no childcare anyway!!

Oldernotwiser

Sounds like providing childcare could be a gold mine for someone in your area then.

jaidenslot

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

Sounds like providing childcare could be a gold mine for someone in your area then.

Yes, had even thought of doing it myself a few years back but having 4 children myself i was limited to who i could look after and theres so many rules. My kids should never have survived in my house lol. May look into it again after my eldest has left home as at the moment i couldn't have anyone elses child in my house with his problems at the least they'd be going home telling their parents to f off!!