Do I kick him out?

new_day_2

neneromanova wrote: »

I would go the hole way and say why don't we meet up. then meet up :rotfl:

LOL I don't think I'm brave enough to do that, I feel sick when he disappears on to the computer, I think I would have a heart attack if I arranged to meet him! Great idea though!!!

Wings_of_Ambition

There is other software you can use to track what's been happening on the computer. A 'keylogger' is one, which records every keystroke, usually with no trace that it's active. It's a bit hardcore, but if you're that worried, it's worth considering. I'm sure the nice people in the Techies board would be able to recommend a free/cheap one.

**confuzzled**

You could suggest moving the computer downstairs and see what happens! If he breaks out in a cold sweat or comes up lame excuses...get rid!!!!

new_day_2

Wings_of_Ambition wrote: »

There is other software you can use to track what's been happening on the computer. A 'keylogger' is one, which records every keystroke, usually with no trace that it's active. It's a bit hardcore, but if you're that worried, it's worth considering. I'm sure the nice people in the Techies board would be able to recommend a free/cheap one.

Yes I have heard of these things, I must admit I'd be a little concerned to do this in case he was aware of it, hopefully he will answer the dating site message and I can discover the true depth of his deception from there.

new_day_2

**confuzzled** wrote: »

You could suggest moving the computer downstairs and see what happens! If he breaks out in a cold sweat or comes up lame excuses...get rid!!!!

I don't want him to suspect anything at mo, and he also has computer access at work so its a bit pointless. The dating site states he picked up the message this morning and left here at 7.30am and didnt switch on the computer before he left, so it seems he's accessing it whilst at work too.

chriszzz

Hi New Day,

I don't think this relationship is of a honest one, am afraid that I would have to go by my instincts and be glad they kicked in pretty much straightaway. :j

I think your in for more heartache if you stay with him.

Good Luck!

Errata

Why don't you stop playing secret squirrel and ask him to move out for a while whilst you decide how you feel about his computer use ? You won't need to explain what computer use, he'll know what you're talking about.

new_day_2

Errata wrote: »

Why don't you stop playing secret squirrel and ask him to move out for a while whilst you decide how you feel about his computer use ? You won't need to explain what computer use, he'll know what you're talking about.

Thanks for replying but I feel him moving out for a while will resolve nothing, I need to know for sure that he's deceiving me, and then I can make the decision to tell him to go for good..... I don't want to live in limbo for a few weeks waivering about whether or not to resume things...... only for him to do this again in a few months.

new_day_2

I just want to thank each and every one of you, I have to log out as he will be home soon and I want to make sure I've left no history for him to read!

Please keep the advice coming, it seems we all rate faithfulness and trustworthiness very above all else, no one has suggested because he scores highly in other areas that I give him another chance...... I guess maybe its obvious to you all that he's making me very unhappy and yet I'm sat here hoping for some miracle, that its all a silly mistake and he really is as fantastic as I first thought he was yeah i know, i know, i'm delusional

BARGAINHUNTER!

Is it possible that he is picking up his messages on his mobile phone? Does he work for a big organisation? If so his computer useage might be monitored there?