Solicitor married to my doctor - uncomfortable about using

BlondeHeadOn

galvanizersbaby wrote: »

Are you out of the ordinary interesting then?

Of the medical professionals I know and have known (ahem) I am not sure that patients/clients really ever came up for general discussion at home - certainly not pillow talk stuff

I mean this in the nicest possible way but I think there is a chance you could be reading a little too much in to the situation.:)

That said if you feel uncomfortable about being a patient/client now - I should change your GP and use a different solicitor

My point is that I don't think the subject should ever have been raised in the first place. I'm okay with my GP, but I am uncomfortable with the solicitor asking her if I was on her list - and then telling me. I don't think the subject should have come up at all.

BlondeHeadOn

bestpud wrote: »

If this was about making you aware of potential links then why not say something like:

'Just to inform you, I can see by your postcode you may be a patient of my wife, who is a GP at _ _ surgery...'

No need at all to ask his wife if she is a client, and in fact, it seem very unprofessional to me! She has no need to know who his clients are and he has no need to know who her patients are!

I wouldn't be happy about it anyway!

That's what I have been trying to express - thank you bestpud, that sums it up perfectly!

galvanizersbaby

BlondeHeadOn wrote: »

My point is that I don't think the subject should ever have been raised in the first place. I'm okay with my GP, but I am uncomfortable with the solicitor asking her if I was on her list - and then telling me. I don't think the subject should have come up at all.

As I said in that case as you clearly are not comfortable then use a different solicitor - or do it online

BlondeHeadOn

Zazen999 wrote: »

Conflict of interest in that you are a client/patient/customer of both of them. I used conflict of interest in MY situation not theirs......

What would you have preferred; for him NOT to mention it and continue; and you coming on here in 6 months saying 'OMG my doctor and solicitor are married!!!!!!:eek::eek::eek::eek: I saw them together in Tescos'

Calm down, and realise that what he has done is to inform you of the situation. What you do as a result is up to you.

Yes, I would prefer the situation you mention above. Well, in fact I would prefer him not to have asked his wife if I was on her list in the first place.

It's the fact he checked in the first place that I object to, not that they are married - so what, if everything is completely confidential between them?

Zazen999

BlondeHeadOn wrote: »

Yes, I would prefer the situation you mention above. Well, in fact I would prefer him not to have asked his wife if I was on her list in the first place.

It's the fact he checked in the first place that I object to, not that they are married - so what, if everything is completely confidential between them?

Well, just get another solicitor then.

I live in a village and everyone knows everyone so to me, it's not a big deal at all. I've lived in cities and to meet 2 different people that are in any way related would be a bit 'weird' as people aren't so community oriented than villagers.

Errata

Right.........Patient information is totally confidential and that includes confirming, or denying, to anyone other than a health professional who is participating in the patient's treatment, that a patient is registered with a particular doctor. Unless the patient has given the doctor or practice their formal permission for information to be shared with specific individual(s).

And you didn't.

What the doctor and solicitor were doing was gossiping.

Savvy_Sue

Zazen999 wrote: »

S: I've got a new client coming in tomorrow, she's in your area
oh, who?
S: Blondeheadon
Oh yes, I think she's on my list
S: Oh, I'd better let her know.
Cool, thanks hon

Or:

S: I've got a new client coming in tomorrow, she's in your area
That's nice dear, do you fancy a cup of tea?

If you're happy with your GP, I wouldn't move but I might complain. If you're not happy, change!

But as others have said, if it was a straightforward estate, you shouldn't need a solicitor at all. And if it's not, you might do well to look for a STEP qualified solicitor. It will cost more, but should be worth it!

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gizmo111

I could understand solicitor mentioning it if you were suing for medical negligance, but can see no other reason at all, and how would wife know off the top of her head if you were a patieint, surely she would have to check records making it even more sinister/odd/weird IMO.

Ruby_Moon

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

Not really anything to be worried about; both professions are covered by ethics of confidentiality.

Yes they are, but husband and wife do talk about people and such things when they are at home, no matter what their profession. After all, who is to know that they talk about the OP after sex?