Solicitor married to my doctor - uncomfortable about using

BlondeHeadOn

Errata wrote: »

ooops - doctor isn't allowed to tell ! As in, they are forbidden !

I'd be changing my doctor and making a formal complaint to the PCT.

And using another solicitor.

Is that true? About the doctor not being able to tell? I didn't even consider that.

What is interesting is other peoples reactions to my post - I am feeling less daft by the moment, thanks guys! I thought I was over-reacting, but then I kept having this vision of them sitting up in bed together and discussing me. Which makes me feel rather queasy, I can tell you.....

I think I will not use him, as apart from anything else I think that pillow-talk vision will stay with me throughout any contact I have with him. I will start phoning round and trying to find another solicitor - back to the drawing board.

Thanks to all, and any other reactions I will be interested to read as well...

:T

Zazen999

S: I've got a new client coming in tomorrow, she's in your area
oh, who?
S: Blondeheadon
Oh yes, I think she's on my list
S: Oh, I'd better let her know.
Cool, thanks hon

BlondeHeadOn

Zazen999 wrote: »

S: I've got a new client coming in tomorrow, she's in your area
oh, who?
S: Blondeheadon
Oh yes, I think she's on my list
S: Oh, I'd better let her know.
Cool, thanks hon

It does sound a very strange thing to check, when you put it like that.

I still can't quite figure out ... Why ??

Pssst

Its possible/easy to do your own probate administration. I've done two already. Depends how straightforward it is.

Zazen999

BlondeHeadOn wrote: »

It does sound a very strange thing to check, when you put it like that.

I still can't quite figure out ... Why ??

Because they are professionals?

They would have to make you aware of it; it's part of the code. They haven't necessarily discussed you, or your 'problems' - in fact that would be MORE likely if he hadn't mentioned it.


ETA: If my boss or my chums or my OH comes across a potential customer we talk about it; if one of us had a conflict of interest, we would declare it - that's what he has basically done to you. It's the right thing to do!

BlondeHeadOn

Zazen999 wrote: »

Because they are professionals?

They would have to make you aware of it; it's part of the code. They haven't necessarily discussed you, or your 'problems' - in fact that would be MORE likely if he hadn't mentioned it.


ETA: If my boss or my chums or my OH comes across a potential customer we talk about it; if one of us had a conflict of interest, we would declare it - that's what he has basically done to you. It's the right thing to do!

This doesn't sound right to me? I'm not a 'customer', I'm a client/patient, and both professions are supposed to be completely confidential. How could there be a conflict of interest between them, if neither of them knows that I am part of their respective 'lists'?

This also contradicts some of the earlier posts....

MrsAnnie

BlondeHeadOn wrote: »

This doesn't sound right to me? I'm not a 'customer', I'm a client/patient, and both professions are supposed to be completely confidential. How could there be a conflict of interest between them, if neither of them knows that I am part of their respective 'lists'?

This also contradicts some of the earlier posts....

I agree.

For example if two conflicting clients were hoping to use the same solicitor or law firm then it would be a conflict of interest. But how can a family doctor and solicitor have a conflict in this particular situation?

Zazen999

BlondeHeadOn wrote: »

This doesn't sound right to me? I'm not a 'customer', I'm a client/patient, and both professions are supposed to be completely confidential. How could there be a conflict of interest between them, if neither of them knows that I am part of their respective 'lists'?

This also contradicts some of the earlier posts....

Conflict of interest in that you are a client/patient/customer of both of them. I used conflict of interest in MY situation not theirs......

What would you have preferred; for him NOT to mention it and continue; and you coming on here in 6 months saying 'OMG my doctor and solicitor are married!!!!!!:eek::eek::eek::eek: I saw them together in Tescos'

Calm down, and realise that what he has done is to inform you of the situation. What you do as a result is up to you.

galvanizersbaby

BlondeHeadOn wrote: »

Is that true? About the doctor not being able to tell? I didn't even consider that.

What is interesting is other peoples reactions to my post - I am feeling less daft by the moment, thanks guys! I thought I was over-reacting, but then I kept having this vision of them sitting up in bed together and discussing me. Which makes me feel rather queasy, I can tell you.....

I think I will not use him, as apart from anything else I think that pillow-talk vision will stay with me throughout any contact I have with him. I will start phoning round and trying to find another solicitor - back to the drawing board.

Thanks to all, and any other reactions I will be interested to read as well...

:T

Are you out of the ordinary interesting then?

Of the medical professionals I know and have known (ahem) I am not sure that patients/clients really ever came up for general discussion at home - certainly not pillow talk stuff

I mean this in the nicest possible way but I think there is a chance you could be reading a little too much in to the situation.:)

That said if you feel uncomfortable about being a patient/client now - I should change your GP and use a different solicitor

bestpud

If this was about making you aware of potential links then why not say something like:

'Just to inform you, I can see by your postcode you may be a patient of my wife, who is a GP at _ _ surgery...'

No need at all to ask his wife if she is a client, and in fact, it seem very unprofessional to me! She has no need to know who his clients are and he has no need to know who her patients are!

I wouldn't be happy about it anyway!