Single and in Debt Part 3- The problem of surplus and excess women

Bowski_1011

Yep, I was just going to say exactly what Clarabella said!! And you will be fine Mf, it just takes time

If she's naffing you off why not tell her to leave you alone for a while? It is horrible at first when you're used to getting text but it's best in the long run if you don't. She should understand you need time and space to start getting over her.

I guess you never got snowed in, so hope your day goes alrite

firestronaut

Been really good this morning and had an orange for breakfast.

Been trying to get back on track with my Slimming World diet for a few days now. Guess it's finally happened

Money_Fritter

Thanks Clarabella and Bowski,

I guess the thing that really confuses me is that two months ago she said she loved me and that we were perfect for each other, then I seen her on the 28th December and opened presents for each other and I got her daughter a couple of presents to open 2. And we went out for the day and everything seemed fine, then this happens, I just dont understand it, and that is what makes it harder to take, I did nothing wrong and we always were happy together and never argued or anything.

Anyway I suppose that is the riddle of a relationship eh.

Anyway in answer to your question I did not get snowed in Bowski, what a shame. :rotfl:

Money Fritter

Bowski_1011

Money_Fritter wrote: »

I guess the thing that really confuses me is that two months ago she said she loved me and that we were perfect for each other, then I seen her on the 28th December and opened presents for each other and I got her daughter a couple of presents to open 2. And we went out for the day and everything seemed fine, then this happens, I just dont understand it, and that is what makes it harder to take, I did nothing wrong and we always were happy together and never argued or anything.

Nothing as queer as folk MF.

Unfortunately it's people like this that ruin the future of others, it annoys me so much. The day my ex cheated on me he'd been sat there going on about how excited he was to give me my xmas present and a few weeks later I found out from my sister and his family that he was planning on organising our wedding for xmas :eek: I'm more than 4 years down the line and still no nearer ready for a relationship as I can never believe what people say, and I know not all blokes are like that but once it's happened to you its hard to let your barrier down incase the same happens. I don't think I could ever risk going through that hurt again.
So basically one bloke who is now gettting married, has one child and another on the way has ruined any chance I have of ever being happy in a couple. Which is a shame really. For me DD aswell as me as she'll always be an only child :mad:. I keep thinking I'll get better but after 4 years nothing has changed. I know it's me that has to change but I'm just going round in circles. And then when I read stories like yours and I have newly married men trying to get into me, well it just keeps reminding me I can't trust anyone :mad:

Quite possibly rant over.... but as always with me...don't get your hopes up :rotfl:

Hope everyone else is having a good day! I can't be bothered driving home today, roads are icy round here, just hope the motorway is ok. I'll just take my time.

Money_Fritter

Hi Bowski,

Sorry to hear about your situation, it must be hard raising a child on your own. I had only been going out with this girl for 9 months, but I guess when you love someone it does not matter. The real problems for me started when she split up with me the first time and went back to her ex as she had a five year old daughter with him. I did kind of understand as I was unfortunate enough to meet her not long after she had broken up with him. I was devasted but understood. But even then she kept texting me and asking me how I was. After five weeks she said she made a mistake and asked me to go out with her again. I said yes, which to be fair was a mistake. As you said, I guess I never really trusted her after that. As I dont live near her and he does I was always wondering what she was up to. Before I met her I was quite naive and would always trust people on face value, now I am not sure I will ever do that again, I am sure there are lovely women out there, but who can you trust. I guess I will be on my own for awhile and just enjoy myself and see what happens.

Take care and dont give up I am sure there is somebody nice out there for you

Money Fritter

CaroleM_3

makeup wrote: »

It took me ages to discover he played football. I just thought he was this really good looking model from a car ad!

Makeup -I was exactly the same when that ad came out

Lula-Hula wrote: »

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2009 although not brilliant, has seen me put a final nail in a bad bad bad relationship regain a lot of self worth from having counselling, get to grips with what's required in order to deal with debts, try out new things & finally get a decent ish job & also make a lot of new friends here who have always & without fail uplifted me when I am down :A
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Sounds like an amazing year to me tbh, you should be really proud of yourself for working so hard and making such progress xxx

Soz for the random commenting on old posts, you lot have been talking a lot since i last checked in! am trying to get caught up but am only up to page 96, will read the rest tomorrow.

Happy New Year all!

Mine has had an interesting start - found out today I need 2 root canals done, first one is tomorrow at 3, keep your fingers crossed for me! Has b*ggered my lovely savings plan for the year though, so I will be being considerably more frugal than I wanted. So anyway:

Heres to being Frugal and Fab in 2010! :beer:

sarahb123_3

Hello all, just went out for a pint of milk and I fell over on the ice:mad::mad::mad:. Didn't hurt myself thankfully but was very embarrassed. Luckily no one saw me, that would have been far worse.:D

Not much to report, have bought milk and squash, so £1.08 spent and finally took my books and clothes to the charity shop so I now have more room and feeling very virtuous:D.

Money_Fritter

Hello Sarahb123,

Hope you are ok and only bruised your pride. I did that a few years ago in south shields, my bum was bruised for weeks. :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Money Fritter

makeup

So update on today. Managed pretty well food-wise:

Porridge & banana
Wholegrain pasta with smoked salmon & spring onions
Orange
2 oatcakes with low fat cheese
More wholegrain pasta with brie (I know but I've got lots left from Xmas) and broccoli

I am ruining marginally by finishing off some pringles but I'm pleased with how it has has gone so far.

On another note I went to the leisure centre but spinning had been cancelled :mad:

However I've booked in for 7.30am :eek: tomorrow morning and thursday evening instead so early night for me!!!!

CaroleM - ouch! take lots of painkillers beforehand, it does hurt when the aneasthetic wears off....

sarahb123_3

Yes, the only dented thing was my pride:o. Luckily I am only small and didn't have far to fall:D.

I hope you are finding it possible to resist replying to your ex, I know it's hard but it will only drag it out and make you feel worse, it sounds like she is trying to get reassurance that you will still be there if it all falls apart with him and that is not fair on you.