Single and in Debt Part 3- The problem of surplus and excess women

SunderlandBlackCat

Lula-Hula wrote: »

Surely that's a celebration

Anyway, I've been pondering on your previous posts & am curious about a couple of things:

1 - How do we recognise a 'decent' bloke, & what is your defintion of one ?

2 - Do women really subconsciously know that man is going to to mistreat her ?

I am aware that you were emotionally raw at the time of posting but am fascinated ....

do tell

I started to reply but I'm a bit p****d & it turned into a ramble that didn't make any sense when I read it back. If you still want a reply remind me on Sunday when I''ll probably be sober.

sarahb123_3

Money_Fritter wrote: »

Thank you, you are a star.

Thanks:D

Cant believe it is christmas already, I am trying to get in the christmas spirit watching scrooge. The old one that is. That is the best one. lol

I love A Christmas Carol, you have just reminded me that I always reread it sometime over the lead up to Christmas, must root out my copy.

Money_Fritter

Yeah, I have got a few charles dickens books, I love christmas carol. it's great. lol

SunderlandBlackCat

Money_Fritter wrote: »

Hi everyone,

I am new to this thread. I hope everybody is doing well. I just have one question, which has been bugging me for some time. Why do woman always go for the bad bloke and end up getting hurt.

I have been with my girlfriend for about 9 months, The first seven months were great and then she told me she was going back to her ex, who she has a five year old daughter to. She said that deep down she loved me and wanted to be with me, but that she had to give it another go even though she did not love him, for the sake of the kid. He treated her like !!!! and she goes back to him. Then after five weeks, she asks me to be her boyfriend again, as she knew things were not right. I said yes and we are back together, but how do I know it is not going to happen again

Answers on a postcard please.

Money Fritter

Hi Money Fritter & welcome. I suspect you're a better man than I for taking her back. I'm not sure I could although I was never given the option so I don't know for sure.

Money_Fritter

Thanks Miss Num Nums,

I think I always tried to please in my previous relationships.

Think I just need to be myself and see how I go, and hey if it does not work, it seems as though there are plenty of woman on here. lol

Money Fritter

Money_Fritter

Hi Sunderland black cat,

It was very hard too take her back, but I love her, but I am well paranoid now, but hopefully that will improve with time.

Money Fritter

Money_Fritter

"Can you forgive a pig headed old fool, for having no eyes to see with and no ears to hear with all these years"

I think that is safe to say that applies to all men. LMAO

Money Fritter

SunderlandBlackCat

makeup wrote: »

I think if you are in a relationship and experiencing DV it can be really hard to break out of it. From my (professional) experience many women really struggle to leave the situation, despite the severity. Many cases of DV are both physical and emotional / mental. Many women end up feeling completely trapped and also believe the sh*t they are fed (no one else would want you, you're a waste of space, you're lucky to have me etc etc).

That's understandable but why once they've managed to get away & even proved that someone that doesn't treat them like that wants them do they go back at the 1st promise that the bloke has changed & won't do it again? Either that or they find a completely different bloke to get mistreated by.

I get what Lula said about feeling conditioned to be with the father of a child but it seems to happen whether theres a child involved or not.

SunderlandBlackCat

Money_Fritter wrote: »

Hi Sunderland black cat,

It was very hard too take her back, but I love her, but I am well paranoid now, but hopefully that will improve with time.

Money Fritter

Just noticed your location. Are you "one of us" or "one of them"?

SunderlandBlackCat

Money_Fritter wrote: »

"Can you forgive a pig headed old fool, for having no eyes to see with and no ears to hear with all these years"

I think that is safe to say that applies to all men. LMAO

Money Fritter

It's only funny cos it's true