No Honeymoon??

Horasio

We had two nights in an all inclusive hotel with a sea view in Bournemouth on two sunny days in February many years ago. It was all we could afford.

You are not going to do much sightseeing on honeymoon and we spent our time in our room, eating in the restaurant, using their indoor pool/facilities. We went into town to shop and went for a walk afterwards and went to a club in the evening.

It took us two hours to get there and had no tiring jet lag to get over.

We went to Bermuda and there was a honeymoon couple near us who had room service all week. You might as well stay somewhere nearer to home if you don't leave your room in such a lovely country, unless of course, they were locals.:D

We had our first non UK holiday in the USA five years later and it was brilliant:)

foxxymynx

shellsuit wrote: »

You're already married aren't you?

legally we are, we're getting married religiously at the end of the month.
When we got married legally there were alot of factors (mostly health related) that meant that we couldn't do what we planned, so it was always the plan to get married religiously at a later date.

shellsuit

foxxymynx wrote: »

legally we are, we're getting married religiously at the end of the month.
When we got married legally there were alot of factors (mostly health related) that meant that we couldn't do what we planned, so it was always the plan to get married religiously at a later date.

So you're married, but you're getting your marriage blessed?

A blessing is not getting married religiously though is it?

*is confused*

*BigBird*

I got married 2 weeks ago and our honeymoon was 5 days at FIL's holiday cottage. All it cost us was petrol money (and it's only 30 miles away!) and a few meals out while we were there.

If we hadn't had that opportunity, we probably wouldn't have gone anywhere. When we set the date, we knew we could save up enough money for the wedding we wanted but not much more, and neither of us was prepared to get into debt just for a flash holiday. We'd have taken the week off and just chilled out at home and maybe had a few days out. That's the important thing - chilling out after all the stress of organising a wedding and enjoying some quality time with your new husband/wife before reality hits you again. So don't get stressed about not being able to go away, just do whatever is right for you - but do take some time to relax after the wedding.

We might go away next year and call it a delayed honeymoon, finances permitting. A friend is planning on getting married in Italy, so we may combine the 2.

foxxymynx

shellsuit wrote: »

So you're married, but you're getting your marriage blessed?

A blessing is not getting married religiously though is it?

*is confused*

no, we're not just getting our marriage blessed, we're getting it convalidated (so that it is reconised in the Catholic Church). It includes signing the register again. There's very little difference really, it is getting married religiously, the whole religious ceromony, blessing of the rings, father walking me down the isle etc etc. In the eyes of the Church, we're not married and technically living in sin. This will rectify that.

We sacrificed all of our plans when we got married legally, we're going back to our original plans and having all the things that we had to sacrifice because of health etc at the time.

Some people may not agree, but to be frank, it's about us, not them and we couldn't care less what people who don't know us think.

shellsuit

foxxymynx wrote: »

no, we're not just getting our marriage blessed, we're getting it convalidated (so that it is reconised in the Catholic Church). It includes signing the register again. There's very little difference really, it is getting married religiously, the whole religious ceromony, blessing of the rings, father walking me down the isle etc etc. In the eyes of the Church, we're not married and technically living in sin. This will rectify that.

We sacrificed all of our plans when we got married legally, we're going back to our original plans and having all the things that we had to sacrifice because of health etc at the time.

Some people may not agree, but to be frank, it's about us, not them and we couldn't care less what people who don't know us think.

Ah right, was confusing me because you got married last year and mentioned this is your anniversary coming up and you call him your husband, plus mentioned that you are getting your marriage blessed. So you are married, you're just wanting to do it again at church?

I didn't know you could get married, then get married with a ceremony in church again.....and didn't know you could sign the register again!

There's a lot to learn about this marriage lark lol!!

ETA : Ahh, just been reading about it and it's not a full ceremony, that makes more sense now.

foxxymynx

LOL, we've been married a few years now, 4 years at the end of the month. We decided in August that we'd have the party that we didn't have, then we decided that, the "when I get better" senario of doing the Church thing (pants with words, just took meds, excuse me) wasn't going to happen, cause I'm not going to get better, so decided that there was no reason whatsoever not to do it this year on our anniversary, so we saw the priest and that's what we're doing. then I spent 2 weeks arranging everything and it's all sorted, ready to go..well, except a hairdresser, still need one of those

shellsuit

foxxymynx wrote: »

LOL, we've been married a few years now, 4 years at the end of the month. We decided in August that we'd have the party that we didn't have, then we decided that, the "when I get better" senario of doing the Church thing (pants with words, just took meds, excuse me) wasn't going to happen, cause I'm not going to get better, so decided that there was no reason whatsoever not to do it this year on our anniversary, so we saw the priest and that's what we're doing. then I spent 2 weeks arranging everything and it's all sorted, ready to go..well, except a hairdresser, still need one of those

Good luck on the hunt for a hairdresser! I'd love to have our marriage blessed in church and so would OH, but don't know how we'd go about that with OH not being Catholic?

We were thinking of having that at the same time we have the baby baptised, don't know if that's possible though?

You haven't got long to go now have you??

foxxymynx

thanks

no, not long now. Ask your priest about it. My OH isn't Catholic either, it's me that's the religious one I've heard of a few couples who had their marriage blessed or convalidated at their LOs baptism.

shellsuit

foxxymynx wrote: »

thanks

no, not long now. Ask your priest about it. My OH isn't Catholic either, it's me that's the religious one I've heard of a few couples who had their marriage blessed or convalidated at their LOs baptism.

I will do, it will be after we're married though otherwise Father F will wonder why we're not marrying in church lol!