Your thought's please

celyn90

Springclean, I was going to type similar, but I have nothing more to add to your post as you sum it up so well

If a man accused me of cheating, he would be out. If he questioned my loyalty, then I would know that there was nothing in our relationship any more. To get that accusation makes you feel cheap and nasty, literally like nothing, as the other person doesn't value you enough to trust you.

It does sound like she is playing games and I also consider that pathetic to be honest, but if the sole purpose of your relationship is to find evidence of her cheating, then I suggest you move on. It isn't any good for you either.

What would you do if you found what you were looking for?

ailuro2

It's a toxic relationship - winding people up when you've just made up after falling out, not telling the other bloke to lay off the silly text messages, 'thinking ' you were going to do something stupid.

That's not a healthy relationship for either of you.

Get some counselling or go your separate ways.



D O N T D R I N K & D R I V E
because that makes you lower than the lowest snake in my and most people's books.
You're both lucky to be alive after your pathetic behaviour. Get some sense before you kill some innocent bystander!!:mad:

p.s. Don't drink alcohol if it makes you an ar$3!!

Oldernotwiser

springclean wrote: »

forgive my bluntness, but i don't think either of you are mature enough for a relationship. it's all sounding very schoolyard - tit for tat, banging on doors, checking phones.

And these people are responsible for bringing up children - ye gods!

viktory

If there is no trust in a relationship then the relationship is doomed. Sounds like you have serious issues - fretting about stuff that happened a year ago is madness. If you are unable to get over events that happened a year ago, you should end the relationship.

Drinking and driving is reprehensible and completely and totally unforgivable. You & she should both thank the Gods that neither of you killed or injured someone.

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

And these people are responsible for bringing up children - ye gods!

Scary, eh? They are behaving like children themselves.

Oldernotwiser

viktory wrote: »

If there is no trust in a relationship then the relationship is doomed. Sounds like you have serious issues - fretting about stuff that happened a year ago is madness. If you are unable to get over events that happened a year ago, you should end the relationship.

Drinking and driving is reprehensible and completely and totally unforgivable. You & she should both thank the Gods that neither of you killed or injured someone.



Scary, eh? They are behaving like children themselves.

And, what's more, they seem to think that this is the normal way to behave!

Alikay

It all sounds very "Jeremy Kyle Show" to me. She was flirting with someone, you caught her out, she went off on one and drove to him drunk, you went ballistic. She came back and a year on you're asking for advice on a forum about it!

Responsible mature people in love don't behave like that. I really hope you're both using contraception!!

mikeouk

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

And these people are responsible for bringing up children - ye gods!

a little unfair I think, you cant condem someone for their parenting skills basing it on a forum post.

mummy_Jay

gareth01422 wrote: »

But my main issue is we have a child each from relationships before and there is huge pressure from both our families to split up and im at the point where if im goin to loose my family over it, I need that trust back.

Is it your GF you love or having this family unit what you love?

I get the feeling from what you said here your familes see this as unhealthy but your holding on anyway.

You both have kids, you don't trust her and its eatting away at you.

As your main issue is the kids do you believe this is a healthy adult relationship for them to grow up with? its a question only you can answer and I think you know in your heart the answer

mikeouk

ok op.

i agree with alikay, this is all abit "jeremy kyle" couldnt have put it better.

the truth is IMHO she probably did do something with this guy that night, i think deep down you know it and your just looking for a glimer of hope that it didnt. If she was not thinking straight enough to realise how wrong it was to drink drive then she certainly wouldnt have though it wrong to have sex with him.
Your only hope is to accept this and forget it. If shes still with you then she must have more feelings for you than him or she would have left you.
If you cant forgive and forget ,then get out, lifes too short to waste it on a dead end relationship.

poppyolivia

The minute she started that car up drunk I would have been on the phone to the police...she wanted to wind you up??? That would have wound her up more!!!

Seriously though you guys sound way young and its just not going to work...I'd give it up now and get on with your life...