almost quit after 1 day....

Savvy_Sue

Looks like we frightened the OP off ...

stationaryace

paulwf wrote: »

I would like to point out however that in retail quite a few new recruits last a couple of weeks then leave. Because of this existing staff can get very jaded and not be that helpful until you have "proved yourself". Expect to come across some opposition at first, you may find that experienced staff will warm to you and be prepared to spend their time and energy on you once they know you aren't going to walk out after a few shifts. Basically don't put up with a job that makes you unhappy but give it a proper trial.

In catering I've found you are lucky if people come back the next day.


btw my mum would never have said good for you, she'd have told me to go back the next day and actually give it a chance. but then i could never walk out on a job like that

charlesworth82

dont know what kind of job people have here but i wouldnt let anyone speak to me the way your supervisor did. its only your second day and its a part time job. Id just look for another job, there are loads our there for people who actually want to work

200888

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

I think, being brutally honest, that you'll be very lucky if they are willing to take you back next Saturday.

its the other way around, they would be lucky if i offered to go back in after the way i was treated, i have decided not to go back as i dont deserve to get treated like that, the other people on the iduction with me didnt talk, they were like zombies, and 2 turned up really late, i feel that i was out of place there, they are probably used to having to shout at staff to get them to do anything, but i dont find being shouted out motivating

Vader123 wrote: »

Your not trying hard enough. My local Asda (and Tesco) close at 10pm on a saturday and open at 0930 on a Sunday.

They both sell black shoes between size 6 and 12 for adults.

You had ample opportunity to buy new shoes and escape the whole "uniform" rant on your second day.

My opinion is is that if you can't put up with this kind of epiosode at work, then you will really struggle with signing on each week at the JC and accounting for your time.

i dont have an asda anywhere near me, if i was going to buy shoes, i wouldnt just buy any old pair, i would have to look for a good pair 1st and i did not have time to do that, plus she brought up things on the 2nd day she didnt bring up on the 1st day

2nd of all, im not signing on, i live at home with my parents, i dont claim benefits, obvioiusly if i was in a job that paid my bills,rent etc... then i would stay, but i am not desperate enough for the job that i am going to put up with being spoken to like that over something i said i would fix but didnt have time, you cant be serious saying i should have gone and got shoes between 5:30pm one day and 11:00am the next.....i didnt see why it was so urgent, especially if i was on the till and no-one could see my shoes anyway! i would have done it by the next week

Errata wrote: »

How likely is it that a store that's very, very busy - according to the OP - would put a student on the tills after 1 day's induction and little opportunity to take up references ?

they are obviously desperate to fill the tills, i was not on a till by myself, i was till trained and sharing a till with someone else, they did not make it clear with me if that was only the case on the 1st day or if i would be on my own till the 2nd, they didnt make that clear to me either, i didnt expect to be put on tills so early myself, i thought i would start on the shop floor then be till trained, this store in question is a very busy, budget clothes shop, if they out me on the tills the 1st/2nd day then maybe its is saying something about the company? i felt thrown in at the deep end tbh

GavB79 wrote: »

Welcome to the real world. Difficult to say only having your side of it, but even if it was as bad as you make out, walking out wasn't the way to deal with it.

i already said i didnt just walk out the door after the incident, i went straight upstairs to speak to the store manager, who just swept the situation under the rug and was telling me she would appoligise later because she was probably in a bad mood or something - you dont take out your 'bad mood' on the staff, i TRIED to get the situation sorted by management but they did not listen - and i decided that that is not the sort of place i want to work in and i told him that.... i told him i didnt think i could work there and i asked for my bag and then i left, i didnt just disappear

im not doing part time work for the money, i dont need the money i was just trying to get some employment to put on my cv, i dont see why i should have to spend month and months in misery being made to feel like !!!!! just to put it on a cv when i am doing a degree and have other things going on in my life anyway...

i must make it clear that if i had the job for longer, of course i wouldnt have just walked out...it was my 2nd morning and i saw the store managers and supervisors true colours and decide to get out while i could

i was made to feel like a spectacle when she was calling other supervisors over to look at me and saying "look at his uniform, he cant go on the tills like that!!!" she brought other supervisors into it as well and it made me feel awful, but then the store manager said my uniform was fine...she i cant understand why she thought it was so bad yet the manager didnt....it just all came as a shock

i knew my post was going to divide people, there are people that are going to say "toughen up, get used to it, this is what its like" but others will think "good for you for not putting up with it and having enought self respect and self worth to not have to think thats what you should expect from work" i dont believe anyone should have to be forced to do a job where staff are intimidating/bullying, its not good for employees health...

also, i think i need to get it clear that i WANTED to work there, not NEEDED to work there, hence why i didnt let myself be bullied by staff as i didnt NEED the job and i didnt NEED to be treated like that

i know its the recession and people cant find work but feel free to take the position i left! see how you find it, oh and as for the cv comments, im just going to leave it out of my cv

what i am going to do is buy a pair of nice black shoes and a pair of nice black trousers (i am not just going to buy the 1st/cheapest pair of black shoes i can find, i'll buy something i feel good in) before i apply for anything else, i ought to own a pair of black shoes and black trousers anyway, so at least they are there if i ever need them, i suppose this experience has taught me something, its just that in the field that i am studying in (animal management) i havnt been required ever to wear black shoes or trousers....so i simply didnt own any

plus can i make a point - the job came up and i started way sooner than i had expected it too - i just handed in my application of the off-chance there wasnt a vacancy advertised, they could have helped by proving the FULL LIST of uniform BEFORE i started, all they told me was the colour of shirt before i started, so how was i supposed to prepare? i feel like i was set up to fail, also we are forgetting the bag incident, when i asked her where i could leave my bag thats when she 1st started shouting at me...when it was her who took me through the induction the day before....why can i not ask a question without being yelled at? who would want to work somewhere like that? it wasnt just a case of my shoes that made me leave, it was the bag thing, shoes thing, trousers thing (which was news to me as she didnt have a problem with them the day before) then the managers not giving a toss...dont forget it all added up, this is a company that does not provide a uniform yet she was having me a go about it on the 2nd morning when i only got the full list the day before and was in the store until it closed...isnt that a contradiction and should have allowed me a week to get it sorted (keeping in mind i volunteer and go to university also)

sorry if there are any typos in this, i wrote it quickly as there was a lot to repond to, you get the jist of what i mean anyway

pinkshoes

I know they treated you badly, but seriously, welcome to the real world!!

I also think you handled this badly, and you can often get treated this way in "proper" graduate jobs. SO many people handle stress badly, and take it out on their employees.

For your own self respect and to prove you can do it, you should go back, apologise, and get on with the job. There will be many situations in life when you have to do what you're told.

Only a couple of months ago I got treated like cr*p at work, and rather than running away, I made the person in question apologise to my face infront of my boss.

If you'd stuck around and got to know people, you'd probably find that at some point the others would have sided with you, and you'd all have had a good moan in the staff room or down the pub.

fakeplastictwee

200888 wrote: »

...i dont see why i should have to spend month and months in misery being made to feel like !!!!! just to put it on a cv when i am doing a degree and have other things going on in my life anyway...

Months and months? I think it's more that you just didn't give it chance and walked out at the first hurdle. You're right, no one should be spoken to in that way, but that fact that you didn't give it chance, (especially after another member of staff had pretty much stuck up for you in saying the supervisor was probably having a bad day) doesn't really do you any favours. Learning to resolve issues with other colleagues is an important part of working life, and unfortunately there's quite a few people like the monster you came across!

Maybe you should put it down to experience, just bear it in mind for the next time you find yourself in a sticky situation.

Blackpool_Saver

flaming eck is this thread still going? oh yes and I deliberately left the h off heck !!!

poet123

It is always good to be able to stand up for yourself, but the is a difference between doing so in situations where it is really required, and doing so in situations which you perceive to be more serious than others do. This is one such occasion, maybe the Supervisor spoke to you sharply, maybe you weren't informed what the full dress code was at induction, etc etc, but all of that put together does not warrant you throwing in the towel with a job.

You need to learn to cope with such issues , not run away, tbh it comes across as if you have a very high regard for yourself. Again, no bad thing, however there is high regard, and then there is an over inflated sense of self worth, you seeem to be erring on the side of the latter. The fact that you saw no urgency in obtaining shoes, would only get them after consideration, and at a time you saw fit, aptly demonstrates this attitude to me. Black work shoes need no careful choosing, a cheap pair would have sufficed. Nor does an employer care that you volunteer and go to Uni, that is not their business, that you feel these points somehow mean you should get special dispensation to shop for shoes when it suits. is again quite revealing.

When you finish your degree and enter the world of work for real, you will still encounter such people, and such expectations, and you will still be ill equipped to deal with them. Accepting the job, and its demands at this stage would have stood you in good stead for the future.

I think that many parents bring their kids up to believe that as they are the centre of their world, everyone will feel that way about them, they over praise modest achievements, and instill in them an expectation which is unrealistic. Confidence is a great thing, over confidence, and misplaced confidence is not. As a parent we all want to raise confident kids, but we do them no favours by praising to the skies achievements which we took for granted when we were younger, we do them no favours by telling them they are always right, we do them no favours by giving them the wherewithall to walk away when the going gets tough.

I think this is one such case, where the OP should have been told by his parents that he should go back and get on with the job, whether he needed the money or not.

Rockporkchop

OP - I didn't realise you could get an internet connection from the top of an ivory tower.

2234

poet123 wrote: »

It is always good to be able to stand up for yourself, but the is a difference between doing so in situations where it is really required, and doing so in situations which you perceive to be more serious than others do. This is one such occasion, maybe the Supervisor spoke to you sharply, maybe you weren't informed what the full dress code was at induction, etc etc, but all of that put together does not warrant you throwing in the towel with a job.

You need to learn to cope with such issues , not run away, tbh it comes across as if you have a very high regard for yourself. Again, no bad thing, however there is high regard, and then there is an over inflated sense of self worth, you seeem to be erring on the side of the latter. The fact that you saw no urgency in obtaining shoes, would only get them after consideration, and at a time you saw fit, aptly demonstrates this attitude to me. Black work shoes need no careful choosing, a cheap pair would have sufficed. Nor does an employer care that you volunteer and go to Uni, that is not their business, that you feel these points somehow mean you should get special dispensation to shop for shoes when it suits. is again quite revealing.

When you finish your degree and enter the world of work for real, you will still encounter such people, and such expectations, and you will still be ill equipped to deal with them. Accepting the job, and its demands at this stage would have stood you in good stead for the future.

I think that many parents bring their kids up to believe that as they are the centre of their world, everyone will feel that way about them, they over praise modest achievements, and instill in them an expectation which is unrealistic. Confidence is a great thing, over confidence, and misplaced confidence is not. As a parent we all want to raise confident kids, but we do them no favours by praising to the skies achievements which we took for granted when we were younger, we do them no favours by telling them they are always right, we do them no favours by giving them the wherewithall to walk away when the going gets tough.

I think this is one such case, where the OP should have been told by his parents that he should go back and get on with the job, whether he needed the money or not.

Very true, at the age of 15 I went out and got a job, and there aren't many places where you can get a job at that age. I worked for £20 for 8 hours, with no lunch break, and this was only 4 years ago. The point is, I definitely wasn't doing it for the money, I was doing it for the pride. I loved getting up and going to work, yeah it was a terrible job, and even though it was a clothes shop in the middle of town, if any of my friends came in and said hello, I got a pound deducted from my pay :rolleyes: even if I didn't reply! But it taught me to have a good work ethic, get out of bed and, no offense to you, stop sponging off my parents and stand on my own two feet. Now at uni, I'm still working long hours to pay for my rent, because my parents simply can't afford to pay me through uni, not that I would ever ask them to.

So when you move out after you graduate, what do you expect if you have to take a similar job? You say you're not aiming for a career in retail, but sometimes you have to take what you can get. Do you expect you can go back to your parents if you don't like your boss, or everytime you have an argument with them? That's no way to act, you need to have a bit of pride in your job, not necesarily for the money, but for yourself.